Marriage is the ultimate destination of a relationship, and it is a place where every couple of lovers fantasizes about arriving, but the lovers were still too young at the time, thinking that as long as two people get married, they will be able to be happy for a lifetime, and they will be able to go on for a long time.
This is not to blame them, any one of us, will inadvertently fantasize about beautiful things, this is our nature, after all, who will fantasize and dream of bad food? That will only increase our feelings of annoyance and anger.
There are many factors that determine whether a marriage is good or not, and one of the most basic and important points is that married life slowly becomes flat over time, and the husband begins to be impatient with his wife and begins to dislike his wife.
Some women, when their husbands have this kind of emotion, often lose their temper directly, quarrel with their husbands, and eventually the contradictions become larger and larger, directly endangering the marriage. But smart women don't do that, they don't lose their temper, and they don't mention divorce. In the face of men's dislike, smart women will not choose divorce, but insist on doing these 3 things well!
1. Insist on improving yourself and making yourself more excellent
In fact, like anyone, we will feel bored when we spend a long time with the same person, just like when we were at home when we were young, didn't we also lose our temper with our parents? It's just that now I have changed the object and changed the way I lose my temper.
In a relationship, this is also a test of a marriage, if two people because of mutual dislike, or one party dislikes the other party to have a conflict, and finally the contradiction is getting bigger and bigger, or even directly divorced, then it can only be said that the marriage is fragile. Smart women will choose to be calm, she knows that men are like this, even if divorced, there will be no change in the future.
Therefore, a woman will start from herself, she will choose to insist on improving herself, improving herself, and making herself excellent enough, because the reason for being disliked by her husband may be that she is not good enough, and when you are good enough, her husband will no longer dislike you, and even love you more than before.
2, adhere to the maintenance of their own, reduce the speed of aging
Men are visual animals, many men will begin to get bored and dislike their wives, because the wife is no longer as beautiful as it was then, if the woman has always remained bright, then men will not be abandoned.
Men will be naturally gentle with beautiful women, this is the nature of men, if men begin to dislike their wives, a large part of the reason may be that the wife is not as beautiful as when they were first in love, and even to the point where men cannot accept it.
At this time, smart women are not giving up on this marriage, but began to insist on maintaining themselves, do not be reluctant to spend money, because you do not spend this money, there will be other women to spend this money for you in the future, so women should always maintain themselves, when you are "getting younger", your husband will naturally like you again.
3. Insist on independence, whether spiritual or material
Part of the reason why a woman is disliked by her husband may also be because a woman becomes a housewife after marriage, in fact, such a woman is a gentle and virtuous wife who cares for the family in the eyes of outsiders, but for the husband, you are a goods that you can't get your hands on, that is, you spend money to hire a nanny at home, and you don't have to pay wages.
The woman who really keeps her husband in love must be an independent woman, not completely dependent on men, which is why her husband begins to dislike you.
So, when the husband begins to dislike you, the smart woman must also begin to wake up, at this time, you need to insist on being independent, whether it is spiritual or life, even if you really divorce in the future, you can live very easily, and you will not be unable to survive in this society.
When a marriage is doomed, although the man's dislike is the culprit, it is not entirely his fault. In marriage, we should always reflect on ourselves and be considerate of each other.
As a woman, you should be clear about what you want and what you don't want. You don't want the marriage to be broken, you should run the marriage well, you don't want to lose each other, you have to learn to be independent, you don't want to face that hateful face again, then you decisively separate.
Even if you are divorced, you have to invest in yourself to improve yourself, even if you are single, you have to make yourself live well, which is what smart women should do.
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