Many adults at the end of the year the sense of stress continues to rise, work goals are not completed, the New Year with a large amount of gifts, work and family pressure produces self-blame and panic psychology, there is a "year-end worry".
"The World Health Organization reports that there are 41 million people with anxiety disorders and 54 million people with depression in China. Globally, 11% of adolescents and children suffer from anxiety disorders. The number of children who engage in extreme behaviors because of anxiety and depression is increasing year by year, and the number is staggering. ”
Children's worries also require parental attention. The child's semester in school is also coming to an end, worried that the grades will not keep up, the tasks assigned by the teacher have not been completed, the learning goals set are still gaps, and the comparison between classmates feels backward. Negative behavioral thoughts that lead to children not wanting to go to school, loss of appetite, and reticence.
How to do a good job of psychological adjustment for children?
1. Help your child affirm themselves
"Self-suggestion is positive and negative. Positive psychological cues make people full of confidence and have a good mood, which can play a role in alleviating muscle tension and emotional anxiety; negative psychological cues will affect people's logic, mood and judgment, and are more likely to disrupt people's physiological functions. ”
The reason why children have worried about the end of the semester shows that the child's own goals are pursued.
First of all, consider the rationality of the goal setting in combination with the child's own situation. For example, talk to your child about what goals you feel are not completed, whether you can slow down, divide into small goals in stages, and then put them into action to achieve it step by step.
Parents should then assist the child with positive self-suggestion. In the face of dissatisfaction, we must maintain a peaceful state of mind, tell ourselves that "I can make progress" and "I can learn well" and other positive self-suggestions, replacing negative self-suggestions such as "I always fail the test" and "I am not the material for learning".
Finally, don't be too yourself. Help children objectively and positively see their own growth process, how much progress has been made this semester, what honors have been obtained, what goals have been completed, and how well they have been completed? You can find objective and uncontrollable external reasons, parents should not feel too much that it is the child's own problem, and make a reasonable evaluation of the child's efforts.
2. Help your child release emotions
"The long-term accumulation of negative emotions can lead to psychological imbalances and affect physical and mental health. Reasonable catharsis is an important way to ensure emotional stability and psychological balance. Through the observation of the child, gradually guide the child's emotional management ability. ”
First, recognize and express emotions. For example, you can draw a picture of "my emotional little monster", or inflate a "small balloon of emotions", understand the source of the child's emotions together, talk about the child's inner words, let the child know and express his emotions, and understand the child more deeply together, communication is also a good recipe for releasing bad emotions.
Then, divert your attention. Let the child shift from the worry that causes negative emotions to other things to prevent the negative consequences of being exacerbated by persistent bad emotions. For example, think about how to effectively improve the learning progress and transform fear into motivation for learning.
Finally, develop hobbies. Cultivating a favorite interest in children can be playing basketball, singing, listening to music, etc., releasing pressure from hobbies and interests, and finding a sense of pleasure to satisfy themselves.
Seezon concluded:
Another year has passed, parents should adjust their own at the same time, do not ignore the child's "year-end worries". Try to spread your eyes to the people and things you like, be a wise parent, understand the "emotional language" of your child, release bad emotions, and be sunny and happy every day.
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