In 1976, Yu Xiuhua was born with illness and spent her childhood in ridicule. After becoming an adult, he entered the grave of marriage early under the arrangement of his parents, and the other party was a penniless tramp.
Originally, she may have lived a life that she could see at a glance, but she did not expect that when people reached middle age, their lives took a huge turn, and they unexpectedly became famous overnight because of their excellent writing talent.
In October 2015, Yu Xiuhua walked into the people's court and ended the marriage she hated for 20 years. 7 years later, after experiencing the hardships of life and being tortured in marriage, she boldly started a new relationship with the post-90s guys, so will she harvest real happiness this time?
Yu Xiuhua, born in 1976 in Hengdian Village, Hubei Province, suffered from cerebral palsy due to a recarriage at birth and a long period of lack of oxygen, so she had difficulty walking since she was a child.
Although it is cerebral palsy, she is luckier than other patients, without a wheelchair, life can take care of herself, but she is unstable and speaks incoherently.
However, such a birth still determines that her life is tragic, and like most disabled people, Yu Xiuhua's entire life is fighting against disability.
In childhood, due to the backwardness of the village, feudal superstitions were filled with the old ideas of the villagers, and Yu Xiuhua's parents were no exception, they invited the so-called divine doctor to see her.
The "Divine Doctor" said: Although these words are nonsense, they still bring a heavy mental burden to the young Yu Xiuhua, so that her entire childhood is dim and dull, and even frequently asks herself: Why didn't she do a good thing in her past life, why didn't she be a good person?
It was hard to get to school, but new troubles came again, because she could not walk, she could only rely on her parents to carry into school, after several years she could barely walk on crutches, and after a few years she could slowly walk on crutches.
Although she threw away one, Yu Xiuhua was still very "different" compared with other students, so her classmates were not willing to play with her, and even sneered.
Until one time, a classmate said to her, "Look at you, holding a stick like a person who wants food", Yu Xiuhua's self-esteem was completely hit, and she threw away the last crutch that supported her body and began to walk shakily until now.
If it weren't for the arrogance of the third year of high school, perhaps Yu Xiuhua's life would have been a different situation. Due to the impact of the disease, although Yu Xiuhua can take care of herself, her fingers will still shake uncontrollably, and her handwriting is very sloppy when reading and writing, especially when writing.
In her third year of high school, because of her sloppy handwriting, the composition she wrote was scored zero by the teacher, and Yu Xiuhua, who was angry, impulsively dropped out of school.
As a teenager, not going to school, how to support herself, especially a disabled person like her. She also tried to work in Wenzhou with her compatriots, but her physical defects became the biggest obstacle to her finding a job, and she applied for a job countless times, each time failing.
Finally, in desperation, she thought of begging, but when she stood on the street with a bowl and watched the people coming and going, she could not kneel, because her self-esteem would not allow her to kneel, and it would never allow herself to do so until the day when there was no food to eat.
At the age of 19, Yu Xiuhua, who was already in suffering, was pushed into another abyss.
With the growth of age, the second elder of the Yu family, who was gradually unable to do so, looked at Yu Xiuhua, who was still unable to move, and became more and more worried, after all, the two could not accompany her for a lifetime, and they had to find a reliance for her for the rest of her life.
But things are not as easy as imagined, the conditions in her own family are not rich, plus Yu Xiuhua's physical defects cause her to not be able to do too heavy farm work, and the people in the village are unwilling to combine with such a family. In desperation, her parents could only find a door-to-door son-in-law for her.
In this way, Yu Xiuhua, who was still in a period of ignorance about marriage, married Yin Shiping, a 31-year-old tramp, under the arrangement of her parents.
But at this time, Yu Xiuhua, who is in the girlhood, also has an infinite yearning for love, which also means that this marriage is doomed to failure.
The two have no emotional basis, and they don't look at each other well, and After marriage, Yu Xiuhua is tormented in her heart, and the bitterness in her heart has nowhere to tell.
What is even more excessive is that Yu Xiuhua also particularly hates her husband's touch, she does not let him have sex, and even said: "The same room can, take the money, 500 yuan", Yin Shiping naturally can't take out 500 yuan, so he had to give up.
Also on weekdays, Yin Shiping is also extremely cold to Yu Xiuhua, he went out to work, the two did not send a message, nor did they make a phone call, home for Yin Shiping is just a place to return to the Spring Festival.
Not only that, he often mocked Yu Xiuhua's disability. Once, in order to get back the 800 yuan owed by the boss, Yin Shiping actually asked Yu Xiuhua to stop the boss's car and said to her: "You are disabled, he does not dare to hit you."
Yu Xiuhua asked, "What if you really bump into each other?" The husband was silent. Therefore, in her opinion, in her husband's heart, her life is only worth 800 yuan, which is not as good as a pig.
Such a deformed marriage can be said to bring Yu Xiuhua's uneasiness and fear far more than the pressure of her childhood, and even bluntly said: 20 years of marriage, the trauma to her, the greatest harm to her.
So, in every night when her body and mind were torn apart, she wondered: When will such a day pass?
She hated marriage, gritted her teeth, and later simply wrote this hatred in the poem": "This bed is not a marriage bed, a wooden board is more like a tomb bed." ”
It is said that when God closes the door for you, he will leave a window for you, and Yu Xiuhua is like this. Although Heaven gave her a disabled body and a deformed marriage, it unexpectedly gave her a sense of detachment from life.
Slowly, she expressed this feeling in the form of poetry, and from then on she also had a spiritual crutch. In 1998, Yu Xiuhua wrote her first small poem, "Imprints", a poem she wrote to herself, in which a sentence "crawling in the cement herself" almost predicted the fate of her life.
With the first, there was a second, and gradually writing poetry became the only spiritual salvation in her boring and hopeless life, and as soon as new inspirations appeared in her mind and new experiences, she wrote them down.
At first, without a computer, she wrote by hand, but her hands trembled, and the words she wrote twisted and twisted, and she pressed her other hand on her wrist, writing word by word.
Finally, in 2008, Yu Xiuhua had her first mobile phone, and she also learned to type, writing poetry in the qq space.
Later, some netizens suggested that she go to the forum to post, so that more people will watch, she occasionally went to the Internet café to start writing in the Zhongxiang forum, unexpectedly the poetry was posted on the response is very good, Yu Xiuhua also met a lot of like-minded friends.
Slowly, netizens learned about her family situation, and felt that she used her mobile phone to write poetry is very difficult, so they organized a donation of money to buy a computer, with this computer, she really began to write, that year was 2009.
This time it was not only written for herself, but also for more people to see, her poems are vivid and spirited, and soon they have received the attention of many people, and their talents have been recognized by more and more people.
Then good luck followed. Finally, after years of suffering, Yu Xiuhua, a child who was forgotten by heaven, finally got the favor of fate.
The famous editor Liu Nian discovered the pearl, and since then her fate has changed completely, and her poems have been published in the Poetry Journal.
The work was published, and Yu Xiuhua's passion became more and more intense, so the poems were written more and more, as if her bitterness that had nowhere to vent day and night was all turned into a steady stream of inspiration, followed by her two collections of poems, "The Shaky World" and "Moonlight Falling on the Left Hand".
But what really made her a hit was the poem "Across Most of China to Sleep with You" published in 2014, with strong affection, explicit expression, coupled with her special experience, which quickly made this poem popular on the Internet.
However, there are not many people who are popular, and the popularity of poetry has also pushed Yu Xiuhua to the cusp of the storm, some people praise her true feelings, but some people criticize her for being morally illogical, but no matter how polarized the reputation is, Yu Xiuhua is indeed on fire, and she also has the title of "cerebral palsy poet".
At the same time, the popularity of this poem also helped Yu Xiuhua get rid of the shackles of her 20-year marriage, she took the first manuscript fee in her life, gave all the 150,000 yuan she got to her husband, and only put forward one request, that is, divorce.
But Yin Shiping is not stupid, how can he easily divorce her who has become famous, he proposed to Yu Xiuhua an unreasonable request for a million mental damage fees, Yu Xiuhua is not afraid, but strongly threatens: this month away from 150,000, next month it will be 100,000.
Seeing that there was no need to talk, Yin Shiping had to compromise and took 150,000 helplessly divorced. At this moment, the wounds in Yu Xiuhua's heart that had been festering for a long time were finally healed.
The woman who is nearly 40 years old has filed for divorce, not to mention that she is still a disabled person, which is incomprehensible to ordinary people, so there are many opinions.
But Yu Xiuhua said: "I know that the future is slim, but it is better than in marriage, a good marriage will complete one person, a bad marriage will directly destroy two people, I am not lucky, I met the bad one, I don't want to wait until I am 60 years old to get divorced." ”
Although Yu Xiuhua's experience is unfortunate and her marriage is deformed, her poems do not reveal half of the desolation, but hide hot emotions, and even the most popular evaluation of her is "living in the mud, writing poetry in the clouds".
It is true that she was born in the countryside since she was a child, and the beauty of the world seems to be very far away from her, but the poems she writes are so open-minded, there is a dull life in the poems, and there is also hot love and hot desire.
In fact, this is inseparable from Yu Xiuhua's thoughts, although the past is sad, but fortunately in the emotional abundance, so in her view poetry is a product of emotion, love comes to poetry naturally has love, thinking of her son's poetry naturally has family affection, it is real, do not have to cover up.
At the same time, she also writes about sex and love in straightforward language, and even boldly states that sex and love are very direct things, so it is better to write directly.
I have to say that God really left a good window for her, although physically disabled, but this defect is also like a shining mark, the soul is hidden behind the mark, at first everyone was attracted to her mark, but after reading her poems, she knew that her soul was more fiery and dazzling.
Now Yu Xiuhua is 46 years old, and she has long passed the age of confusion, but she still has a girlish heart, although she no longer has fantasies about marriage, she still believes in romantic love.
Finally, in 2021, she waited for the love she wanted.
On January 1, 2022, a post-90s boy named Yang Yongce posted a video on his personal short video account, in which he was sunny and handsome, wearing sunglasses and holding 99 roses given to him by Yu Xiuhua, walking side by side with a smiling Yu Xiuhua.
As soon as the picture turned, Yu Xiuhua was wearing a long skirt and smiling like a flower on the swing, behind him was Yang Yuce, who pushed the swing, and his copywriting said, "I traveled with her through the century, running in both directions, and getting together under this swing frame..."
Between the lines, there is no concealment of love for Yu Xiuhua, extremely high-profile. Yes, Yu Xiuhua is in love.
As soon as the video came out, netizens could not sit still, and speculated about Yang Yongce's intentions, after all, from his previous videos, it can be seen that he is a beekeeper and has a pair of children.
Therefore, netizens can't help but suspect that Yang Yongce and Yu Xiuhua's purpose together is not pure, thinking that he covets her name, plots her wealth, and rubs enough heat to better sell honey.
In fact, netizens speculated that he was close to Yu Xiuhua utilitarian is not surprising, after all, Yu Xiuhua has been labeled as "cerebral palsy", "grassroots" and "peasant woman" since the day he became famous, and the 46-year-old she is no longer young, while Yang Yuce, a post-90s guy, is still young and handsome, with sound limbs, so that the age and identity difference is too disparity in love, it is difficult to make people suspicious.
Therefore, netizens have always maintained a strict attitude towards this relationship, especially in a copywriting, Yang Yongce played Yu Xiuhua's "Yu" as "Yu".
This made netizens more condemned and questioned him, and what they didn't think about was that in the face of doubt, Yang Yongce replied: "I am fighting with my life, and I must love when I die!" Don't look at me with your narrow minds..."
However, such words are nothing more than sugar-coated shells in the eyes of most people.
Of course, there are also some people who believe that Yang Yongce loves Yu Xiuhua's abundant soul and extraordinary talent, and sends them heartfelt blessings.
However, for these criticisms and love rumors, Yu Xiuhua has not yet made a positive response, but it also shows that she acquiesced to the existence of this young lover.
In fact, netizens do not need to worry about her so much, although outsiders see that Yang Quece's purpose is not pure, but it is not difficult to see in the previous interview that Yu Xiuhua's attitude towards love does not care about the other party's external conditions and purposes, just need to meet a person who is a little good to her in the empty time.
Especially on January 13, she released a Weibo post, which confirmed that she had already seen love thoroughly.
True love, each taking what you need, at least Yu Xiuhua on the swing is a joy from the heart at that moment.
In fact, to carefully taste Yu Xiuhua's current life, it is much more comfortable than most people. Although she has been famous for a long time, she did not choose to move to the bustling city, but continued to live in the small Hengdian village, planting flowers, burning tea, reading books every day, writing poetry when inspiration came, meeting the right person, and talking about a relationship, which can be described as truly realizing the freedom of life.
In the eyes of many, fame has brought her money and status. But in fact, for a person who has lived in someone else's arrangement for the first 40 years, fame only gives her the opportunity to choose independently, no longer be swayed by others, no longer shackled by physical defects.
In short, no matter what kind of life path she will choose next, as long as she continues to uphold this fearless spirit, even if she walks shakily, it is full of hope and light.
Fate has always been in their own hands, a person's origin does not determine everything, children born in rich families have also gone astray, and there are many people born in poor mountain villages who shine.
Only by constantly fighting against fate can we jump out of the original trajectory and find the value of our own lives.