Zhou Jie was recently photographed suspected of dating two girls, and this is not the first time he has been photographed dating a girl.
A 51-year-old unmarried man, as long as he has the ability to pay money, will still attract all kinds of girls.
Zhou Jie's overturning car began with Lin Xinru's interview, and then it was a beating incident, and the wind evaluation was very poor for a while.
But he slowly gained momentum to restore his reputation by returning home to grow rice, do public welfare, and go on shows.
It was hard to wash white, and it was ruined on dating with various girls.
In December last year, a female netizen broke the news on Weibo that Zhou Jie's private life was chaotic, saying that Zhou Jie forced her to take emergency contraceptives or break up.
He said that he lacked in his heart and needed the admiration and admiration of a little girl in his 20s to make him feel young.
Zhou Jie's response was to blacken himself, saying that he had admitted it, saying that he had confessed to kissing him with his tongue, saying that he was a bad person and also admitting it, what else should he do?
But this wave of responses is a bit about him, and he did not respond positively to the girl's post.
Therefore, we don't know what the specific situation is.
This time it was filmed going on a night out with two girls, having dinner with one girl, and going to a bar with another girl, holding hands like lovers during the period.
Zhou Jie, 51 years old this year, is single and unmarried and rich.
He never openly fixed his girlfriend, but there was never a shortage of beautiful women around him.
On the 12th of this month, he was photographed dating a short-haired beauty in her 20s, and the two of them went to a restaurant for dinner.
At the end of November last year, Zhou Jie was photographed taking a long-haired beauty into an upscale hotel.
The woman is about 20 or 30 years old, with a high ponytail and a beautiful appearance.
In June last year, Zhou Jie was photographed holding hands with a long-haired beauty.
It is worth noting that these girls who are photographed "dating" Zhou Jie are almost not the same person.
Zhou Jie once gave an interview on a show, saying that he had never been single.
But only when it comes to getting married will you reveal your other half.
Therefore, the female netizen exposed the chaos of his private life, which is not empty.
He is not a small stream of fresh meat, and being photographed dating different women so many times shows that he himself does not care.
After all, unmarried and single, there is no moral shackles and pressure, nor is it an influential public figure, but lives as much as you want.
Objectively speaking, he just lived the life he wanted.
Some women don't ask him to be responsible or ask for credit, or just take what they need!
Rich but not married, such women and men are also increasing in society.
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The pattern of intimate relationships has changed
Zhou Jie is only in love, not married, but he wants to have an intimate relationship, so his girlfriend changes stubble after stubble.
There are many different experiences without being responsible.
Women also have such groups, especially divorced or unmarried women.
In the past, no matter what, I could not accept the concept of a low moral bottom line, only love and not marriage.
But the times are changing, people are also changing, and I am afraid that there are fewer and fewer people who can persist in talking from love to marriage in the past.
There is always a scale in people's hearts, and love is calculating gains and losses.
Sometimes it is not clear whether to lose or take advantage, so just take what you need!
Two people together, psychologically acceptable, even if you fall out of the pit, who does not climb out of the pit?
I saw a little sister in her early 30s who submitted an essay, who was also unmarried and had a regular sexual partner.
One ends with the next, without a sticky love brain.
Only love the flesh of young boys, you love me.
Is this okay?
Yes, the sense of self-subjectivity is very strong, what you want is very clear, and you can not hurt others.
From here, we can examine women's thinking of being white-robed, but it is not necessarily the truth.
What if a woman doesn't want to get married either, but needs intimacy and sex?
If you have money, you go to find small fresh meat, who needs it, who pays for it.
However, objectively speaking, if you accidentally get pregnant and encounter a bad person infected with a disease, the risk of women is still very large.
Therefore, the cost of this need is still a bit large, but it can bear it.
It's the same thing for men who don't get married and want intimacy, but they don't have a womb and are less risky.
There are not a few intimate relationships that are so combined, and some people are divorced and do not want to get married again.
Men don't want to be responsible, women don't want to worry, they have been living together namelessly, and no one needs to be responsible for each other.
If a woman pursues the stability and fame of marriage and enters the relationship, she will have a feeling of loss.
Unless the man you are looking for really has the ability to pay money, it is also a feasible intimate relationship model to materially help and take what you need.
If the heart belongs to a more traditional, loyalty to love is higher than the sky, and idealistic about finding a life partner, then it is not recommended to enter this mode.
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The moral shackles of intimacy will become looser and looser
Whether we admit it or not, the moral shackles of intimacy will become looser and looser.
Because it is difficult for people to guarantee their hearts, there are too many temptations, the cost of leaving the relationship is low, and the substitution is at any time.
People seem to have slowly accepted this fact, and the rising divorce rate year by year tells us that this is the era of true freedom of marriage and love.
Zhou Jie is not an entertainment circle person, so no matter how he plays, no one cares, and he is not Jay Chou anyway.
But he is often photographed dating different girls, and it is inevitable that everyone will make moral criticism of him.
Saying that this person's private life is chaotic, just want to fall in love and not get married, split legs, spend hearts, really a scumbag.
In fact, scolding scumbags is already like scratching the itch of a boot for scumbags, they don't feel it, because this is the truth, scum is scum.
Men with such emotional experiences do not have the concept of moral bottom line.
So, no matter what kind of behavior they are, we have to identify such people in life.
If you can't accept it, just leave, and there is no chance at all.
Don't scold the scumbag while loving the scumbag so much that you can't leave, that's not interesting.
Each of us has a diverse perception, so we form different groups.
There are people who still yearn for love, and there are people who still have optimistic ideals about marriage;
There are people who are disappointed in love, and there are people who ignore the moral bottom line in the relationship between men and women.
And what we have to do is find the right group, leave the environment that allows us to be abused, and don't waste time changing others.
Some people constantly change the opposite sex to fill the part of their inner scarcity, which is their life lesson.
We cannot prevent such people from existing, but we must allow such people to exist.
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Intimacy lasts longer and shorter
I've seen someone post a new model about marriage on social platforms.
For example, the validity period of the marriage certificate is five years, or ten years, and if the date is up and both parties are willing to renew the contract, they will get the license again.
This proposal is also quite interesting, indicating that we all think it is too difficult to maintain a marriage for a lifetime.
Groups like Zhou Jie, who do not want to get married and change one object after another, will have a shorter intimate relationship.
Especially after experiencing many people, they often lose the ability to truly love someone, so it is more difficult to get married.
Each one is not enough for them to enter the marriage, spend some money to experience the married life, and still need to get a license?
They like the opposite sex at best, they are shallow likes, get along for a while, feel tired, have no fun to change people, and have come and gone freely in their feelings.
With the separation from each partner, this power of attachment to feelings will become weaker and weaker.
They tend to think that splitting legs is a small thing, and it's normal to like this today and that tomorrow.
And we normal people, it takes a long time to get out of the trauma of being hurt.
I can't imagine how they could show great love for me one moment, and then confess to others the next moment, just a performative personality.
Therefore, to learn to reduce the expectation of intimate relationships, how long to talk about a relationship is unknown, and whether you can get married is unknown.
There is no need to plunge into it, just ask for some results.
But identifying a partner's sense of responsibility and character, whether in love or marriage, comes first.
Our parents have been married for a lifetime, but many of them have had a painful life, and their hearts lack the nourishment of true feelings.
Will be together, and finally like a waste, always feel that for the sake of children, and they do not love people tied for a lifetime, but also wronged.
Now I can meet the right person, very fit, maintain a relationship for more than 10 years is considered very lucky, do not require a marriage to last 20 years, 30 years or even a lifetime.
But those who ask too much in their feelings, expect too much, and want to control cannot avoid disappointment.
Nevertheless, we still have to love, because no matter how the form changes, the human heart can never prevent itself from loving.
Immersing yourself in intimate relationships and learning love is a lifelong lesson.
Author | Fei Yu A person who likes to explore himself, with growth as the goal, experience as the road, sincerity as the heart, and live a life of maximum freedom.