A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier; a boy who doesn't stick to his mother is not a good boy! ”
Seemingly witty and funny words, but they tell the voices of many parenting boys' mothers.
But did you know that children are extra clingy to their mothers, just appearances, and there are many psychological hints behind them.
Why do boys love "sticky mothers"? The psychological hint behind it, when the mother should read
Do all boys have the common problem that they always give certain privileges to people they like and trust, and many things must be done by name?
The son of his girlfriend, who is less than four years old, is such a "sticky baby". The little guy is clingy, the most important performance is to have a roll call in advance, obviously there are many candidates to choose from, but the mother is always the first place.
His way of companionship is also simple and rough: wherever his mother goes, he follows him, from the living room to the bedroom, to the kitchen and even the bathroom, and the poor girlfriend has almost nowhere to avoid.
The girlfriend husband looked at the clingy son, and shouted with some anger: They are so big, why do they still stick to their mother every day, aren't they shy? Xiao Tiantian didn't care, directly into his mother's arms, and muttered in his mouth, "I am my mother's little tail, I am my mother's little tail." ”
Do you have the same baby in your family? Every morning before going out to work, a crying scene of life and death has become a fixed "drama code";
At home, I can't do without myself for a minute, and even directly deprive myself of my precious "freedom to go to the toilet";
When there is nothing to do, he will use the "Ultimate Great Summoning Technique", and he is like a rubber candy with sticky teeth, where to go.
The reason why the child is so clingy, there are many hints behind it, as a mother, you must read it:
First of all, please rest assured that it is normal for children to become more "clingy" when they grow up.
Our baby, when it is about 6 months old, will have the phenomenon of "acknowledging life", and the most obvious reaction is to see strangers crying, inseparable from people close to them. Many babies will cry once they find their parents out of sight, which is what we often call "separation anxiety".
The first peak period of separation anxiety, about 12 to 18 months, will slowly alleviate after 18 months; as the baby grows up, it ushers in the first major event in life - kindergarten, and the second anxiety peak period arrives as promised.
Psychological research believes that stickiness and separation anxiety are inevitable events in the process of baby's emotional development. The reason why children cling to their mothers is that they use their mothers as a "safe base" and come to seek comfort whenever they feel afraid and lonely.
This point just shows from the side that the baby loves the mother very much and has established a good attachment relationship with the mother. We may wish to think of it this way: clingy is actually a sign of the baby's growth.
Children are clingy and have their own sweet side, but for many mothers, it is also a big burden.
While accepting the sticky baby, we must also make a "strategic adjustment" to change this phenomenon slightly
"Teammates" can not be less: most families take care of their children, and the mother is always the first choice. Under the one-stop service of "eating, reading, and sleeping", the mother changes things like God's Zhuge Liang in seconds, especially knowing how to do it to make the child more comfortable; smart mothers can even capture the subtle changes in the child's expression and analyze what the child wants from it.
With such five-star treatment, the child naturally feels that "the mother loves me the most and knows me the most", and has an attachment to the mother, and must find the mother when encountering anything.
In response to this situation, dads should be more actively involved in parenting. There are many advantages for fathers to bring up their babies, because men are not as attentive and comprehensive as women, and they are more able to cultivate their children's independence; many fathers will not be completely child-centered like mothers. More contact with the father, the child will slowly adapt to the different "baby mode", which is very beneficial to their social development.
In-depth interpretation of baby psychology: Many mothers have found that when their children arrive in an unfamiliar environment, they become very timid and especially like to stick to their side.
When the baby feels afraid, the mother should neither complain about the child's timidity, nor push him out. The right thing to do is to be more patient with your baby and let him adapt to the new environment a little bit. When you have enough security, your baby will turn passive into active and explore new worlds.
Of course, this is a step-by-step process.
For example, the mother takes the child to play with the children in the same community, and begins to accompany the baby until he integrates into the new small group, and then slowly lets go, rather than arbitrarily saying: "It's so big, you don't need your mother to accompany you" and so on.
At the end of the day, babies are clingy and have something to do with a lack of security. The so-called sense of security comes more from the high-quality companionship and timely comfort of parents.
With a sense of security, the baby will naturally transform from a timid and sticky baby to a brave man!
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