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Question丨 Marriage goes against human nature? Is the disease mostly related to partners? Professor: Playing ambiguous is good for physical and mental health
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Every New Year's Day, I believe that for many people who eat melon, it will be a very cheerful festival, especially for the wanderers who have left their hometowns to work, the significance is even greater, after a hard year, they can finally go home and reunite.
But even on such a day of universal celebration, for many young, unmarried friends, it is still inevitable to face a sweet trouble - urging marriage.
In view of this, the author has found a very reasonable explanation for everyone to excuse their "single state", that is, to quote the famous expert in Chinese medicine culture and Professor Qu Limin of Beijing University of Chinese Medicine in the book "Meditations on Life":
Marriage is against human nature, and 95% of the diseases after marriage are related to their partners, which is a challenge to human nature.
Marriage problems arise and are dysfunctional because men and women are two very different species. Men marry to live, to support their families, and to go home and have a mouthful of food. Women marry for love, have a person to talk to, have a person to chat.
Men are life, but they do not participate in chai rice oil salt vinegar. Women long for love, but every day chai rice oil salt vinegar, how can there be no contradiction?
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There are many similar remarks, which will not be listed here, and the author can roughly make a summary:
In Professor Qu Limin's view, the fixed spousal relationship between men and women such as marriage is an anti-human existence, which is very detrimental to people's physical and mental health. Because in the animal world, there is almost no similar mate relationship, so even if the animal needs to face the challenge of survival, it can also reduce a lot of unnecessary, especially emotional troubles. So between men and women, what kind of relationship is the most scientific and most conducive to physical and mental development? The answer is "ambiguity."
Regarding the right and wrong of Professor Qu Limin's conclusions, leaving aside for the time being, it is quite absurd to compare humans with animals so simply, it is simply to drive a backwards of civilization.
In the animal world, they still live a life of drinking blood? Why didn't Professor Qu Limin jump out and call on everyone to give up cooked food and live a similar life? Don't raise the bar, the principle of the two things is the same.
The progress of human civilization itself is a process of anti-bestiality, if everything is compared with animals, then where is the value and significance of the evolution of this civilization? Professor Qu Limin's explanation is that the donkey's lips are not right for the horse's mouth, it really should not come from the mouth of a well-known "expert professor", to know that Professor Qu Limin is still quite famous in the industry, even if there are several health care books that have been removed from the shelves because of some problems, it does not affect the status in the minds of fans, even if it is a casual spit, it may be regarded by many people as a guideline, so we must think twice.
In the author's opinion, the emergence of marriage is truly a big step in the evolution of human civilization, no longer messing around like animals, following the laws of nature and the nature of living things.
Professor Qu Limin only saw all kinds of contradictions in the married life of some families, and said that women marry for love, and men marry for life, but you can casually find a man on the street and ask, marry an old rich woman in her eighties, and from then on, the second half of your life is worry-free, will you be willing?
There are indeed many influencing factors for men and women to be together, but for the vast majority of partners and families, it is true that it is because of love, and it is not a random person on the street to marry /marry, there is a process of running together.
It is also said that if you marry a daughter-in-law, or marry your husband, the other party will only be angry with himself, which will cause irritability and thus cause illness.
Life after marriage is indeed inevitable to have certain bumps and bumps, this is a very normal thing, but in marriage, it is impossible to only be angry and angry! Isn't there any other joy and happiness?
Even if life really has no hope, full of all kinds of contradictions, you can choose divorce, ah, now is not a feudal society, women after divorcing men, discriminated against, it is difficult to find a mother-in-law. According to relevant statistics, the total number of men in our country's school-age population can be more than 30 million more than women. If other influencing factors were not taken into account, more than 30 million men would be doomed to be singles, and this had nothing to do with material conditions.
However, the author does not deny that in marriage, it is indeed a very sparse business, and it is nothing.
But even if you are really angry with your body, should you find your own reasons, how can you not divorce your other half? Don't mention who reaches middle age, family, children and many other influencing factors, since they have already been angry with the body, it must be non-"a day of cold", why did they go earlier? After half a lifetime, don't complain about anything anymore, either continue to live in confusion, or hurry up and get divorced and get free as soon as possible.
When marriage has become a burden, and even affected the health of the body, in fact, this pot, should not let the marriage to carry, this is unreasonable.
Marriage itself is a very simple, pure, continuation of the relationship, should be happier and happier. This is a very beautiful choice, do not judge it as sinful and unreasonable because of your negative personal feelings.
The funniest thing is that maintaining ambiguity is the best relationship between men and women, which is conducive to physical and mental health.
Is Professor Qu Limin, the initiator of this statement, the best of them? Also a master of playing ambiguous! But the problem is that according to the information found by the author, Professor Qu Limin seems to be married, and during the lecture, he has shown his love more than once, saying that the other half takes care of himself.
That being the case, as the proposer of this view, why did Professor Qu Limin make the opposite choice? Is it to experience the depths of married life for the majority of single friends? That's great.
The author is self-nominated
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