In love and marriage, there is a truth that never changes:
Falling in love is easier said than done.
No matter how much they fell in love before, they walked into the life of chai rice oil and salt, the distance is closer, and as the days go by, it is inevitable that friction will arise, exposing the original shortcomings, and occasionally getting bored with the other half.
But human nature is like this, and the maintenance of any relationship is not simple and easy to obtain.
The relationship with the person you love is still like this, and another person may not be able to get better.
So, whether you are a couple or a couple, if you don't want to lose each other, don't do the following 3 things.
Don't get carried away, learn the word "caution" to preserve love
Watched an emotional mediation show:
The overall conditions of the girls are superior, the boys look ordinary, the girls are determined to break up in order to seek peace.
The girl said that when the boy went to college, he took good care of himself and treated himself like a queen, but when he went to society, he preferred work over himself.
After the whole audience interacted, the guests broke the truth in one sentence:
On several occasions, the girl had messed up the boy's work, disregarding the boy's dignity and face, and openly and provocatively dined intimately with another boy.
With his advantage in love, often poking the boy's heart, all kinds of works, all kinds of contempt, the boy has no reason to love her.
In fact, many people run into walls everywhere after their eager love, and clash with their other half, not because they are not excellent, or because the other party has changed their hearts;
Rather, it is taken for granted that what you do, the other party must unconditionally accept and approve, otherwise you do not love yourself.
In fact, this is purely a fallacy, no one does not need to be pampered, both men and women are like this;
Blindly only considering their own feelings and ignoring the other party will only make the originally reliable feelings drift away.
In the Biography of Zhen Huan, Zhen Huan's mother once taught Zhen Huan:
Between ordinary couples, the word caution is needed to preserve love.
Therefore, do not get carried away in the feelings, let alone get carried away, do not disregard each other's self-esteem and feelings;
Don't think that no matter what you do, the other party will be unconditionally tolerant, you must know that anyone's patience is limited;
Don't over-constrain and teach
In "The First Half of My Life", the little three Lingling, who has been criticized by people, is a gentle and considerate image that penetrates into the atrium of the married man Chen Junsheng.
However, after Chen Junsheng remarried with Ling Ling, he found that Ling Ling, who was originally gentle and lovely, had instead become a depressing and tired existence in his life.
The two people work in the same company, and Ling Ling is not more concerned about Chen Junsheng's mood, but often mentions his life to him.
Ask him to maintain a good working state and not let the leader find himself tired;
Tell him to speak carefully and respectfully to his leaders.
Left and swaying Chen Junsheng, many decisions in raising children and caring for the elderly.
Repeatedly urged him to firmly seize the opportunity to promote the vice president.
Chen Junsheng was controlled, restrained and taught by Ling Ling everywhere, as if he was a cash machine, which could not rust, let alone stop, and as for his feelings, it did not matter.
Therefore, Chen Junsheng will be physically and mentally exhausted, driving downstairs, but unwilling to go upstairs, he even broke down and cried, regretting the decision to divorce.
To get along with anyone, first of all, we must respect that the other party is an independent person, rather than letting the other party live like a marionette, without their own opinions, lack of feelings and gratitude as a person.
It should be up to the other party to decide on its own, as far as possible, rather than inserting a lever, making decisions for the other party without authorization, disciplineing the other party, and controlling the other party.
Otherwise, the other party will only dislike you more and more, desperate to escape and break free.
Don't cut off your source of income
In the book The Chains of Human Nature, it is said:
Money is like a person's sixth sense, without it, don't want to play the other five senses to the extreme.
If you don't have enough income, half the possibility of life will be blocked.
Poverty can make a person mean, it can make you suffer endless humiliation.
Two people together, eating and wearing, all need the support of money;
Money is not omnipotent, but it is difficult to move without money;
Money is the basic guarantee of feelings, when there is a slight discord between feelings, money can stitch up this rift;
Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory mentions that the most basic thing for people is food and clothing, the needs of work, without these, other winds and snow, just worse.
Love is beautiful, but life is not so beautiful;
Sufficient material guarantees can make a relationship run more smoothly, and only two people can maintain a consistent pace and create the future together in terms of economic strength or value realization;
Otherwise, if one party does not have basic economic ability for a long time, it is easy to be disliked and abandoned by the other half;
In order to be able to join hands with each other in this life, please remember not to "fall behind".
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