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01
Ling Ling is a different third party.
Her difference is that she does not have a flower-like appearance, her skin is still a little yellow, there is no eye-catching temperament, and her dress is even more ordinary.
Compared to Luo Zijun, her cards were not good, and even a little worse, and even Luo Zijun, who had seen her, did not regard her as a competitor.
To outsiders, she is definitely not a third party.
On the contrary, Luo Zijun, as the original match, looks young and beautiful, very temperamental, and his clothes and shoes are all big brands.
In terms of appearance, Luo Zijun was far from crushing Ling Ling.
Luo Zijun always thought that as long as she remained beautiful as a flower, her husband would not cheat, but Ling Ling, who was inferior to her everywhere, stole her husband.
02
Compared to Luo Zijun, where did Ling Ling win?
Ling Ling is gentle and considerate, she can take the initiative to stay with Chen Junsheng when he is working overtime, and she can also take the initiative to send care and painkillers when his stomach is uncomfortable.
The original Luo Zijun is also gentle and considerate, she rarely quarrels with Chen Junsheng, puts her husband and children first every day, and she cares about Chen Junsheng's life.
The difference is that Ling Ling cares about Chen Junsheng's vulnerability, while Luo Zijun cares about Chen Junsheng's life and rarely worries about Chen Junsheng's work.
Ling Ling and Chen Junsheng are colleagues, similar in age, and she can better understand a man's situation at work in middle age.
There is also a very important point, Ling Ling is self-motivated, strong learning ability, excellent work, at the same time, Chen Junsheng is also a self-motivated person in her work.
The two of them are not highly educated, but their pursuit of work is the same, which can make two people resonate even more.
Secondly, Ling Ling is empathetic.
She has never embarrassed Chen Junsheng, and every time Chen Junsheng is with her, she can consider the problem from Chen Junsheng's point of view and avoid arguing because she makes Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun quarrel.
She wanted to get away with it, divorced early, and told Chen Junsheng that her marriage had failed not because of him, but because she could not get by.
She also comforted Chen Junsheng not to be stressed because of her divorce.
In fact, Ling Ling is very aware that Chen Junsheng, an old and good man, is a person, and he will definitely be ashamed of her because of her divorce.
Seeing Chen Junsheng's dilemma, Ling Ling made it clear that she wanted to return Chen Junsheng to Luo Zijun, and successfully forced Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun to divorce her in this way of wanting to get away with it.
In his life with Chen Junsheng, Luo Zijun rarely considered Chen Junsheng's inner anxiety, but often worried about losing this "golden rice bowl" and questioned Chen Junsheng.
This is the most annoying thing for men.
In addition, Luo Zijun often thinks about herself, rather than Chen Junsheng's difficulties outside, she spends money like flowing water, and does not understand the hardships of making money.
She also has a nasty mother's family, which also reduces her marriage.
These were not big things in the early days of Chen Junsheng's career, but with Chen Junsheng's progress, Luo Zijun's lack of ambition and all the annoying problems on his body would be magnified.
Every progressive person keeps throwing away things that are not suitable for him, including his wife, unless something is binding him.
Just like Lao Ding in "Parental Love", he did not like his original match, but was forced to be bound together by responsibility, but as soon as Wang Xiu'e died, Lao Ding's inner thoughts were exposed.
The desire to have something that fits one's identity and soul is human nature.
03
Ling Ling is better than Luo Zijun not only for her care and thoughtfulness as a woman, but also for more important reasons.
Ling Ling paid her heart to Chen Junsheng.
Ling Ling's marriage failed, as a single mother, her heart is eager for warmth, and Chen Junsheng's kindness brought her warmth and made her like him.
She used her sincerity to think about Chen Junsheng everywhere, so that Chen Junsheng completely lost his measure and entered her trap.
In addition to sincerity, what makes Ling Ling smarter than Luo Zijun is that she sees human nature clearly.
No man can refuse a woman who genuinely treats him, thinks about him everywhere, can progress with him, and has a clear understanding of his inner troubles and anxieties.
As the saying goes, knowing oneself knows one's enemy and winning every battle.
In the process of Ling Ling's interaction with Chen Junsheng, she knew Chen Junsheng and knew everything about Luo Zijun.
In particular, Chen Junsheng's vulnerability allowed Ling Ling to prescribe the right medicine for him.
A large part of the reason why Ling Ling can understand Chen Junsheng so thoroughly is that she is also in such a situation and can feel more empathy with Chen Junsheng.
She is a single mother, she wants to support her family alone, facing the limitations of academic qualifications and the pressure of the workplace, she can only keep working hard.
Chen Junsheng, a person to raise the whole family, but also because of the limitation of academic qualifications, and middle-aged, facing a young person with a higher education than him, his crisis is everywhere, but also have to work hard to maintain the existing living conditions.
Luo Zijun would not understand these anxieties and pressures, but Ling Ling knew better than anyone.
Whether it is psychologically or at work, Ling Ling is the one who takes the initiative, and she understands that she must not only work hard, but also emotionally to change her life.
She clearly knew what she wanted, in addition to hard work, she could more accurately prescribe the right medicine, which Luo Zijun was far behind.
Luo Zijun's sense of superiority comes from vanity and arrogance, in fact, there is no useful ability, and Ling Ling's ability comes from her efforts and control of the overall situation.
Before the divorce, Luo Zijun was just a vase, while Ling Ling was a warrior, and who was strong and who was weak knew at a glance.
One lives a muddy life, one works hard for his own beliefs, and in this competition between them, Luo Zijun lost at the beginning.
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