When I brushed the drama for the first time, I felt that Luo Zijun was particularly pitiful, and was ruined by an old and divorced woman, Ling Ling. Hated Ling Ling, a high-ranking little third.
Brush up on the drama again and quit your emotions. Suddenly, I found that Luo Zijun would have such a result, in fact, it was because he lacked these three abilities.
01. The ability to grasp the key points
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The scene, across the screen can feel the taste of embarrassment.
Luo Zijun, who went to look for Chen Junsheng, met Ling Ling by chance, watched her holding a fast food, and warmly invited her to come to dinner together. Ling Ling couldn't push it, and could only let the enthusiastic Luo Zijun pull himself to the table.
Luo Zijun, Ling Ling, Chen Junsheng, the three of them sat at a table to eat, the atmosphere was awkward. Especially Chen Junsheng, he wanted to find a seam to drill into. Only Luo Zijun, who was in the dark, ate without heart or lungs.
Tang Jing saw the picture of the three of them eating together on the mobile phone and immediately rushed to the scene, afraid that Luo Zijun would be bullied by these two people. When he arrived, he found that the scene was unusually harmonious, and Tang Jing knew that Luo Zijun did not know the truth.
Luo Zijun handed Tang Jing a hairy crab and said that he didn't know if it was Yangcheng Lake, and the hairy crab must eat Yangcheng Lake.
On the side of He Han, there are words in the words, crab is actually Yangcheng Lake or Taihu Lake, the taste is no difference, the key is that the plate of shrimp in front of you has a problem, not too fresh.
Luo Zijun did not hear the sound of the words, and said vigorously, it is fresh! Junsheng has already eaten several of them!
He Han's meaning is that she has completely failed to grasp the point. She was eating with Xiao San and treating people as friends, which was really stupid.
This was the first ability that Luo Zijun lacked, the ability to grasp the key points.
She suspected that her husband was cheating, but put the imaginary enemy on the young girl, but in the end she was defeated by Ling Ling, a middle-aged woman with a divorced son.
After she returned to her family, she spent all day shopping to feed herself, thinking that as long as she looked good, she could tie Chen Junsheng's heart.
Cooking and picking up her son have a nanny to do, and she spends all her time watching her husband not cheat.
It is precisely because of this that Chen Junsheng will feel very suffocated, feel monitored, and have no freedom. I was tired from working all day and had to face my wife's suspicions, so I would rather stay in the car for more than go home.
In this marriage, Luo Zijun did not grasp the focus, and her focus has always been on Chen Junsheng, not on herself.
When a woman focuses all her attention on how to look at a man, it is undoubtedly the saddest and most pitiful. Such a woman has lost herself and lost her reason to be loved.
Some people say that when you like a horse, don't chase it, because you can't catch up at all. Instead, plant a prairie, and when the grass grows and the flowers are in full bloom, the horses will naturally come to you.
Whether you are working hard in the workplace or being a full-time housewife at home, don't give up your growth. What is the purpose of knowing everything you do? What's the point?
So, we must have the ability to grasp the key points and know what we should do most? Also learn to put your own growth first at all times.
With 80% of your energy on self-growth, you will not suffer all day long, afraid of your husband cheating!
02. Cultivate your own abilities
Tang Jing broke Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling's adulterous affair, but she did not tell her directly, because she knew that for Luo Zijun, marriage was all she had.
Therefore, she gently asked Luo Zijun, if Chen Junsheng really cheated, what would you do? Have you ever calculated how much you spend a year? Can you afford to support yourself and your son?
Luo Zijun shook her head, she did not expect Chen Junsheng to divorce her.
Usually, she buys a pair of 8000 shoes without blinking an eye, if she goes out to work on her own, she will definitely not be able to buy such shoes.
Therefore, according to the current consumption level, if divorced, Luo Zijun will definitely not be able to support himself.
In order to raise you, I will return to the family with peace of mind and teach my husband and children. Luo Zijun slowly lost the ability to make money on his own.
Mrs. Kuo's life, which comes to her hand and opens her mouth, is a chronic poison that makes her lazy and easy to rely on in her accumulated life.
When sudden changes disrupt our peaceful lives, it is easy to make ourselves helpless and full of a deep sense of powerlessness.
So, no matter what time, you have to have the ability to support yourself. Even if you are at home with a baby, you must insist on learning, at home to teach your husband and children is only a choice for us, we must have the determination and courage to go out to work at any time.
03. Leave the ability of anyone to live
In an interview, Song Dandan once said: I will not keep anyone who leaves, why should I keep it? If you feel uncomfortable with me anymore, you can leave at any time.
Someone below has a message: the message that wants to leave cannot be retained, it is yours, not yours, and it cannot be retained. Relying on yourself and loving yourself is the greatest sense of security.
Oh, yes! A person's greatest sense of security comes from leaving anyone alive. Because, we know, relying on ourselves is the most reliable thing in the world.
Luo Zijun felt that Chen Junsheng was her heaven, and if Chen Junsheng cheated, she felt that she simply could not live.
Tang Jing said directly, "When you die, isn't it just in line with the wishes of others, and you don't even have to leave your marriage!" Are you willing to call your son someone else's mother? ”
This earth will turn around without anyone, and no one can live without another person. Sometimes, we feel that we can't live without another person, it's just an illusion of fear of hurt.
At this time, Luo Zijun may really not be able to live without Chen Junsheng. But it also made her understand,
The ability to live without anyone is not innate, but is learned after being squashed by life.
I especially like this sentence: No matter what point fate throws you, you will search for the place, do the best you can, improve on every little thing, and take every job seriously.
Luo Zijun also began to work hard after the divorce to win the custody of his son.
Leaving Chen Junsheng, she found another self and lived a more exciting life. It was not as she had thought before, that she would not be able to live without Chen Junsheng.
Without the ability of anyone to live, in other words, to believe in themselves and rely entirely on their own abilities. Only with this ability can you qualify and have the confidence to be the best version of yourself, without relying on anyone or pleasing anyone.
Tang Jing is such a person, she and He Han are a strong alliance, and they can be okay without being together.
Luo Zijun, also under the blows of Chen Junsheng, began to transform, was blessed by misfortune, and finally gained this ability to leave anyone alive.
04.
Luo Zijun lost not so much to Ling Ling as to himself.
She can have such an excellent friend as Tang Jing and marry such an excellent husband as Chen Junsheng, which shows that she was also a very powerful person before. The reason why it has become, now so superficial and incompetent, is the result of indulging oneself.
She can't grasp the point because she doesn't take herself as the focus, but everything revolves around her husband, and finally loses herself.
She lost the ability to support herself because she credulously believed the man's saying that I raise you and gave up self-growth. After men raise you and raise you to waste, they begin to dislike you in various ways, which is human nature.
Leaving away the ability of anyone to live is both gratifying and pathetic, gratifying is the beginning of self-awakening, and sad is to go through painful hurt.
Phoenix Nirvana, reborn from the fire, everyone who goes forward with pain, can meet the best of themselves!
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