In the complex and changeable world of human emotions, the phenomenon of Xiaosan has always attracted much attention.
A junior usually refers to a third party who maintains an improper relationship with one of the parties in an existing relationship.
It is worth noting that although the behavior of the junior is often morally and ethically condemned, there are still some women who are proud of it.
1. Social identity and self-worth
Under the framework of social identity theory, people tend to construct a sense of self-worth through the evaluation and recognition of others.
For some women, being a junior may be seen as a symbol of ability or charisma, especially in an environment where values are distorted.
This sense of identity often comes from a relationship with an attractive or high-status man, thus gaining a special status and prestige in the social group.
The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said, "No victor believes in chance." ”
These women may believe that they are able to become juniors because they have some unique charm or ability that allows them to attract and maintain relationships with attractive men.
2. Emotional needs and satisfaction
In terms of emotional needs, some women may find it difficult to meet them in a normal relationship due to various reasons, such as family environment, personal experience, etc.
As a result, they may seek a more intense, stimulating emotional experience to fill their inner emptiness and dissatisfaction.
Mistress relationships are often accompanied by secrets, passion, and adventure, elements that are extremely attractive to some women.
American psychologist Abraham Maslow mentioned in the hierarchy of needs theory: "Human needs are composed of five levels: physiological, safety, social, respect and self-actualization. ”
For these women, the relationship may meet their needs at the level of socialization and respect to a certain extent, making them feel noticed and valued.
3. Self-awareness and moral concepts
Self-awareness is an individual's perception and evaluation of himself, including his own values, morality, etc.
Some women may have a wrong view of the behavior of the junior due to the bias of self-perception or the ambiguity of moral concepts.
They may think that the behavior of the junior is a sign of courage to pursue love, or an affirmation of self-worth.
This cognitive distortion makes them morally lose the ability to judge the behavior of the junior, so they are proud of it.
The English philosopher John Locke pointed out in A Treatise on Human Understanding: "Our knowledge derives from our perception and reflection. ”
For these women, there may be a bias in their perception and reflection on the behavior of the mistress, causing them to be unable to correctly recognize the moral problems of this behavior.
Fourth, psychological defense mechanisms
Psychological defense mechanisms are psychological coping strategies adopted by individuals to protect themselves in the face of stress, conflict, or pain.
Some women may have their own psychological problems, such as low self-esteem, anxiety, etc., which lead them to adopt an extreme behavior when facing relationship problems.
The relationship may become a way for them to escape from reality and seek psychological comfort.
By becoming juniors, they may be trying to prove their worth, gain attention, or ease their inner pain.
The Austrian psychologist Sigmund Freud mentioned in his theory of psychological defense mechanisms: "When people face unbearable stress or pain, they will adopt various psychological defense mechanisms to protect themselves. ”
For these women, becoming a mistress may be a manifestation of a psychological defense mechanism that helps them escape from reality and relieve their inner pain for a while.
5. Cultural background and values
Cultural context and values have a profound impact on an individual's behavior and psychology.
In some cultures or social groups, primary three behavior may be seen as a normal or acceptable way of behaving.
The influence of this cultural background and values may make some women take pride in the behavior of the junior with a tolerant or supportive attitude.
summary
From a psychological point of view, behind the phenomenon that some women are proud of being a junior, there are many factors such as social identity, emotional needs, self-awareness, psychological defense mechanisms, and cultural background and values.
The interaction and influence of these factors make this phenomenon complex and diverse.
Therefore, when understanding and dealing with this phenomenon, we need to consider a combination of factors and avoid simply blaming it on personal moral issues or mental illness.
At the same time, we also need to pay more attention to and study this phenomenon in order to better understand and respond to the challenges and problems involved.