The sudden "epidemic" has brought everyone all kinds of surprises, not only to reserve various disinfection and protective equipment, but also to endure all kinds of frustrations that cannot go out. Not only that, the "divine beast" in the home is even more in a variety of situations, which is not an increase in emotional fluctuations for parents. It is always necessary to solemnly meditate on "it is biological", "it is biological" and "it is biological" three times in your heart to alleviate the "small universe" that is about to erupt.
Recently, Yi Tong Center has brought one-on-one online expert guidance to parents to help parents better lead their children to carry out home rehabilitation training. In the process of communication with parents, many parents are "eager to start school", and they have said that they can't stand the heart of not opening school again, and the emotions of parents can be described as "very high".
How could I not teach him?
Why didn't he just cooperate?
As soon as he asked him to do his homework, he found all kinds of reasons, I didn't want to write, I wanted to go to the toilet, I wanted to watch TV.
Let when I finish my homework, always grind and rub, let me catch fire?
Seeing these problems of parents, teachers sometimes feel as if there is a big child in front of them, and the picture that appears in their minds is that these older children and a group of young children are fighting wits and courage on the desktop, but they are always taken away by our little clever ghosts, so that the older you sit on the table, there is no way to start, there is no way to mouth, the anger rises, and the temper soars.
For me, the parents and big babies, the teacher really often jokes with them, express the child to my house, how cute our children are, how good to bring, how can it make you so anxious?
In fact, at the beginning of the anxious mood, parents can take a deep breath and seriously think about it:
Do you know how old your baby is?
Do you know what your baby loves?
Do you have a reasonable schedule?
Are you right, does your baby have a bottom line?
For the first question, parents will always say, Teacher Zhang, how can I not know how old my child is? In fact, parents, in addition to understanding the age of the child, we should also need to understand the ability of the child at this age. We cannot equate a child's biological age with his or her actual abilities. We have many children who are indeed 5 years old, but his social ability is less than 3 years old, and his ability to calculate may be far more than 5 years old, so when we arrange family training content, we should consider the age of the child's ability, rather than simply looking at the physiological age. In Yitong, for each child, the teacher will conduct regular assessments, these assessments are to understand the child's ability level, we must design the daily training goals according to the child's existing ability level.
Teacher Zhang's small skills time, learn to decompose the goals, that is, decompose each goal into small, simple units and then teach.
For example, if we want to teach our children to draw, we can break down this big goal into the following small goals:
Step 1: Teach your child to hold a pen
Step 2: Teach the child to color the plane casually;
Step 3: Teach your child to color within the prescribed range
Step 4: Teach your child to imitate line segments or shapes
Step 5: Let the child gradually transition from following the painting to drawing independently
Such a teaching method is not so difficult for children, and parents will not cause parents to be grumpy because we do not consider the ability of children.
So let's come to another common question for parents, Teacher Zhang, I will talk about all this, but he does not cooperate with me at all, then I will ask parents to think about the second question I raised: Do you know what your children like? Some parents may say: Teacher Zhang, I know that you have to tell me the motivation again, my child likes to eat, I can't teach him to eat every day. But have parents ever thought about using this motivation to eat?
For example, the mother is teaching the child to recognize the directional words "before and after", "the front of the ** is **, the back of the ** is **" How to teach the child is not willing to cooperate. I give parents a hint, do you know what the child likes? Have you taken advantage of it? Parents after prompting, put the family to eat the chicken wings that are being pickled at night next to the table, after the child sees it, the mother tells him to cooperate with the mother, you can eat two more chicken wings in the evening. Throughout the process, his level of cooperation was really better than every training session.
Parents, think about it, is there any other good way?
We can also do this, for example, this child likes good food very much, so can we put his favorite two foods on the table in a row and ask who is in front and who is behind? I'm sure he'll learn it soon.
Therefore, parents, children sometimes do not want to cooperate, which requires us parents to use their brains, mobilize children, stimulate children's interest, find children's motivation, induce children and you to have more motivation to cooperate.
The motivation is found, the goal is decomposed, but teacher, how can it be so difficult to get into the learning state?
For this question, parents should think about my third question: Do you have a reasonable schedule for your child's schedule? During the holidays, the children's good work and rest in the kindergarten are suddenly disrupted, and the time for eating, sleeping, learning, and playing is very different from that during the school period, so as a parent, you should help your children arrange their work and rest time reasonably, and create a regular living environment, which is also very helpful for the later start of school and the smooth return to learning life.
Parents can work with their children to set a timetable, express their opinions together, and clearly mark the rewards. In this form the parents act as the supervisors, the children act as the performers, and each has their own task.
(The above work and rest time should be adjusted according to the child's own situation, for reference only)
It is easy to make a schedule, but it is a great test for parents to implement, so parents need to use good motivation, find the motivation of the child, and encourage the child with clear rewards and punishments. Don't let your child achieve the goal of not completing the goal because of your child's emotions or other avoidance behaviors. If any problem occurs, the behavior management method is reasonably used to complete the training goal.
This is the bottom line we mentioned, as a parent hurts children and loves children there is a way, we have to find the best way to hurt them and love them, be a bottom line "mom and dad", let the child be the master of time.
In fact, in today's entire article, we did not mention how to help parents channel emotions, because we are not emotional programs, parents' emotions mainly come from children, so as long as the management of children can find a good way, for parents, emotions will be much calmer.
I wish parents a good mood every day during the holidays!