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In recent years, the marriage rate in our country has gradually decreased, as if young people do not want to get married now. According to the data of the National Bureau of Statistics of our country, the imbalance between men and women in our country is extremely serious, which may be one of the reasons for the decline in the marriage rate in our country.
Among the young people of school age in the country, the number of men is 35 million more than that of women, this figure is shocking, if all young men and women of school age are matched, there will be 35 million young men who cannot find the other half, plus some unmarried people, scientists reasonably speculate that by 2050, the number of male single young people in our country will be as high as 65 million.
With the continuous development of society, this gap is still increasing, which is a major blow to the young men of school age in our country. There are 35 million more marriageable single men than women, is the root cause really that women are getting better and better?
With the continuous civilization of society and the rise of feminism, the status of women in society is getting higher and higher, and more and more unmarried women have emerged, who would rather be single for a lifetime than dedicate everything to men and families.
From a psychological point of view, the men and women of the new era have undergone fundamental changes. Social pressure gradually increased, and many men developed world-weary views, which led to many men having psychological problems and beginning to boycott marriage.
Secondly, the serious imbalance between men and women has induced many social problems and social contradictions, and has also caused a lot of psychological burden to many single young men.
In recent years, non-marriage and singleism have gradually emerged, and more and more young people have chosen to live on their own, and a large part of them are women, who no longer need men and no longer need marriage. Below, combined with the knowledge of psychology and sociology, we will analyze the reasons for this in a deeper way.
First, stereotypes: a general description of specific social groups
In social life, people are accustomed to making general descriptions of specific groups of people. For example, most people think that male groups should have the same attributes, which is "Gender Stereotypes."
Society believes that men should assume more social responsibilities and bear more economic pressure, so in the marriage market, women have very high requirements for men's economic conditions and work ability.
Stereotypes are persistent, extensive and solid, and once formed, they are not easy to change, and most of the time, stereotypes are equivalent to a kind of guidance of social opinion. The formation of stereotypes is a two-way street, reflecting social reality on the one hand, and on the other hand, there may be some exaggerated elements.
Li Yinhe, a famous sociologist in China, pointed out: "Women are closer to nature, and men are closer to culture." Women are partial to the material, men are biased towards the spirit, and the superiority of men over women is also a stereotype engraved in everyone's heart. ”
In modern society, women's social status has been greatly improved, and women in the workplace have a foothold, which makes many women become career-oriented women, they are devoted to their own work, ignoring emotional life, and gradually do not need emotional life.
Such women have their own careers, have sufficient economic strength, do not need the protection of men, do not need to raise children to prevent aging, and naturally do not need men and do not need marriage.
Second, a pluralistic definition of happiness
Women's sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, and many capable women can not only hold up half of the sky, but even support their own piece of the sky.
They are completely able to stand alone, they can guarantee their own lives, they can pay for all their decisions, they are unwilling to follow the traditional concept of marriage, and they think that the married life of male superiority and female inferiority is torture for themselves.
They dare to say no to marriage, and they are more willing to pursue the life they want and enjoy a more free life than men and marriages.
Moreover, modern society has also given single women more tolerance, so that single women can live without criticism, and they themselves are fully capable of living independently in society.
Modern women's definition of happiness is diverse, starting a family is a kind of happiness, and being free and single is also a kind of happiness, because there are too many examples that tell us that marriage is not only the graveyard of love, but also the graveyard of many women's lives.
Entering married life not only does not have a feeling of happiness and stability, but even adds a lot of troubles to yourself, so it is better to simply choose not to get married.
As long as your life is comfortable and happy, then marriage or social rules and regulations are not so important.
Finally, from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, women take a greater risk in marriage, because women are responsible for having children, and once divorced, the loss is greater, and if they already have children at the time of divorce, it is difficult to enter another marriage.
Therefore, many modern women are not willing to bear such risks and consequences, and naturally choose not to marry.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.