"Whoever comes out of the child's belly should be in charge" After 15 years, the mother-in-law knew that she was wrong
Relationship has become almost every woman into the marriage of the first compulsory lesson, according to statistics, a considerable part of the divorce case is because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can not get along, and eventually lead to the separation of the couple's feelings Finally, the end of the quarrel, in real life, many mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law are always so disharmonious.
In a family, if the relationship between these two women is not harmonious, it will affect the marriage, it will affect life, and even an important factor in determining whether the marriage will continue. Today Xiaobian will bring you a story of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a mother-in-law said to the daughter-in-law, who cares from whose belly the child comes out! The mother-in-law said such a thing 15 years ago, and 15 years later the mother-in-law knows that it is wrong, let's see what is going on.
I'm 38 years old, and my relationship with my mother-in-law fell out 15 years ago. The reason is that when I gave birth to my daughter and wanted her to help me bring it, she said to me, "Whoever comes out of the child's belly should be in charge, it has nothing to do with me" It was because she said such a sentence, so I didn't have any intersection with her.
After I married my husband 16 years ago, I never lived with my mother-in-law, who has always been in the countryside. After I married my husband that year. The couple came to the big city alone to work hard, rented a house outside the house, and the living situation was particularly difficult at that time. My husband and I earn only a few hundred yuan a month, pay rent every month, and both of us have to live, but I never dislike him.
I also never complained about life, because I believe that as long as the two of us are willing to work hard, there will be love and bread. Life used to be difficult, my husband and I didn't earn much every month, but we were very frugal, especially provincial, I remember that at that time I hadn't bought new clothes for almost two years, nor had I shopped with my husband, since our husband and wife came to this big city, every day is early and late, there is no extra time to go to the world of two.
Fortunately, our husband and wife worked hard to save some money and then paid a down payment on a house, and finally gained a foothold in the big city. My family's living conditions are a little better than my husband's family, my parents are still young, and they have their own careers.
In fact, when we first bought a house, the down payment was not enough, my parents they knew that we had a hard time living, when the money was not enough, they took out their own savings to help us make up for the tens of thousands of dollars, we only had enough money to pay the down payment house, in general, the down payment of this house my parents also have a share, I am particularly grateful to my parents for this dedication and love, originally buying a house is a must for men before marriage.
But because of my husband's family reasons, we had to try to save money to buy a house after marriage, when we first fell in love, my parents were particularly opposed, saying that their family had nothing, and I would definitely suffer when I married him, so at that time my parents were particularly opposed, but their opposition did not have any impact on me.
At that time, I still insisted on marrying my current husband, because I always believed in a word, two people are willing to work hard, love and bread will have, I do not believe that I and my husband can not create a good life, so at that time I insisted on marrying him, my parents had no way.
When we first wanted to buy a house, we also told our in-laws about this matter, and we especially expected them to give us financial help, but my mother-in-law said that they still want to take money for the elderly, so they can't help us. In fact, we also borrowed money from them when we looked at the situation of the in-laws, the in-laws and in-laws worked hard when they were young, and I knew that they would definitely have some savings.
Plus my husband has a particularly wealthy family where an older sister marries. Every month, I will give my mother-in-law 3,000 yuan for living expenses, and my mother-in-law is a kind of special provincial old man, so I believe that after so many years she will definitely have some savings, and it is not difficult to help us financially, but my mother-in-law is very angry and does not want to help us, so when we told her about this matter, she was indifferent, and even said let us go to the bank to borrow money.
In fact, from that time on, I knew that my mother-in-law was a stingy and selfish person, and when I asked her to borrow money and eat the closed door soup, I swore that I would not ask my mother-in-law no matter what. I got pregnant two years after I married my husband, and when I was pregnant, I went to work every day because my stomach wasn't yet visible, and I didn't have a baby at home until I was 6 or 7 months old.
Later, when it came to confinement, I thought of letting my mother-in-law come and serve me, because after all, she was a person who came over, and she knew more things, so it should be better to let her come and take care of me, plus we didn't have money to ask my sister-in-law, I thought so at the time.
I called my mother-in-law, I said let her come and serve me in confinement, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to respond to my sentence "Why take care of your confinement, whose child comes out of the belly will let who to serve" At that time, I called my mother-in-law to respond like this, I said this sentence, at that time I felt particularly speechless, I was confinement, she actually let me take care of myself, how is this possible. I also don't believe that my husband's grandmother didn't take care of her when my mother-in-law was confinement.
At that time, after being rejected by my mother-in-law, I could only call my mother to come and take care of me, when my mother received the call without saying a word, and then immediately packed her bags and came to take care of me, taking care of me during my confinement, which made me very moved, and even sometimes I felt ashamed of my mother.
She did not listen to her wishes to marry into such a family and was wronged in this way. But now I regret that nothing useful has happened, and the only thing I can do now is to go home more often later to see them honor them.
