My little fellow called last night and said that her boyfriend didn't want her because of a divorced woman who smoked and drank. She couldn't understand how her boyfriend of years could run away with a "bad woman" with her heart and lungs.
Zhang Wujie does not love Zhiruo prefers the eccentric Zhao Min, Pete does not hesitate to divorce Jennifer to marry Julie with a black history, Dr. Zhao falls in love with the goblin Qu Xiaoxiu, and July's boyfriend will fall in love with the rebellious and uninhibited feelings of Ansheng, these are some incomprehensible cases in the eyes of ordinary people, why are they not uncommon in real life?
Now, I often hear many women sighing: we are also good looking and well-paid, and we are willing to wash our hands for soup, and we can also pay off the mortgage together, why can't we meet a good man! They are very puzzled: why do men love "bad women"? It used to be said that men are not bad and women are not loved. Nowadays, it is the good girls who shine brightly, and the bad girls who rob the good men. In fact, these "bad women" in the eyes of ordinary people are not necessarily bad women, but there are more bumps and bad experiences. Let's analyze the reasons below, hoping to help the majority of single women can become the "goddess" of men's hearts!
"Bad women" are very independent, both in life and financially.
Because of the rich ups and downs, it is more independent.
They will be spoiled and clingy, but they will also maintain their independent personality. They will not be like those simple girls who have less experience, once they fall in love, they hate not being able to turn themselves into dog skin plaster sticking to men.
Many women wait for their boyfriends to call back, preferring not to do anything, or even to stay up all night. If the boyfriend is late for a date, they will also choose to wait quietly in a good temper. They even prefer to give up their lives, regard themselves as his "mother", give it wholeheartedly, and hate that their boyfriend cannot become their "father" and ask for everything.
In fact, falling in love does not mean interfering in each other's lives, and it does not mean depriving each other of their freedom. Excessive dependence will only make men feel afraid and helpless. The tighter you chase, the farther they hide.
And "bad women" are the best at playing with men, what they should do, they will be busy with their work, they will go out shopping, they will chat with girlfriends. They don't make wild guesses because of a late message or a default appointment. In the eyes of "bad women", being in love is just a part of their lives. In their lives, there are many more meaningful things than love waiting for them to achieve.
"Bad women" simply don't give up their jobs for men. In their view, work is more reliable than men. Only by earning their own money can they truly control their lives and make their lives better. When they can't stand each other, they have enough capital and confidence to leave.
"Bad women" know better how to love themselves and keep themselves alive.
Compared to good women, "bad women" are less likely to be emotional puppets. Their nature is not bound by rules.
For men, many women not only give up their lives, but also give up the right to love themselves. In their hearts, as long as the other person is happy, they will feel relieved. In life, there are too many women with this spirit of living Lei Feng. They only know how to give, not ask for returns, the result? They really don't get anything in return, and they will even be abandoned by each other. Women who don't know how to love themselves are not cute at all!
Why do men love "bad women"? Because "bad women" love themselves more than anyone else. In addition to love, they will also enjoy their lives to the fullest, like to try new things, or cultivate new interests. For them, nothing is more important than making themselves happy. Being loved by the man they like is what makes them happy and happy, but love is by no means the only way to make them happy.
In love, "bad women" will pursue the equality of love, and they will love themselves as much as they love each other. How much love they give to each other, they will also give equal love for themselves. They will give to their loved ones, but they will never give up loving themselves.
"Bad women" only live for themselves, and love men know how to stop at the right time.
An important factor in distinguishing a good woman from a "bad woman" is exactly how much she will give up for a man. Good women obey men and give up almost unreservedly all of themselves. They are almost responsive to their boyfriend's requirements, even if they are aggrieved, they are willing to meet the unreasonable requirements of their boyfriends. They are mainly based on men's consciousness, look at men's eyes and act, and are the little women around their boyfriends, and they live without ego. Even if the boyfriend asks them to do something excessive, they would rather pretend that they are okay than bravely stand up and say "no" out loud.
When faced with a boyfriend's request, the "bad woman" can only give up selectively according to the situation. They don't obey their boyfriends in everything, they just follow their own hearts. For those unreasonable requests, they would rather lose love than boldly refuse. They understand that losing oneself is more costly than losing a man.
Good women take care of men in every detail, do laundry, cook and clean, and almost think of themselves as a nanny. But they give diligently, and men may be moved at first, and over time, they become accustomed to thinking that these things are simply what you should do. You complain a few times a day, and they'll feel wordy and bored with you.
"Bad women" occasionally cook meals for men and help with housework, but they certainly don't let men be the treasurer, they will spoil men to get involved and do it with themselves. In their opinion, two people together, no one has to do anything for whom, if they are not willing to do something, they will never do it. They prefer to develop some common hobbies with their boyfriends. Men will find such a free-spirited woman not only interesting, but also does not cause too much psychological burden on themselves.
It is not that men are blind, let good women not love, prefer to fall in love with "bad women", in fact, men love only independent, personality "bad women".
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