The recent hit TV series "Female Psychologist", for many reasons, the rating on the platform is not high. However, the topics that focus on social hotspots and pain points have resonated with many people and the degree of discussion is also very high.
Recently, Xi Mengyao sent out a dynamic on social platforms. In the article, Xi Mengyao said that recently she is chasing the TV series "Female Psychologist". And Zhan Lu, the mother who just gave birth to her second child in the play, her story is particularly touching, and I hope that more people can pay attention to the state of postpartum mothers and give them more care and love.
And Xi Mengyao herself is also a mother who has just given birth to a second child, so she is more sympathetic to Zhan Lu in the play. Such a voice is actually a voice for yourself.
The physiological dilemma of the mother after childbirth
There is such a plot in "Female Psychologist", Zhan Lu, a mother who has just given birth to her second child, talks to the teacher when sending her eldest daughter to school, and when she introduces herself, she suddenly feels a chill on her legs. She looked down and it turned out that she had leaked urine uncontrollably. Zhan Lu panicked and used his bag to block, facing so many parents and children, Zhan Lu was ashamed of himself, and he was eager to have a seam that could be drilled.
However, the child did not understand Zhan Lu's embarrassment, and the daughter's classmate pointed to Zhan Lu's pants and said loudly: "She wet her pants, such an adult still pees her pants." Along with the words came a piercing laugh. At this moment, everyone's attention was focused on Zhan Lu.
The daughter, who was already about to enter the school, heard such a voice and looked back. Zhan Lu did not want her daughter to see the embarrassment of being ridiculed, and waved her hand to let her fast-forward to school. But the daughter shouted "Mother", ran towards her, hugged Zhan Lu's leg tightly, and used her body to block the strange eyes of others for her.
And Zhan Lu's embarrassing situation is experienced by many mothers, and watching Zhan Lu's cramped uneasiness, mothers feel empathy.
Some people say that after giving birth to a child, a sneeze will cause leakage of urine. Some people say that they can't exercise now, as long as they jump a few times, they will not be able to control the leakage of urine. There are more people who call for leaking urine to basically happen to every woman who is a mother, if you see such a situation, don't laugh, don't throw a different look, and have more understanding and love for them.
And Xi Mengyao, mentioned at the beginning of the article, also spoke out for these mothers on social platforms. "It's not easy for moms."
Postpartum depression can also come to the door
The difficulty of mothers is not only physically difficult, psychological pain is a more serious problem faced by mothers. In "Female Psychologist", Zhan Lu confronts the female psychologist played by Yang Zi and tells the pain accumulated in her heart for so many years.
After finally giving birth to a second child, the mother-in-law was very happy, and from time to time she brought her old sister to the house as a guest, no matter whether Zhan Lu may be breastfeeding or not dressed, such behavior made Zhan Lu feel very uncomfortable but could not say anything. The mother-in-law will also snatch the child from Zhan Lu's hand, just to show off to her old sister that she has grandchildren.
Zhan Lu tried to find some comfort from her husband, but her husband did not care about the problems between her and her mother-in-law, and when she returned home, she would only watch a ball game with her children, while she needed to do housework and cook. Under such psychological pressure, Zhan Lu suffered from postpartum depression and actually wanted to hurt her son.
Society's expectations for mothers are too high, they have to take good children, but also do a good job of housework, as long as there is no consideration of any aspect, they will be tied to the hat of incompetent mothers. Mother-in-law and husband will complain, and even mothers themselves will wonder if they are really not doing well enough. At this time, no one cares how tired she is, no one cares what she thinks in her heart, and as long as she makes any request, she will be said to be "unreasonable" and "too fragile".
In such an environment, the mother will eventually lose herself, see no value to herself, and think that she can't do anything well.
How to balance family and work
In addition to physical and psychological torture, mothers also face difficulties at work. In "Female Psychologist", Zhan Lu is still insisting on working after giving birth to her eldest daughter, but she is really unable to let her balance her children and work. Zhan Luben is an excellent editor, usually very good, even if he has a child, he still wants to fight for the opportunity to be promoted. But the editor-in-chief met Zhan Lu alone at the café.
After the meeting, the editor-in-chief's first sentence was: "Working while taking the children, it must be very hard!" Zhan Lu quickly said: "It is not hard, I can take care of my children and family." But the editor-in-chief snorted softly, pointing out all the mistakes she had made at work during these hours. As the two were talking, Zhan Lu's mobile phone kept ringing, and it was a call from her mother-in-law, which may mean that something has happened to the child at home.
After Zhan Lu hung up the phone several times, the editor-in-chief saw that she was absent-minded and asked Zhan Lu to answer the phone quickly, while Zhan Lu, who hurriedly hung up the phone, ushered in a sentence from the editor-in-chief: "In fact, it is good to be a full-time mother." In this way, Zhan Lu was "resigned." Since then, Zhan Lu has begun a full-time housewife career of up to 8 years. It is only now that the second child has been born that it has completely collapsed.
Zhan Lu's encounter is not the epitome of many postpartum mothers. Originally, they had a great future in their careers, and they may have worked too hard for it, but because after giving birth to a child, everything returned to the original point. Not only do promotions and salary increases not have their own share, but they may also be discouraged because they cannot balance family and work.
Balancing family and work is a question that many women are asked. But here's the truth: it can't be balanced. No matter how much effort is made to maintain a superficial balance, there is always one side that is sacrificed.
There was once such a news, a mother lives in Tianjin, works in Beijing, she needs to spend 6 hours a day commuting, running between the two places, a year, the train mileage accumulated more than 7,000 kilometers. Why work so hard? Because she tries to balance her work with her family, she just wants to spend a night with her children after work. And this can only sacrifice their sleep time, relying on the train to make up for sleep.
In this way, she seems to balance the relationship between family and work, but at the expense of her own physical health. What is frustrating is that such "twin-city mothers" are not unique in cities like Beijing and Shanghai, and too many mothers who try to balance family and work have chosen such a path.
Through their own efforts, they expend their energy and body, trying to maintain this delicate balance, and while people praise their greatness, who would think that they are in pain that can only shed tears into their stomachs. "Working mom" has such an easy thing.
Write at the end
In "Female Psychologist", Zhan Lu finally sat in front of the computer for an online interview, and she was going to return to the workplace. Before the interview began, Zhan Lu took off her housecoat on behalf of her mother, changed into her professional clothes, and after taking a deep breath, she turned on the camera. In the face of the interviewer's question: "How can you be sure that after returning to the workplace, family and work will not conflict?" ”
"I can't guarantee it." Zhan Lu said calmly. At work, the workplace should be strict with women, but for working women who are mothers, they cannot be too harsh. Zhan Lu could only say: "If I get this job, I will work very hard." ”
Eventually, the interviewer gave his own answer: "We'll let you know the result later." What the result was, Zhan Lu did not know, but she had decided to face all this bravely.
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