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Yesterday a boy came to me for consultation, and he said that he had encountered a particularly distressing thing and did not know what to do.
He had been with his girlfriend for more than a year and chose to break up peacefully last month because of their incompatible personalities.
Just as he was about to start a new relationship, his ex-girlfriend called him and told him a shocking news: his ex-girlfriend was pregnant.
Both were in love for the first time, had little experience, and in the face of this sudden change, he really didn't know what to do next.
Because they broke up because they felt that they were not suitable for each other, if they continue to be together, can they live happily in the future? If you go to the hospital to beat up the child, and some can't bear it, after all, it is a small life.
In fact, when in love, it is also very normal for couples to split and merge, if couples break up on impulse, it is very simple to compound.
But like this boy and his girlfriend broke up completely after careful decision, after the breakup suddenly got the news that his girlfriend was pregnant, this is indeed a difficult thing for him.
But no matter how difficult it is, as a responsible man, you must face and deal with it, after all, your girlfriend has given you her most precious things, and you can't easily take away a small life because of your selfishness.
Therefore, at this time, no matter what you do, there is no best plan, and the most perfect ending is that you still have certain feelings between you, and the other party is willing to give birth to this child, and you are reconciled.
But if you really don't want to be together and are not ready to get married and become a parent, then you need to discuss a method with the fewest drawbacks.
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So, how to face and deal with this matter, the following steps hope to help you.
First, face up to your girlfriend's pregnancy and accept it calmly.
Since the matter is irreversible, it is better to face up to this matter and accept everything that happens calmly, after all, both parties are responsible for the pregnancy.
Second, when something happens, don't complain to each other.
At this time, there is no point in complaining to each other and discussing who is right and who is wrong, and the most important thing at this time is how to solve this matter. Even if you are annoyed, it is too late, after all, you have made your girlfriend pregnant, you must take this responsibility.
Third, discuss with your girlfriend whether to give birth to a child.
After all, the child is the two of you, and the most innocent, so you have to discuss whether to give birth to this child together.
If you decide to have sex, it means that you still have feelings, and you also have to take on the responsibility of a man, take good care of your girlfriend, and keep her in a happy mood so that you can give birth to a healthy baby.
Fourth, if you can't make up your mind, you can also consult with the parents of both sides.
We often say that if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer losses in front of you, after all, your parents are people who have come over, and no matter what the outcome is, you all need the support of your parents, especially the decision to give birth to your child.
So, don't be afraid of your parents blaming you, who will give advice that will hurt you the least.
Fifth, if the feelings are still there, they will marry directly and give birth to children.
For girls, getting pregnant before marriage is not good for their reputation after all, compared to pregnancy, pregnancy hurts girls more.
If you still have feelings for each other and don't want to hurt your children, it is better to just get married and give birth to the children. Even if the three views fit, couples with good feelings need to constantly run into each other in marriage in order to get long-term happiness.
Therefore, for this responsibility, you must also work hard to manage this relationship.
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Here, we have to mention another result, which is that in the end you chose not to marry and beat up the children. Is it irresponsible to do so? Of course not.
If you have no feelings, but you are in a hurry to get married because your girlfriend is pregnant, it is also irresponsible for both of you, and even more irresponsible for your children.
Because a marriage that is forced to be married is difficult to be happy, pregnancy is not the same as true love.
If you still love each other, then of course you can consider compounding this matter, but if your heart is no longer in her, but you have no choice but to choose to get married, then your future married life will definitely be complaining continuously, chicken flying dog jump.
This is the biggest harm to each other in the long run, and then choose to divorce, and the child becomes the person who is hurt the most.
Therefore, boys must be responsible for girls when they are in love, if you have not yet thought about a lifetime, then please do not hurt her, you know, it is always women who suffer losses.