The father is the heaven and the pen, giving guidance to people; the mother is the earth, is the ink, and warms people's hearts.
The child's growth is like the growth of a seedling, the father's truth is insecticide, and the mother's feelings are nutritional fat.
Without insecticides, the saplings will turn yellow; without nutrient fertilizer, the saplings will wither. Whether it is an insecticide or a nutritional fertilizer, we must pay attention to the amount.
The father is reasonable but not strong, and the mother is affectionate but not doting, which is the true happiness of the child.
First, the father's truth is the child's wings
Fathers are more rational than mothers.
Men have more advantages than women in terms of strength, rational thinking, etc. In a family, the father is the "authority" of the family, they are the pillars of the family.
As the locomotive of the family, fathers have more experience and more insight.
The father is the first male that children come into contact with, and in the eyes of the children, every father is a superman, a symbol of wisdom.
As a male template in the eyes of children, fathers shoulder the heavy responsibility of guiding children to correctly understand the world.
Montaigne once said: "The greatest pleasure of being a father is that in his lifetime, he can inspire and educate his children according to the path he has traveled." ”
The father's principle is the child's wings, instructing the child how to fly and where he can fly.
According to the survey, if a child's growth path is missing the guidance of the father, his view of right and wrong may be affected.
They will grow up without a sense of rules, rampage, and willfulness.
Fathers need to be reasonable, but not too aggressive.
Reasoning is to put wings on the child, and strong rules are to chain the child's development.
Families need respect, not unconditional obedience.
Fathers can give guidance to their children from the side and explain principles to their children in the general direction, but they cannot determine their children's lives.
Don't make decisions for the child in everything, learn to listen to the child's opinions, after all, the child's road must be walked by himself.
If the father is too strong, family life will become relatively indifferent, and children who grow up in this environment are either too cowardly or extremely rebellious, and may also form a dual personality.
During Fu Cong's study abroad, Fu Lei wrote many letters to his son. Each letter is a summary of my father's experience and a precious life lesson.
In his letter, Fu Lei taught his son to be strict in his work and to be humble in his dealings with others. In addition to these principled requirements, in terms of life and study, Fu Lei did not have too many requirements.
Second, the mother's feelings are the child's umbrella
There are many factors that affect growth in a person's life, among which the influence of mothers is far-reaching and irreplaceable.
We often say that "for the mother is strong", the mother can get courage from the child, in fact, the mother is also the child's greatest source of confidence and courage.
Women are rich in feelings and delicate in their hearts, and they are more likely to communicate with their children.
The love of the mother is like a protective umbrella, with this love, the children can be afraid of the wind and rain.
Freud once said, "I have found that people who think they are liked or favored by their mothers will show confidence in themselves in life, unshakable optimism, often appear heroic, and always achieve real success." ”
In real life, many adults who lack confidence and are afraid of their heads and tails can trace their reasons back to the lack of maternal love in their childhood.
Some scientists say that the way mothers care for their children can determine their mental health as adults.
Mother caresses can permanently alter a baby's genetic activity and have long-term effects on her behavior and mental health.
The mother is the person who spends the longest time with the child, and the child feels the mother's love, which will make the child realize his own value and produce a sense of self-identity.
If you do not feel the love of your mother in the process of growing up, your child will become inferior and sensitive.
Mothers are indispensable, but they cannot be spoiled. Moderate maternal love is the child's protective umbrella, and excessive coddling will become a poisonous apple on the child's growth path.
While praising the child and praising the child, it is also necessary to say "no" to the child's unreasonable requirements and behavior; while caring for the child and providing appropriate help to the child, we must also encourage the child to do what he should do independently.
Yang Dai called Zhu Meifu a gentle wife and a loving mother, and Zhu Meifu was indeed like this. She has a gentle personality and never skimps on expressing and giving her love to her children. But this love does not break the rules that children should follow.
The father's truth is the wind, which determines the height of the child's growth; the mother's feelings, which are the water, determine the thickness of the child's heart.
The father is reasonable, and the mother values feelings, which is the true happiness of the child.
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