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"You're too important to me and I don't want to risk losing you"
- The movie "Friendship Above"
1
My friend called me in the early hours of the morning and asked, "Should I confess to him?" ”
It finally came, and I wasn't surprised she would ask me this question.
She has a male friend she has known for eight years, smells very much, and has always claimed to be each other's confidant, but it is only a pure opposite-sex friendship.
When my friend introduced them to pure friendship, I almost couldn't stop laughing.
The opposite sex does have pure friendship, the uglier and purer, obviously they don't look at all, who believes in pure friendship?
I have also tried to ask my friends, do you really not have the slightest idea and like for your confidant?
She spent an hour criticizing me for misbehaving, and another hour to prove how clean their feelings were, and finally put down a harsh sentence "Time will prove everything."
Time will indeed prove everything, feelings are like wine, with time mellow and strong, wait for friends to slow down, find themselves full of affection.
Although he understood his intentions, his friend could never take the step of confession.
People are always prone to preparing for the worst, and she is always afraid to confess the results of failure.
She is afraid that the other party does not like herself, really just take her as a friend, in case she feels that her confession is very troublesome, and the two people can't even be friends?
At least without confessing, there is still the identity of a friend to keep him by his side, and you can continue to talk and laugh with him.
It seems that leaving him is more painful than the discomfort of hiding his heart.
It seems that many people think that jumping from friend to lover is a matter of nine deaths.
But in fact, if you really love each other, even if you are rejected, it is better than waiting for many years.
2
In the movie "Former Raiders", Rosie has known Meng Yun for fourteen years and liked him for fourteen years.
Over the years, Rosie was willing to stay by Meng Yun's side as a friend, accompany him to start a business, and watch him slowly succeed in his career.
In this relationship, one person kills and does not say, and one person pretends to be stupid to the end.
Later, Rosie had no way to continue to use her friends' side and stay by Meng Yun's side, so she found someone who was good to her and married.
Rosie laughed at herself at the wedding:
"I'm afraid of my self-esteem, and I'm afraid that if you don't like me, we can't even be friends, and a fear is fourteen years;
At the same time, I am confident, I think you love me, you belong to me, this confidence, it is fourteen years. ”
Finally Rosie finally asked the sentence: After all these years, you have...
Before the question was finished, Meng Yun answered: I have loved.
Cute and how, some people miss is a lifetime. If you really like someone, you can't be a friend for a lifetime.
In the Thai movie "Friendship Above", Pan and Qin have been best friends since high school.
Later, Pan confessed to Qin, but Qin refused, because she felt that as long as she was friends, she would not break up and could maintain their feelings for each other for a longer time.
Then they became friends for ten years, and no one left anyone's life.
When Qin is sad, Pan will accompany her on a tour; when Qin loses love, Pan will accompany her to move.
Later, the two went around to express their affection, but they still came together.
Most of the movie plots are more idealistic than reality, but there are many cases of friends becoming lovers in reality.
Friends have a chance to become lovers, but if you are not even willing to step out of the first step of the confession, then there is no chance.
3
The purpose of confession is very simple, that is, to inform, is not to let yourself regret it in the future, is to give yourself so long of silence to pay an account.
Confessing failure, may never be able to be a friend again, which is really sad.
But even if you don't confess, are you willing to be only a friend, watching each other fall in love, get married and have children, is it not sad?
No one can treat people they like as mere friends.
Moreover, most of the friends are just passengers on the train, and when they arrive at the station, someone will get off the train, and after the crossing, they will only drift away.
It is not easy to be an ordinary friend and stay with him for a long time.
As a person who likes ta, you will find that you seem to be superfluous, because the other party already has a lover who will accompany you for a lifetime.
And with the passage of time, the remorse in my heart will only ferment more and more, and I keep asking myself: If I was willing to take that step, would the person who is around me now be me?
So be brave enough to confess, even if the results may not be so good, or even a friend, but at least you will not be years later for ta tossing and turning.
Love is originally a big gamble, some people will win, and some people will lose several games in a row.
But it doesn't matter if you lose, compared to the coward who doesn't dare to love, at least you have the courage to love, and you still keep fighting.