The three-child policy is open, but the fertility rate is not ideal, the birth rate is at a new low, and the whole people are talking about "how to let women have more children?" Even more directly proposed: "Women who have babies should be paid, or some welfare benefits should be added." All kinds of ideas are endless, and the public is also broken in order to promote it.
But here's the problem! Why is the fertility rate in 2021 very low, and the number of people born on the mainland is not as good as in 2020 and 2019? Many mothers who have given birth to babies said: The pain and tiredness of having babies and raising babies is really difficult to say.
Case: Bao Mom was ridiculed for "urinary incontinence" in public, and her daughter rushed out to hug her mother
Zhan Lu picked up her daughter from school, but she did not expect that at the gate of her daughter's school, there was liquid flowing out of her pant legs. Zhan Lu was very anxious, blushing and heartbeating, not knowing what to do? When the people around her saw it, they were all laughing, and no one comforted her at all, let alone gave her a solution to help her alleviate her embarrassment.
At this moment, the young daughter rushed to her mother and gave her a warm hug. But Zhan Lu felt that she was really sorry for the daughter of the second child, and this mother was very incompetent and did not take good care of her daughter.
In this family, Zhan Lu has almost no status. In the face of her son-preference mother-in-law, she lived a very wronged life. Once, the mother-in-law was at home with people, and in order to show off that she had a grandson, she actually took away the baby who was breastfeeding in her arms, which was very disrespectful to the daughter-in-law.
Other times, she would lie on the ground and wipe the floor, and be summoned by her mother-in-law like a nanny. But the husband stayed out of the matter and treated him coldly. Zhan Lu was full of grievances, and there was no one to rely on.
Such a portrayal of life is simply the real life of some women, which makes people tearful and distressed. To sum up, the bitterness and tiredness of women giving birth to babies is obvious at once, probably these five points.
After giving birth, women may face these five major problems:
The first problem: physical impairment
After some women give birth to a baby, the first fetus falls into the root of the disease, such as adhesions or inflammation, low back pain and other diseases, it is difficult to completely remove the pain. The experience of impaired health makes women suffer for a long time, feel the torment of illness, and have a sense of fear of having a second child and a third child.
The second big problem: the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
After some women have a baby, in the trivial matter of raising a baby with a baby, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law intensifies, and the two people do not agree with each other, and it is difficult to reconcile. Therefore, women's emotions are affected, and for the sake of their own and family harmony considerations, they do not have expectations for the second and third children.
The third big problem: the husband lies in the body without a baby
Some husbands performed well before marriage, but their performance after marriage was worse than home. The husband lay down without a baby, handed over all the work of taking care of the children at home to the mother, and even felt that it was a matter of course for his wife to take the baby.
Such a husband is simply baoma's nemesis, where does baoma dare to have two or three children?
The fourth big problem: Bao Mom has no job and does not earn money
The economic base determines the superstructure, and the life of some mothers after marriage is supported by the husband's pocket money. The days of reaching out for money like this have passed for a long time, and bao mom feels very tired, she has no job and does not earn money, and she has no confidence in having a second child and a third child. After all, there is a lack of security in managing others to ask for money, and self-esteem is also frustrated and uncomfortable.
The fifth problem: mood anxiety, easy depression
Women with babies after marriage, especially novice mothers, do not have so much experience, the anxiety of the first time with a baby, and the painful experience when encountering difficult problems will be engraved in the mind for a long time. Every time I think about it, it is estimated that it is difficult to have the courage to plan to have a second child and a third child.
In fact, if women have watched the TV "Female Psychologist", they can have a deeper understanding of the problems faced by these women after marriage, and have a more comprehensive understanding of the hardships of women raising babies.
The play tells a lot of case details, including son preference, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, children's early love, maternal sequelae and other content, presenting the life of a married woman in front of the public, naked and very real. Naturally, women understand better why they don't want to have two or three children.
Well, here's the problem! How can women adjust their mentality and rekindle the desire to have a baby?
If unmarried women can master the skills of marriage and child-rearing from daily books or movies and other people's experiences. Married women can also learn a certain amount of experience from the experience of having a baby and carrying a baby. Then, women can work hard to have the next generation, while also taking care of themselves.
Even if she accidentally conceives a second child or a third child, or still has the desire to have another baby in her heart, women no longer have to suppress it, and can boldly conceive and give birth to a baby.
The measures that women can take are: check the body before pregnancy and childbirth, cure the problem first, and then conceive the baby. After giving birth to a baby, try to let the mother or in-law help you to reduce the pressure of confinement to take care of the baby. If necessary, you can ask a nanny or confinement sister-in-law to take care of the baby and serve the confinement.
Then, women should focus on making money and married life. Solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law first, and really deal with it badly can reduce the meeting between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Of course, if you can adjust the relationship between husband and wife, let the husband take care of the baby more, and the mother will withdraw to work part-time to make money, then the woman's family status and economic aspects will also be improved.
If we can not only bring a good baby at home, but also earn a lot of income, having a second and third child is no longer a "difficult" thing, and it will also help to improve the fertility rate.
In your opinion, is there any good way to promote fertility?