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Some people feel that marriage is a kind of shackles, and once the beauty of the love period enters the marriage, it will only be boring and tedious, and even the beauty of the other party has become a shortcoming and inadequacy that disgusts themselves.
Some people also feel that letting their love enter marriage is the only success, but also the most successful representative, if you can't join hands with your beloved person to enter the marriage, then once loved hot is also the consummation of no explanation.
However, not all marriages can draw a perfect end, because not all people can have a beginning and an end to a relationship, or it can be said that every marriage that eventually breaks down has its own pain, and it is difficult to force together.
The times are progressing, more and more people no longer feel that divorce is a shameful thing, and more people are not willing to stumble on themselves in a wrong marriage, this marriage is over, in order to liberate themselves, but also to meet the right person.
So remarriage has become the choice of many divorced people, but it should be noted that remarriage does not mean that you will be happy, because only if you have made these preparations, you can really consider remarriage, otherwise it is still yourself who is hurt.
01 Don't let mistakes be repeated
The reason why a marriage breaks down is still the responsibility of both parties, no matter which party is wrong, there is a reason, otherwise the marriage will not go to the step of finally breaking up.
We all know that people must learn to constantly examine themselves and change their shortcomings and deficiencies, so that they can achieve a better self and avoid repeating the same mistakes.
Especially marriage, when a person does not know how to introspect, then he will bring the mistakes of the past to the next marriage, and unconsciously let himself fall into an unhappy marriage.
Her friend Yalin's attitude towards marriage is very bold, and although she did not get the blessing of her parents when she first got married, she insisted on marrying the man, because she felt that the man was in line with all her fantasies about the romance of marriage.
After getting married, Ya lin understood that having affection to drink water is just the beauty of the legend, and what is most needed in the actual marriage is chai rice oil and salt, and it is necessary to get wet to make life more stable.
However, Yalin's chosen husband could not give her a solid life, and the sweet words she loved to say before marriage seemed meaningless in the face of the embarrassment of life, and gradually, Yalin began to be disappointed in men and finally filed for divorce.
Because the man has no money and the two people have no children, the divorce procedures are handled quickly, and Yalin has gradually come out of the shadow of divorce.
Later, she met a man, the two people fell in love at first sight, the man did not dislike her as a second marriage, and Yalin was also ready to remarry, and she was full of beautiful expectations for a new marriage.
However, soon after the two people got married, Yalin divorced again, and her friends were very surprised, and after listening to her elaborate, they realized that people who made the same mistakes in the same place would never get the best.
Yalin likes to listen to men's sweet words, which has been taught in the first marriage, but when she faces the choice of remarriage, she does not realize that she has to change her past shortcomings, and she still refuses to face the reality of marriage.
Around us, in fact, there are many such people, they are like Yalin, obviously in the first marriage because of their shortcomings led to the unhappiness of the marriage, but in the next new marriage do not know how to correct, so it is not happy to remarry.
We must know that if we want to make ourselves happier, we must start from improving ourselves, because people are looking forward, and if they always stare at the wrong way they have walked, then they will always rub shoulders with happiness.
02 Whether you can face each other's children squarely
In remarriage, the most common contradiction and disagreement is the other party's children's problem, remarriage, means that they may be the stepfather and stepmother of the other party's children, and how to deal with the relationship with the other party's children has become the key to testing this marriage.
Many people, when seeking a remarried partner, will be very concerned about whether the other party can face their children, after all, no one is willing to sacrifice the happiness of their children to achieve their own happiness.
Ms. Guo took a son after the divorce, and she has the intention of looking for a remarriage partner, she has not met the right one, either the other party dislikes her with a child is a burden, or she feels that the other party is not self-motivated.
Later, after being introduced to Mr. Sun, the two people talked very well, and finally talked about marriage after a few months of getting along.
Remarriage is not a trivial matter, Ms. Guo cares most about the other party's attitude towards her son, but in the past few months of getting along, she found that Mr. Sun was good to her son, and asked her son about his own desire to remarry, and his son did not object.
At that time, Ms. Guo thought that her son would have to live in high school, which should avoid many unnecessary contradictions, but she thought everything was too simple.
After Ms. Guo and Mr. Sun got married, they did live a happy life for a while, and the two people seemed to have found the sweetness and romance when they were in love.
However, the son returned from winter vacation for more than a month, and the harmony of this family was broken.
Ms. Guo thought that her son was usually busy studying and would rest more when he came back from vacation, so even if her son got up at noon every day, she had no opinion, but Mr. Sun was dissatisfied, he felt that such a big child should help his parents do more work when he came home from vacation, instead of waiting to be served like a grandfather all day.
Several times Mr. Sun said a few words about Ms. Guo's son, and the son directly confronted him with angry life, but Ms. Guo was not satisfied in her heart, thinking that Mr. Sun was deliberately targeting his son, if it was his own child, would he be willing to give it?
Once there is a gap between husband and wife, the gap will only grow larger and larger, Ms. Guo and Mr. Sun are neglected to communicate, both people actually have mustard in their hearts, but neither is willing to take the initiative to communicate with each other, unravel the knots, and finally the feelings become more and more indifferent.
Finally, after an argument, Mr. Sun proposed a divorce, he felt that Ms. Guo did not really live with himself, but Ms. Guo decided that the other party was disgusted with his son is a burden, and the two people did not say anything and went through the divorce procedures.
In fact, it is also common for people not to regard each other's children as biological, but if you really plan to remarry and want a happy marriage, at least you must face each other's children, so that you are responsible for yourself, but also responsible for each other.
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