How to judge whether a cheating man is worthy of forgiveness? Should he "talk about his heart" or "talk about his deeds"?
In traditional Chinese thought, when measuring a person's moral level, there is a difference between "discourse" and "discourse".
On the mind, it refers to judging the superiority of morality according to a person's heart and the starting point of what he does.
Discourse refers to the evaluation of whether a person violates morality by his actual actions and the effect of doing things.
Its practicality is the same in extramarital affairs, whether the man is fresh for a while, or if he is moved by true feelings, the wives will know "on the heart".
Whether the cheating man can completely solve the problem of breaking up with the mistress, the wives need to "talk about the deeds".
"On the heart", the cheating man has no true feelings for the mistress, and he can retract his feelings for the mistress.
"On the tracks", the cheating man is indeed acting, breaking up with the little one, and returning to the family.
This kind of cheating man is the cheating man whose wives can forgive.
Previously, an original partner consulted Su Yue and said that her husband had broken up with Xiao San.
Although the mistress has been pestering, the cheating man has not wavered and has not taken care of the mistress.
and behaved very guilty about the original partner, and has been pleasing and compensating the original wife.
She asked Su Yue if she should forgive the cheating man, is this cheating man worthy of forgiveness?
This original partner is not the first to ask this kind of question, and it will not be the last.
As long as the original partner who solves the extramarital affair, there will be such confusion during the return period of the cheating man.
Is the cheating man worthy of forgiveness, should he be forgiven after the man apologizes, admits his mistakes, and makes amends?
Su Yue believes that the original partners want to continue their marriage and live a good life with cheating men.
Instead of having a knot all the time, and continuing to live a life.
It is necessary to find the right opportunity to forgive the cheating man and maintain the relationship between husband and wife.
But not all cheating men are worthy of forgiveness, and wives still need to be judged.
What kind of cheating man is worthy of forgiveness?
Su Yue believes that the main thing is to see the psychology of cheating men, as well as the psychology of cheating men.
This cheating man really wants to return to the family, and he also thinks that cheating is a mistake.
is willing to bear the price that should be borne for making mistakes, and he doesn't care whether he has feelings for Xiao San or not.
Once you choose to return to the family, you really break the mind of cheating.
This kind of "argument on the mind" is a situation that can be forgiven.
In addition to the psychology of cheating men, wives should also pay attention to the heartbeat of cheating men,
Otherwise, what the cheating man wants in his heart is to break up with the junior, but he still continues to cheat on the mistress in action.
Tell the original partner that he thinks he is wrong, but he will not compensate his wife, and even hurt his wife.
This kind of "deed" is not worthy of forgiveness,
No matter how good you think in your heart, it's useless, and if you don't put it into action, it's not worth forgiving.
In addition, it takes a certain amount of time for wives to forgive cheating men.
Many cheating men are very good at disguising themselves, that is, pretending to admit their mistakes in psychology and action.
They seem to be really breaking up with the junior, and they are really compensating their wives and returning to the family.
Actually, they're just trying to get their wives not to make a big deal out of it.
It's just to avoid the loss caused by the extramarital affair, so it's pretending to be.
Once the wife is easily forgiven, the cheating man will act for a while, and his true face will be exposed.
Cheating men need to be tested, and wives can't choose to forgive based on their words and deeds for a while.
There may be some original partners who will say that cheating men can't stand the test.
After a period of time, the wife does not forgive, and the cheating man begins to blame his wife and keeps thinking about extramarital affairs.
Life can't go on, what should I do?
This just proves that cheating men are not truly repentant, they have all acted out before.
A cheating man who really knows that he is wrong and wants to repent,
They will atone for their sins and will find a way to make amends to their wives, even if it takes a while for her to forgive.
Cheating men will also take it for granted and will not be dissatisfied with it.
Wives don't be too anxious to forgive, and don't doubt your own choices because of the bad reaction of the cheating man.
If the cheating man can't stand the test and proves that he doesn't really return, he shouldn't be forgiven.
In the end, it is not that after forgiveness, the relationship between husband and wife, married life will return to normal,
The cheating will leave a big shadow on the damage to the wife.
When wives say forgiveness to cheating men, don't say it too absolutely.
You can say you want to forgive, but it's too painful to be cheated on.
There may also be some sequelae, so there will be emotional loss of control later.
Suspicious, saying some bad things to cheating men,
It's not a reversal, it's the sequelae of an extramarital affair, and the original partner will work hard to overcome it.
Cheating men also need to cooperate, be more patient, and work together to solve it.
A cheating man who is willing to cooperate and can understand is a cheating man worthy of forgiveness.
Many times, the most terrible thing about an affair is the deception of a cheating man.
He pretended to break off with Xiao San, pretended to feel guilty about his wife, and wanted to return to the family.
Once the wives believe it, they can easily forgive the cheating man, and in exchange for the betrayal of the cheating man.
The cheating man feels that the original partner has no bottom line and principles, so he will treat the original partner more arrogantly.
But there are also some cheating men who really want to live a good life with their original partners.
If wives persist in not forgiving, it may eventually lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
Therefore, whether it should be forgiven or not needs to be judged by the standard, and it also needs to be determined according to one's own situation.
A cheating man can be forgiven for being truly repentant, but for a cheating man to be forgiven, it is not easy to forgive.
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