There is a delicate relationship, called the relationship between the employer and the nanny, not a relative but have to live under the same roof for a long time, and over time, the employment relationship may become a lover's relationship.
Mr. Gao, who is in his 40s, complained that his father's affairs bothered him a lot, and he lost sleep almost every day, worrying about his father's body and fearing that his father would be deceived.
Ten years ago, his mother died, the family on him and his sister two brothers and sisters, the father has been living with him, the father has no pension, the annual rent of 50,000 is the father in the collection, take out half to the son, half for their own use.
One day three or four years ago, my father suddenly said that he was too lonely, wanted to find a nanny, and that he had a favorite candidate.
Considering that he and his sister were busy with their work and would neglect to take care of his father, Mr. Gao agreed without much thought.
After a period of observation, Mr. Gao and his family felt that the relationship between his father and the nanny was not normal, asserting that "my father was fascinated by the nanny"
Mr. Gao said that his father is 74 years old this year, the nanny is 70 years old, since finding this nanny, his father often praises her in front of his family how good she is, and the two are very close, the nanny stays in his father's residence almost every day, washing clothes and cooking.
Mr. Gao and his sister suspect that the nanny has another purpose, and propose to quit the nanny, but they are strongly opposed by their father, who only wants this nanny, and blames them for wanting to be crooked, and the two are pure employment relationship.
Only recently, when his father had a physical problem and asked him for money, Mr. Gao found that his father's savings were running out and realized that things were not good.
Mr. Gao said that in the past three or four years, his father has spent seven or eighty thousand yuan on this nanny. The family tried to persuade Uncle Gao to quit the nanny, but the father just did not agree, for this matter, Mr. Gao and his father also quarreled several times, while hurting his father, he was worried that he was deceived, but his father's stubbornness made him not know what to do.
Mr. Gao has only one appeal, that is, to let this nanny leave his father quickly, he is worried that his father's illness will become serious one day, the money will be gone, and the tragic situation of people and money will be empty.
So, is it really as Mr. Gao feared?
The mediator came to Uncle Gao's residence, and Uncle Gao's two sisters-in-law were also there. Uncle Tall had black hair and looked younger than his actual age.
After a few words of greeting, the mediator mentioned the nanny, but he did not expect Uncle Gao to say: "The old man is married twice, and nine out of ten children are opposed."
This shocked the mediator, could it be that Uncle Gao had already received a marriage license with the nanny?
In the face of the mediator's inquiry, Uncle Gao was a little embarrassed, and the sister-in-law took the initiative to say that the other party was not Uncle Gao's nanny, and the two were actually boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, together for seven or eight years, without a license.
Uncle Gao said that before he was a janitor, he went to the other party's house to eat, went home at night, basically did not live together, and partnered at dinner. The other party came to the house to take care of him, and did not pay a salary, that is, to give some living expenses as he wished
According to What Mr. Gao said before, the other party was the nanny that his father found three or four years ago, and it was obvious that Mr. Gao did not know about his father.
In order to find out the truth of the matter, the mediator arranged for the father and son to have a good talk.
Uncle Gao said that this was his own private affair, and he did not make it clear to his son at that time. Mr. Gao bluntly said in front of his father, this nanny must have a plan, will not serve my father for no reason, the implication is that the nanny is for the old man's money.
Who knew that Uncle Gao did not think so, but said that the money spent on the woman in the past two years was actually not much, just two big heads. First, the girlfriend's daughter got married, he took the initiative to give 50,000 as a "stepfather", and in 2019, the girlfriend's son bought a car and asked him to borrow 70,000, but did not owe.
At this moment, Uncle Gao's 120,000 was gone, and he almost shook his son to the point of slowing down, and he was completely unaware of these things.
Uncle Gao and his girlfriend have been dating for seven years, and they have spent more than 200,000 yuan, and these funds come from: 50,000 yuan a year rent, 200,000 yuan given by his daughter, and the money from selling the house.
Uncle Gao's "generous hand" to the woman's children caused strong dissatisfaction among the family, and the sister-in-law said that the nephew of the family did not see him add ten thousand when he got married, and there was no one thousand, so he took 500 gifts.
The mediator asked Uncle Gao, did your girlfriend ask you to pay for it, or did you take the initiative yourself?
Uncle Gao said that all this was given voluntarily by him, and since he walked with the mother of the family, the daughter naturally had to pay in the name of her father when she got married.
The sister-in-law laughed at him, you are not married to anyone, why do you have to follow your father's standards?
Uncle Gao was immediately anxious when he heard this, this is human feelings!
Uncle Gao's sister can't look at it anymore, your personal feelings are too big, a hundred thousand is too much.
Son Mr. Gao is very angry, he only earns a few thousand a month, usually even a new piece of clothing is reluctant to buy, there are ninety-something grandmothers, there are teenage children, everywhere is a place to spend money, did not expect the father to blindly please the girlfriend's family, the money is thrown out, too selfish!
The mediator asked Uncle Gao, you are sick and hospitalized to spend more than 100,000 yuan, did your girlfriend pay for it?
Uncle Gao shook his head and said that the money was all out of his own pocket.
The mediator asked, did your girlfriend's children take care of you during your hospital stay?
Uncle Gao said, we don't have a child, even if we come to take care of it, I am embarrassed.
It is understood that during the period when Uncle Gao was ill and hospitalized, his girlfriend's children only came twice, and they were all taken care of by sons, daughters and girlfriends in turn.
Uncle Gao's sister said to the point, you treat her children as your own children, after all, they have not been born, and no matter how much money you give, people will not serve you.
Uncle Gao fell into deep thought, and seemed to be a little gambled and said, I broke with her, and I didn't care.
Uncle Gao contacted his Cai Genhua baby, and five minutes later, his girlfriend came to the scene.
After the girlfriend learned about the uncle's intentions, she simply said that she would be separated and separated, and there was no reluctance between the words.
The girlfriend admitted that Uncle Gao was good to her, but people's hearts are mutual, she also treated each other with sincerity, and did not want his family property, nor did she rush to get married, two people at such an old age together is to accompany and take care of each other, he is sick in front of me to take care of.
The mediator mentioned that your son borrowed 70,000 yuan with Uncle Gao and did not pay it back, and his girlfriend said that she did not know about the loan, she was in the field at the time, then again, I served him for so many years, and the cost of a nanny was more than this amount.
Mr. Gao let his father's girlfriend write an IOU, did not expect that the girlfriend's emotions suddenly became excited, anyway, my son now has no money to pay back, I have served your father for so many years is not in vain, we have to break it up.
Then she said to Uncle Gao, if you still worry about that money, then our love for so many years will be gone, and when we have money, we will pay you back, and there is nothing we can do without money.
Uncle Gao sat speechless, his face was ugly, this was probably the last thing he wanted to see...
epilogue:
A netizen commented very sharply: "Good health, give money to others, the health is not good, looking for children to want, who is willing to manage it?" ”
Uncle Gao has the right to pursue happiness, but he takes his children's filial piety to his money to please his girlfriend's family, and the 200,000 that his daughter gave him is now very little, which is too cold for the children's hearts!
The expression of the girlfriend's family can be righteous, and the mistake of the tall uncle is that he should not hide from his children, after all, hundreds of thousands is not a small number, the children have the right to know, and they will only complain more about him after knowing.
Please the girlfriend's family, but cold the heart of the own children, the tall uncle is thick and thin, some are not clear, once sick and hospitalized, you understand that some emotions are not money can buy.
Although there is no age on the road to love, but in the face of reality, the old man's twilight love is difficult, the biggest obstacle is from the children's incomprehension and opposition, because of this, many old people hide from their children, and it is precisely because of this worry that they hide their children and let their girlfriends live together as a nanny.
As children, in addition to giving enough parents a material life, we must pay more attention to their spiritual needs, and the root of filial piety is understanding and respect.