After a long vacation, do children have a lot of opportunities to get close to electronic products? Is electronic product a flood beast, and it must be resolutely eliminated? Today we're going to talk about how to keep your child's safe distance from electronics.
At this moment, you and I are looking at the phone. Electronic products such as mobile phones, tablets, and computers have become an indispensable part of life. We use them as tools. In the eyes of children, are electronic products also "tools", perhaps toys? Or even a partner? Every family's answer is different. Does your child love electronics? Has there ever been or is a state of restlessness?
Why do kids like to play with electronics?
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Because the kids have nothing to do
Narrow interests, lack of planning and arrangement of daily activities, and low cooperation with parents make most of the children's free time bored, at this time electronic products are like treasure chests filled with gifts, and children are easily attracted by the temptation of having a hole in the sky.
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Because electronics are fun
The content is all-encompassing, the accompaniment is exciting, the creativity is novel and exciting, and the picture is full and vivid. In contrast, books are monotonous and games are difficult and slow. If you can't learn or don't want to learn, it's better to throw yourself into the arms of audiovisual and aesthetically pleasing electronic products.
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Because electronics are simple
Children do not have to work hard to cooperate with our "eye contact", "hand-eye coordination" and "five-finger differentiation". In reality, there are no building blocks, and the tetris in the game are a little bit bit, easily stacking up 20 layers. In reality, sentences are not spoken, cartoons do not stop, and there is no need to interject at all.
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Because the strengthening of electronic products is much faster than ours
For example, the game is eliminated, as long as the child moves the position of the same small animal, he will get the double reinforcement of exaggerated sound effects and burst subtitles, even if he does not move correctly, there are encouraging sounds and changes in the expression of small animals to calm the child's emotions. The child is full of expectations for the next step, the demand arises at that time, the reinforcement occurs immediately, and the desire to pass the level is responded to or satisfied in time. In contrast, does our reinforcement appear dull?
Since electronic products have so many "advantages", can we let our children be friends with them?
The answer is no, the child must "keep a safe distance" from the electronics.
What are the harms of electronic products to children?
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Damage to vision
The screen is small, the font is small, the distance from the eyes is short, the picture changes quickly, the number of blinks is reduced, and it is in a highly concentrated state for a long time, so that the child has a doubly tired feeling.
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Exacerbate the tendency to be alone
"A room, a bed, a mobile phone, I'm so busy." One minute more children playing electronics, one less minute of interaction with the outside world. And what our genealogy children need to improve most is the social interaction with people. Electronic products use eighteen martial arts to compete with us for favors, what are our chances of winning this contest?
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Damage to attention
Some parents think that when their children watch animation, they are very focused. Isn't that a welcome sign? No, attention is divided into unintentional attention and intentional attention. Children do not need purpose or willpower when they look at electronic products, and this kind of attention is unintentional attention. The "coloring and writing" that we usually use------ visual attention, asking for imitation Q&A----- auditory attention, listening and writing while writing---- attention distribution, writing homework and then playing ------ anti-interference ability" are all intentional attention. These two types of attention do not automatically convert and require a lot of guided exercises. And the more time you have unintentional attention, the worse your ability to pay attention intentionally.
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Rejection of other forms of learning leads to emotional problems
In daily life, we often spend a lot of time doing successful things, such as dressing: finding the neckline------ judging the front and back----- putting on ------ button zipper------- sorting out clothes. Children can only get natural feedback if they complete the above five steps. This feedback is too slow.
When children are accustomed to the ever-changing step-by-step reinforcement of electronic products, can they tolerate this rhythm of practice? What if we mimic the game's pattern and add artificial reinforcement to each step? We will find that children become irritable and irritable: "self-denial", "I can't wear it well", "evasion" without reinforcement, "evasion" without reinforcement, strong dependence on "you help me wear"... And in the future, when the child enters the school, listens carefully to the lecture for 5 minutes or remembers a knowledge point and asks for reinforcement, how likely is it to be satisfied?
If not satisfied, will the child silently refuse----- distracted or protest with a loud protest----- angry? Learning itself is a long process of accumulation, repetition and generalization, so similar situations will appear in many moments of children's daily lives, causing parents headaches. Therefore, the early use of children to receive "slow" reinforcement from the psychological habit not only benefits him for life, but also liberates the tight nerves of parents.
How can I keep my child at a safe distance from electronics?
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Reduces the chance of stimulation
Make electronics appear in your child's life as little as possible. Parents should lead by example by turning off the tablet, picking up the racket, putting down the phone, and opening the book. The time that does not brush the video and does not chase the drama can be used to do what the child will learn from the parents.
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Fill your child's free time
Structure your child's daily activities, what time to do, what activities to choose, and how flexible the time is, all planned. Although the plan cannot be changed, there is no "change" without the plan.
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Broaden your child's interests
A new way of playing with an old toy, a newly learned finger song, a cute little animal, or even a parent who needs help when doing housework may open up the child's interest. How do you know it's not feasible without trying?
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Make rules with your child
If electronic products and children are already inseparable, it is difficult to completely disappear what to do, or, electronic products also have an advantage, can increase the fun of learning, can be used.
Since coexistence with electronic products is a problem we will face in the future. Then it is better to turn enemies into friends with them and use them for my own use. Electronics can be used both as a medium of learning and as a means of reinforcement.
For example, children like to watch videos, so parents can make electronic products instrumental, so that children can see meaningful content, such as audio picture books, cognitive games, manual videos, painting demonstrations and so on.
But if the child only likes to play games. And games are hard to relate to meaning, so we can use it as a means of reinforcement to reward children for doing the right thing. Of course, rewards cannot be used indiscriminately, both to make children enjoy the current rewards, but also to make children eager to reward again.
Then if the child's cognitive ability is good, parents should explain the importance of protecting vision for the child, so that the child can subjectively have the idea of control. Also discuss with your child about the rules for access to electronic products. For example, what time of day to use electronic products, how long to use, who will remind the time to end, who will turn off electronic products, what will happen if you do not follow the rules, etc.
Obeying the rules is the purpose of the rules, and every time the child says and acts, it is strengthened in order to maintain a stable and sustained behavior. We can learn the "colorful" reinforcement method like a game to help children develop good behavior habits.
Fighting with electronic products is a slow simmering process. Parents are invited to have faith in their hearts, methods in their hands, firm when they should be firm, and flexible when they can be flexible. In time, you will definitely see positive changes in your child.