As we all know, the "Fu Lei Family Letter" is a letter written by the modern translator and literary critic Fu Lei and his wife to their son Fu Cong and daughter-in-law Mila between 1954 and May 1966, edited by the second son Fu Min. Since the first publication of The Book of Fu Lei in 1981, it has been a bestseller for more than three decades. In April 2020, it was also included in the junior high school section of the "Catalogue of Reading Guidance for Primary and Secondary School Students (2020 Edition)" of the Textbook Development Center of the Basic Education Curriculum of the Ministry of Education.
Fu Lei oil painting
Today's topic is: "Fu Lei Family Letter" in addition to a good tutoring book, in fact, it also fully shows the fundamental change in the concept of a father (Fu Lei) godson, the following from this perspective to share with you "Fu Lei Family Book".
First, the genetic way of tutoring
Fu Lei was born on April 7, 1908 in Zhoupu Town, Nanhui, Jiangsu Province. Because he lost his father at an early age, Little Fu Lei was raised by his mother, although his mother was virtuous, but very assertive, and was a very extreme person, she had a super control over Fu Lei, not only often physically punished and beat him, and even hung up to threaten Fu Lei to study seriously.
Fu Lei, who grew up in such an educational environment, had a very tragic childhood, which resulted in Fu Lei's personality defects, and after becoming an adult, he also inherited his mother's tutoring style and educated his children in the same way.
Fu Leizhao
When the two sons, Fu Cong and Fu Min, were young, Fu Lei rarely played and talked with them, nor did he like their mischievous behavior. As a result, the two brothers were always cautious in front of their fathers and did not dare to be willful. Due to Fu Lei's fiery temperament, the two brothers were often beaten.
Once, when Fu Lei reprimanded Fu Cong, he actually picked up the saucer containing mosquito coils and threw it over, just smashing it on the bridge of his nose, and the blood immediately flowed like a note; another time, Fu Cong peeked at "Water Margin" while practicing the piano, who knew that two floors apart, Fu Lei could actually hear something strange, and immediately went downstairs to yell at Fu Cong, frightening his son to scatter. Father and son have had many unpleasant encounters.
Second, the father's reflection gave birth to the "Fu Lei Family Letter"
However, it was his father's strict teachings that allowed Fu Cong not only to inherit Fu Leiganglie's and studious personality, but also to create a good achievement in his hobby: piano. In a competition in 1953, he won the third prize for his solo performance and was so angry that he threw the bronze medal on the ground. Two years later, in the "Fifth Chopin International Piano Competition", Fu Cong finally won the only "Mazouga" Best Award.
Fu Cong photo
Fu Cong's fame shocked the music scene from then on, and after the game, he also got the opportunity to study in Poland, leaving Yan's father's home in 1954 to study piano in Poland. The sudden departure of the son made the father lose the opportunity to "teach by example", and the former harsh father, after making a deep reflection, decided to use "words" to communicate with his son, which gave birth to the "Fu Lei Family Letter".
Third, completely change the way of godson
The objective reality of his son's departure from his side, as well as Fu Lei's profound reflection on his past way of teaching his son, made him decide to completely change the previous way of education from a rough tutor to a way of discussion and communication with his son's friends. "Fu Lei's Family Letter" fully shows the theme content of Fu Lei's change in tutoring methods.
First of all, Fu Lei soberly realized that he had been grumpy before, and if his son continued this style, even if he was a genius, he would be hated by people and it would be difficult to gain a foothold in the circle. One day, he will project the (grumpy temper) that his parents have imposed on him onto someone else. It must cause harm to oneself and to others. Therefore, he resolutely decided to communicate with his son as a friend on an equal footing.
Fu Lei and Fu Cong
Secondly, Fu Lei believes that when educating children, they are required not to follow the tide of life and life, but should have their own ideas, their own suggestions, but also to cultivate independent thinking and independent personality in learning and career. Parents should leave more options to their children. In this way, when children face more choices in the future, they will not lose more opportunities because of the lack of independence and autonomy.
Moreover, Fu Lei said in the "Fu Lei Family Letter": "Whether it is to learn or to make art, the top priority is to first try to play a person as well as possible, and before becoming a certain family, we must first learn to be a person; otherwise, no matter how clever so-and-so is, it will not make much contribution to mankind."
In Fu Lei's concept of education, the cultivation of people's moral quality is more important than the cultivation of technology and knowledge, he believes: being a person should have both moral integrity and ability and put morality first, for artists, the most fundamental of excellent moral quality, only with a noble moral quality can we create noble works of art.
Fu Lei's family letter
In addition, the "Fu Lei Family Letter" emphasizes: to tell children to remember to be happy no matter what; to make children believe in "truth, goodness and beauty".
Children should be warned that despite the ruthlessness of life, we ourselves should try our best to change ourselves, give people less pain, give people more happiness. Because a sound personality is often able to deal with problems more actively when encountered.
Of course, this requires our parents to constantly increase their children's vision and insight, help their children to contact some high-quality books, courses and positive energy, release bad emotions in a timely manner, and help children build a strong heart.
Because art is derived from reality and is higher than reality, but the core idea of "truth, goodness and beauty" will not become, let children have a sensitive heart, willing to perceive the truth, goodness and beauty of the world, rather than prematurely let them see those ugly and unbearable, try their best to build a sense of security for children, do not let the young age be pessimistic and world-weary. That is to say, we must believe in love, pass on love, believe in truth, goodness and beauty, and let children see a colorful and joyful world.
Fu Lei photo
The timely change in the way Fu Lei taught his son played a very good effect, and his son Fu Cong eventually grew into a world piano master. The "Book of Fu Lei's Family" has also become a typical teaching material taught by later generations.
In short, in addition to being a very good tutoring book, "Fu Lei's Family Letter" actually fully demonstrates the fundamental improvement of a father's (Fu Lei's) godchildren's concept, and in addition to studying and drawing on the correct godson methods of "Fu Lei's Family Book", we should also correct incorrect educational methods in a timely manner, put an end to sticks, rough and other wrong education methods, be true friends with children, communicate on an equal footing, follow good inducements, combine words with deeds, and strive to cultivate our next generation into outstanding successors in the cause of building the motherland , strive for the prosperity and strength of thousands of generations.
Fu Cong, son of world piano master Fu Lei
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