Days with The Book of Fu Lei's Family | 2020

On December 29, 2020, it was learned that Fu Lei's son Fu Cong died in the United Kingdom due to the new crown at the age of 86. At this moment, in Zibo, there is still snow flying in the sky. Because of this news, I was very sad, and the snowflakes brought me to the days with the "Fu Lei Family Book".

Before the "Book of Fu Lei's Family", it should be said that I rarely read books. Later, because the children went to school, sometimes they only watched a little. Before that, I remember reading a copy of "Huawei Decade", because it was somewhat similar to the company's business development.

In addition, I read books that are cloudy with some people, such as "If You Are Okay, It's Sunny". It wasn't until one day, at my father-in-law's house, that I found the slightly burnt book of Fu Lei's Family, that I began to slowly know what books I should read.

What books a person reads first often starts with the most interested and closely related to their own lives. At that time, I was struggling to find a book to read with my children. The bits and pieces of Fu Lei and his son Fu Cong just fit me.

Looking at the situation now, to be honest, I don't think my children and I are suitable for reading. The reason is that I have not yet accumulated a certain amount of literature, let alone understand Fu Lei, the profound interpretation of literature and art, especially the unique insight of the piano. In the end, all I could understand was the tone of his conversation with Fu Cong, and the great truth in the book, like a conversation between me and my child. So, on this premise, I read it with my children.

In the process of reading the first time, I saw only a few points of view. Here's an excerpt to see if it moves you:

For the perfection of man, he said so, and the most important thing about man is still

"The kindness of nature, the warmth of nature, the open-mindedness. With these three things, the others can be cultivated gradually. ”

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For writing he said:

"A person's thoughts are unlikely to be systematic without writing; after a long time, they will be let go, or even forgotten, it is a pity!"

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Of his character, he said:

"Because I've always done things all my life, always the first confession, the second confession, the third confession. Going around in circles, dodging and dodging, it is easy to make people suspicious; you play tricks, it is better to be honest and honest, to tell the truth, as long as the attitude is sincere, humble, and respectful, no matter what, people will not treat you. ”

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For the cultivation of Yizhi's leisure,

"The realm of tranquility, tranquility, and non-concentration in the heart can only be obtained from the natural world," "Only those who are constantly intimate with the forest, the stream, the flowers and trees, the birds and beasts, the insects and fish, and the masterpieces in the art museum will always maintain the ideal of childlike heart, purity and beauty."

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There is also a summary of the Chinese literati,

"In China, a person who has truly been well-educated and who has been educated by our best traditions and cultures will, unconsciously, naturally not seek fame and fortune, not seek vanity, and be satisfied with a solemn and noble life, but materially quite poor."

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What do you think when you see this? And these are just his corners. But it is this sporadic point that has given us a clear concept from many aspects such as being a person, writing, self-cultivation, and Chinese literati.

Of course, there must be more content waiting for us to dig, why do you say so? I tried to summarize a few points as follows:

First, as I said earlier, this is a dialogue between the Father and the Son. From his father's point of view, he should have spoken his heartfelt words to Fu Cong with great love. It's an instinct to be a father. So, it's worth learning.

Second, for Fu Cong's piano study, he has devoted too much thought to the comprehensive cultivation of his mind. Not only did he have a good literary and artistic foundation, but in the study of Chinese and Western culture, he was not mostly a take-ism like most of the new ideological figures in the early twentieth century. Therefore, some of his views and practices are still worth pondering for us now.

Third, in the book, he recommends a lot of literature, art, and good works. For example, those who understand Western culture, Danner's Philosophy of Art, his translation of John. Christophe", Russell's "The Road to Happiness", "Chaplin's Autobiography", etc.

Those who study Chinese culture include "The New Language of the World", "Words and Sayings in the World", "Selected Words of song", "History of the Development of Chinese Literature", etc., and there are too many good books he recommends. These books have plenty of options for readers who have no sense of direction. It can be said that it is a small encyclopedia of life culture learning.

Fourth, the span of several decades in the "Fu Lei Family Letter", although we are not him, but the way of handling some things, such as the relationship between husband and wife, father and son, wife and children, in-laws and daughters-in-law, and the relationship with other people in society, all tell us with real ink and ink that it is not difficult to convince people if we are cultivated beforehand. Everyone can't work very hard, let alone everyone like Fu Lei, who is full of wisdom. So, learning is always on the way.

Personally, I've read it three times. Both my own character and the impact on me and my children have been revealed. I read a lot of the books mentioned in the "Book of Fu Lei's Family", and my personal cultivation has also changed, he said:

"If you don't care about choosing words well, in the long run, your thoughts will become chaotic, monotonous, dull, colorless, lifeless. There is nothing more influential than our language in the way we think. ”

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The dead are like sifu! Fu Cong's death proves that "time flows like a river." "The ruthlessness. At the end of 2020, the protagonist of the book finally came to an end. They were so far away from me, so close to me, and when they sighed a little, it was more of a gratitude to their father and son.

I hope that they can know that in the distance, there is a father and son in Zibo, who will remember that the two of them have left the warmest light of father and son in the world, and this light is warming the cold winter of the world and reaching the future.

2020/12/29Fu Cong passed away with a feeling