We have a few "leftover men" here, the age is more than 40 years old, not poor family, not the indecency of the long, or the reason why the boys "do not marry", do not know why they do not talk about love, do not get married, parents urge marriage every year, simply do not go home for the New Year, a few "leftover men" have not returned to their hometown for more than ten years. Their parents are nearly old, their hair is all white, they also feel that the dwarf is three points, very inferior, people's grandchildren are in love, but their own sons, just don't get married, and their parents can't understand why?! What's more, the people in the village gossip, point out, and parents do not less quarrel and fight with the villagers. As soon as he had a conflict with the people in the village, he said that his son would not marry, and his parents felt that their faces were lost.
First, most of the "leftover men" in rural areas work and live in the cities, and they may be influenced by the "unmarried" ideology in the cities
When people think of "leftover men", people think of urban youth, who do not want to get married early and want to be free for a few more years. Young people in the countryside have lived and worked in the city for a long time, and have also accepted this kind of "single aristocratic" life in the city, and when they are young, they feel that they are not in a hurry to get married, but after a few years, they are getting older and it is difficult to find a partner. Before the Spring Festival, I heard a woman in a barber shop say that one of her aunts and sons is 45 years old, not yet married, there is no shortage of money, parents have retired, they have also bought a house in the provincial capital city, the person is also handsome, but they are not married, the mother is white, and it is useless to urge, so she has to let him go. Now, maybe this life is over, maybe a single stick for a lifetime. The woman said in the barbershop that his aunt's son was not married, was 50 years old, had tens of millions of yuan in savings, had a house in the countryside, and had bought a house in the city, but she was not married. The aunt quarreled with the villagers for this matter year after year, and the villagers also talked about it, and every time they quarreled, the aunt lay in bed for ten days and half a month, and did not go out. The person in the barber shop also sighed and said, "I really don't know why this man doesn't want to start a family?" ”。
Second, in the countryside, "inverted door" will be gossiped about, and it is also disgraceful, but now young people are only children, talking about marriage and marriage, it is inevitable that they will be coerced by the woman's "upside-down door" and "sky-high bride price"
There are a young couple here, and after marriage, the woman still lives in her mother's house, and the husband can only go to the parents-in-law's house. This makes the in-laws not very happy, my son is not a "backward door" son-in-law, I am a daughter-in-law? How do you always live in your mother's house? The families of the two parents have long been in a state of "cold war". The reason for "not getting married" is that the man must buy a house in the city and a private car, which many people in the countryside cannot achieve after a lifetime of struggle. The reason for "not marrying" is also the imbalance in the proportion of men and women, young people in rural areas work outside the home all year round, it is difficult to interact with the opposite sex, and young men and women rarely have contact alone. The woman now not only wants to pay a sky-high dowry, but also requires to live in her mother's house after marriage, which also makes it unacceptable for boys, because in the countryside", "inverted door" is not decent, and some people behind it are talking about it, only those who have family financial difficulties and difficulties in getting rid of singles go to be son-in-law.
Third, the "marriage urging" son always hides from his parents, does not give the son pressure, and the son is not in a hurry, not panicked, so that the parents are sad
Parents around the Spring Festival every year to find someone to find a partner for their son, but after meeting each other, most of them blow. There are young men on our side who may have gone on blind dates a lot of 10 times, but they have not succeeded, either young men do not like it, or young women have shortcomings, young men and women have fear of blind dates, and when they talk about going on blind dates, boys lie down. In the countryside, the number of blind dates is more, but also damage to reputation, always can not find the right person, indicating that boys "have problems" and "defects", otherwise why do girls refuse? Therefore, after the boys kiss twice, they will not go on blind dates when they are killed, they always lie to their parents, hide from their parents, find reasons not to go home, do not go on blind dates, and the parents of those "leftover men" have gray hair. alas! Poor parents in the world!