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Backstage fans asked the lattice: Will there be pure friendship between the opposite sex?
This reminds Lattice of psychologists' classification of heterosexual friendships into three categories:
The first category is platonic friendship, you and this person do not want to have anything other than friendship, this is a very pure friendship;
The second type is that these two people as friends, but one party likes one party, the other party does not have a cold, then can only use friendship to maintain the relationship;
There is also a third category, in which two people have a good feeling for each other, but they cannot be together because of the environment or other reasons.
In summary, with the exception of platonic friendships, other types of friendships are love and cannot be loved.
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I have seen a Movie in Thailand called "Friendship Above", and the male and female protagonists are each other's most ironal girlfriends. Because of the phrase "it is a liking between good friends" in high school, they maintained a friendship relationship for more than 10 years.
The female protagonist Xiaoqin suspects that she is pregnant in a foreign country, as long as a phone call, the male protagonist does not say a word, and immediately abandons the date and flies to another country to accompany her;
The heroine suspects that her boyfriend is cheating, and the male protagonist gives up the rest time to accompany her across half of Southeast Asia to catch adultery; when the heroine tells her to break up with her boyfriend, the male protagonist's heart cannot suppress the excitement.
Scientific American magazine reported an experiment in which a team of American researchers randomly selected 88 young men and women and asked them to bring their best friends of the opposite sex to a questionnaire.
The results of the questionnaire show that most friendship relationships have one party, or both parties have the desire to "further develop".
American scientists have pointed out that the friendship of friends of the opposite sex is based on sexual attraction; evolutionary psychology also believes that the friendship between men and women begins with attraction, and there are always impure factors.
That is, friendships that claim to "look down on each other" don't exist, and if the other person isn't attractive, you can't develop into good friends.
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I have seen such a story on a platform: the poster's girlfriend has a very good friend of the opposite sex, and the poster said that the girlfriend usually looks for him when she is bored, instead of looking for me, and often has a separate dinner with his friends.
She didn't go home once last month, I was worried all night, and when I came back the next day and asked her, she said bluntly that she had slept in a hotel with her "boyfriend" because she had drunk too much.
"I just slept with him, just slept." Hearing this sentence, the poster was very angry and quarreled with her, because he really liked her, and afterwards he also had a good chat with her, hoping that she could keep a distance from the "male girlfriend", although she was full of promises, but afterwards she still went her own way.
During this period, I had quarreled several times, and she always felt that I was stingy, saying that she did not have anything to do with her male girlfriend.
Grid felt that the poster's girlfriend's approach was indeed inappropriate. Regardless of men and women, after falling in love, they should keep a certain distance from friends of the opposite sex, regardless of others, which is respect for the other half.
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Lattice is still willing to believe that there is a real friendship between the opposite sex, but both sides need to work hard for this friendship, at least in terms of grasping the point of proportion.
As for where this boundary is, the grid has one suggestion:
First of all, don't say ambiguous words. So how to judge whether a sentence is ambiguous? See if it's a pun. For example, "I miss you", which can express the miss between friends and reveal some ambiguous hints.
And ambiguity is the terminator of friendship, saying more about each other will fall into a state of extreme sensitivity, it is difficult to return to the original;
Secondly, care to be restrained. Remember to eat, drink more boiled water, don't stay up late... It's a greeting that the boyfriend does and doesn't need us to work on it.
The partner is the lover, the friend is just the guest, don't mess with the role.
In the end, it should be rejected or rejected, especially in the case of being alone in the room, it can be less, and it can be avoided. To put it bluntly, as a man, in the face of certain temptations, even if people can be trusted, the body may not be able to.
Only by doing this, then those of you who have threatened to be good friends for a lifetime, it is possible that you can go through a lifetime.
Finally, ask everyone: Do you feel that there is pure friendship between the opposite sex?