Author: One flower
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From friendship to love to marriage, everyone's life must go through these three stages, and each relationship will also go from the initial vigorous to the final bland.
Many people are prone to fall into such a misunderstanding, thinking that middle-aged people no longer need the nourishment of love, support the elderly, educate the next generation, desperately work overtime to make money, have long been tortured to physical and mental exhaustion, where is there time to talk about love?
Besides, looking at the same face all day, there is no freshness, people are animals that like the new and the old, married for many years, and can no longer find the passion of the original love.
Recently in the pursuit of "Female Psychologist", the latest episode talked about the emotional contradiction between middle-aged couples. In reality, once men reach the stage of middle age, they are prone to extramarital affairs, because they have achieved some kind of career success at this stage, or have completed the mission of educating their children, and they want to indulge again.
Middle-aged men often say three sentences, in fact, they are perfunctory to you, and women should be extra careful.
First, I am very busy, you don't think too much
"I'm busy."
Then he hung up the phone in a hurry, was he really that busy? But I also remember that when I was young, no matter how busy I was at work, working overtime until the early hours of the morning, he would also call you on video, and even ask you to eat a roadside stall together, which was the exclusive romance of two people.
At that time, he was indeed very busy, but he would not put the words "I am busy" on his lips, and when he was busy, he could always squeeze out time to say good morning and good night to you.
Now, he said, "I'm busy," and there was a beeping sound on the other end of the phone. In fact, whether a man is attentive to you or not has long been reflected in the details, and his perfunctory has been vividly reflected in the three words "I am busy".
Second, there is innocence between me and her
Lao Song and Da Fang in "Female Psychologist" are a middle-aged couple over 50 years old, da Fang suspects that her husband Lao Song has cheated on her square dance partner, Lao Song does not admit this, but insists on divorcing Da Fang.
"There's nothing between me and her."
"There is innocence between me and her."
"You don't have to look for trouble."
But if you are really innocent, how can you accept the other party's gifts, and often wear this dress on the body, do not want to take it off, but also often let the other party rub the car, sitting in the co-pilot position belonging to the wife, the most suspicious thing is that the dance partner's note was changed to the service number, a typical performance of weakness.
If men really care about women, they will not explain "I am innocent between her and her" repeatedly, but use practical actions to prove that they are indeed not entangled with each other, for example, delete all the contact information of the other party, and never interact again, so as to take care of his wife's feelings and make up for the lack of his wife's sense of security.
Third, you see for yourself
The most hated sentence in a man's mouth, this sentence "you look at it yourself" is definitely on the list.
When you are young, if a man says this sentence, it can be understood as young and ignorant, do not know how to manage love, and do not understand the mind of women.
But after entering middle age and having more than 20 years of life experience and experience, how can it be as low emotional intelligence as before? The fact that a middle-aged man can still say this sentence without shame can only prove one fact: he no longer cares about you, does not bother to pay attention to you, so he is perfunctory.
How to arrange the furniture at home, he said "you look at it", what gifts should be bought for parents during the New Year's Festival, he said "you look at it", what tutoring class should the child apply for, he said "You look at it".
Is this home yours alone? He was no longer worthy to be a qualified husband, son, father. When a woman receives such a signal, she has to be extra careful that he may already have a lover outside.
Feng Xiaogang once said: "How to choose marriage is wrong, and a long-term marriage is to be wrong." ”
But if the other half is mentally and physically derailed, how can you easily say that it will be wrong, middle-aged men have changed their hearts, and when they start to be perfunctory to you, women must be rational, first determine the doubts in their hearts, and once they become established facts, they must take up legal weapons and moral assistance to defend their rights.
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