Fourteen years ago, my ex-husband and I came to the end of our marriage for various reasons.
At that time, we were young and vigorous, and our dissatisfaction and misunderstanding with each other accumulated into an insurmountable chasm.
After a heated argument, we decided to end the marriage and find a new life separately.
After the divorce, I chose to leave the city we lived in together and head to a strange place to start over.
I worked hard, made new friends, and gradually came out of the shadow of divorce. My ex-husband, on the other hand, continued to stay where he was, living a life I didn't understand.
Time flies like a white horse, and fourteen years have passed in the blink of an eye. In these fourteen years, we have never had any contact, as if we have completely disappeared from each other's lives.
However, just when I thought we had become passers-by in each other's lives, a sudden phone call shattered my peaceful life.
The call came from a relative of my ex-husband, who told me that my ex-husband had passed away due to illness. I was shocked to hear the news. Even though we have been divorced for many years, I still feel an indescribable grief when I hear of his death.
In the midst of my grief, I began to think about how to deal with my ex-husband's funeral.
We no longer have a legal relationship, but after all, we have experienced a life together, and I can't bear to let him leave this world alone.
So, I decided to go back to the city where we used to live together and see him off.
When I returned to that familiar and unfamiliar city, I found that everything had changed drastically.
My ex-husband's home has changed owners, and our once mutual friends have each had a new life.
However, when I came to his grave, I felt an indescribable sense of intimacy.
In the process of dealing with my ex-husband's funeral, I encountered many difficulties.
Since we have been divorced for many years, I don't have any contact details for him and I don't know if his family is still in the city.
However, I didn't give up. Through my ex-husband's friends and relatives, I gradually learned about some of the circumstances of his life.
I also personally went to his home, sorted out his belongings, and prepared a simple and solemn funeral for him.
At the funeral, I saw some of my ex-husband's relatives and friends. Although they have no relationship with me anymore, we are all gathered here for the same purpose - to see off my ex-husband.
At that moment, I felt the deep emotional bond between people, and also realized the fragility and transience of life.
analysis
There are many profound truths behind this story. First of all, it allows us to see the ruthlessness of time and the fragility of life.
Fourteen years ago, we were a husband and wife, and we went through many ups and downs in life together.
However, as time went on, we gradually went our separate ways and became passers-by in each other's lives.
The news of my ex-husband's death makes us realize the fragility and transience of life, and makes us cherish every day in front of us even more.
Secondly, the story also allows us to see the deep emotional bonds between people.
Even though my ex-husband and I have been divorced for many years, we were willing to see him off when we learned of his death.
This emotional bond stems not only from the relationships we once had as husband and wife, but also from the years and memories we have experienced together.
It makes us realize that no matter where we are or who we are with, we should cherish the emotional connection we have with others to make life richer and more fulfilling.
In addition, this story also shows us the courage and responsibility in the face of adversity. In the process of taking care of my ex-husband's funeral, I encountered many difficulties and challenges.
However, instead of giving up or running away, I chose to face and bear it bravely. This kind of courage and responsibility not only allowed me to overcome difficulties and complete tasks, but also allowed me to grow and gain in the process.
It makes us realize that when facing the difficulties and challenges in life, we should maintain the spirit of courage and responsibility, and actively face and seek solutions.
The English writer Charles Dickens wrote in A Tale of Two Cities: "This is the best of times, this is the worst of times; This is the age of wisdom, this is the age of stupidity; This is the time of faith, this is the time of doubt; This is the season of light, this is the season of darkness; This is the spring of hope, this is the winter of disappointment; There are all kinds of things in front of people, and there is nothing in front of them; People are going straight to heaven, people are going straight to hell. ”
Although this passage describes the general context of society, it also applies to the changes in personal life.
The end of my marriage to my ex-husband may have been a turning point in our respective destinies, but no matter what, we should be brave enough to face every stage of life.
summary
This story made me deeply reflect on the meaning and value of life.
It made me aware of the ruthlessness of time and the fragility of life, and it also made me see the deep emotional bonds between people.
In the face of difficulties, we should maintain the spirit of courage and responsibility, and actively face and seek solutions.
At the same time, we should also cherish the emotional connection with others to make life richer and more fulfilling.