Poet of "cerebral palsy"
There is such a woman, she was born with cerebral palsy, and after dropping out of high school, she was forced to marry a tramp. Her favorite thing to do is to write poetry on the computer with her trembling hands while she is busy farming.
The fate is so tragic but still able to stick to the dream, this kind of civilian heroism that rises up against fate, Presumably will make many people feel admiration.
However, the reality is just the opposite, after her fame, countless insults and doubts poured in, only because her poem called "Through Most of China to Sleep with You", the poem was bold and explicit, subverting many people's definition of poetry.
First, write poetry in the clouds, live in the mud
She is Yu Xiuhua, a rural woman, a "poet with cerebral palsy", a self-proclaimed slut, and a lover of writing "yellow poems". Because the sentence "Sleeping with you and being slept by you are almost the same, nothing more than the force of two bodies colliding" exploded all over the internet.
Yu Xiuhua
People who like Yu Xiuhua are because of her poems, saying that her poems are extremely tense, revealing the desire for love and sex in human nature;
People who don't like Yu Xiuhua are also because of her poems, saying that her poems are "little yellow poems", full of vulgar nudity and unsightly.
The reason why there is such a big controversy is because in people's general understanding, poetry is mostly borrowed allegory, which is obscure, which also caters to the implicit disposition of Chinese.
But Xu Xiuhua's poems simply put love and sex naked in front of the public, this straightforward and explicit way is contrary to traditional thinking, which will naturally provoke two extreme ways of pursuit and insult.
The reason why Yu Xiuhua is so "deviant" is not that she wants to rely on these to win people's attention, but because her life is full of opposites and misfortunes, so in her poetry, people can always feel a sense of pity for the injustice of fate.
Second, the crazy weeds in the field
In 1976, Yu Xiuhua was born, and due to a delivery error, she suffered from cerebral palsy due to a lack of oxygen in her brain.
Fortunately for the unfortunate, her intellect was not affected. Because of the injury to her cerebellar brainstem, she lost most of her balance and was shaky even walking, let alone doing other things.
Not only that, her face will twitch from time to time, her mouth will involuntarily tilt upwards, and it is very difficult to speak.
These unusual places made her discriminated against when she was studying, and she did not dare to contact her classmates. When other classmates were playing and playing, she could only spend time alone in her seat, trembling and writing poems with a pen.
In her sophomore year of high school, Yu Xiuhua's Chinese was scored 0 by the teacher, on the grounds that the words she wrote were illegible. This incident completely crushed Yu Xiuhua's confidence, and she took the initiative to beg her parents to take her out of school and burn the textbook in one breath.
In the eyes of her parents, after Yu Xiuhua dropped out of school, she lost her value, so her parents began to give her a marriage and wanted to marry her quickly.
The worldly vision usually does not tolerate the outlier, most people look at her with a kind of "pity", and her life and even her marriage are with a sense of conciliation.
When Yu Xiuhua was 19 years old, her mother took it upon herself to let her marry Yin Shiping, who was 12 years older than herself. In the eyes of the mother, even if the son-in-law's conditions are poor, as long as he is willing to marry his daughter, it is a "gift".
Yin Shiping is a person who does not know how to respect his partner, in his eyes, the concept of wife is not there, and women are more like a reproductive tool.
In his eyes, Yu Xiuhua is disabled, and it is already dutiful to provide her with food and drink. Therefore, he can insult Yu Xiuhua wantonly, he can not care about her personality, and he does not understand what personality is.
Therefore, Yu Xiuhua fell, he would not help, he would only laugh wildly. It's as if your own pet is ugly, adding to the joy of life.
Yu Xiuhua was sick, and he could kick her out of bed with extreme disgust. He did not dare to stop the boss's car, so he instructed Yu Xiuhua to ask for a salary for himself, and said with a straight face: "You are disabled, he does not dare to hit you." ”
Even in the face of the interview camera, he can smoke while laughing and saying: "A woman is a pig, only you will coax." His face was full of pride and glory about sexism.
Yu Xiuhua's husband, Yin Shiping
Yin Shiping was extremely disgusted with his wife's daily typing and writing poems in front of the keyboard, and Yin Shiping could not understand these things, which made him even more disgusted with Yu Xiuhua.
He had long been accustomed to belittling his wife for everything, but on this level of spirit, he felt defeated for the first time, and this uncontrollable feeling made him feel "very faceless".
This kind of personality trampling and not being understood situation cannot be tolerated by anyone, let alone the sensitive poet Yu Xiuhua, which is undoubtedly a kind of spiritual delay.
She divorces Yin Shiping almost every year, but she is only a rural woman and has no source of income. Yin Shiping did not agree to divorce, and she did not even have the money to sue her husband.
Countless times of domestic violence, endless verbal humiliation, which made Yu Xiuhua unbearable this marriage, she gritted her teeth in the poem: "My body does not have a good place; I do not know so extended to today's loneliness."
Yu Xiuhua responded to her marriage
Third, I am a slut, what's wrong?
In 2014, Yu Xiuhua wrote poems online as usual, and when she edited the name of the poem, she had a clever move to change the original see you to sleep you. The poem also became "Across Most of China to Sleep with You":
In fact, sleeping with you is similar to being slept by you
The force of the collision of the two bodies is nothing more than the flower that this force has prompted
It is nothing more than the virtual spring of this flower that makes us mistakenly think that life has been reopened
For most of China, everything is happening: volcanoes are erupting, rivers are drying up
Some political prisoners and displaced people who are not cared about
Elk and red-crowned cranes at gunneck all the way
I went through the rain of bullets to sleep with you
I am pushing countless nights into a dawn to sleep with you
I am countless of me running into one I go to sleep with you
Of course, I will also be led astray by some butterflies
Think of some praise as spring
Make a village similar to Hengdian your hometown
And they
These are all indispensable reasons for me to go to sleep with you
As soon as the poem was released, it was like a flat thunder, and it directly detonated the Internet. Yu Xiuhua became famous overnight, and countless people began to long to know about this alternative poet.
Yu Xiuhua life photos
After knowing that this woman was born with cerebral palsy, limited mobility, domestic violence, and still able to stick to her dreams so tenaciously, netizens were even more touched by her experience, and countless media and publishing houses rushed to her for cooperation.
Yu Xiuhua was on fire, and she finally had a way to support herself, and after achieving economic independence, the first decision Yu Xiuhua made was divorce.
Yes, she was tired of this marriage that lasted for more than twenty years and existed in name only, but at this time, Yin Shiping, who had always disliked her, was not happy.
Yin Shiping
He said angrily to Yu Xiuhua: "You are a disabled person, I sympathized with you before I married you, and now that you are famous, you don't want me anymore?" If you dare to leave me, you will stink your reputation! ”
Yu Xiuhua knew very well in her heart that her husband was not reluctant to marry, he was just reluctant to be his own cash cow, in order to get rid of this man, she would rather spend money to buy a freedom.
Yin Shiping has no nostalgia for Yu Xiuhua, knowing that Yu Xiuhua is willing to pay for divorce. He opened his mouth wide and asked Yu Xiuhua to give her 1 million yuan and build him a house in the village.
Yu Xiuhua only replied lightly: "This month's divorce, I will give you 150,000." If you wait until next month, it will become 100,000. ”
In the end, Yin Zhiping still agreed to the divorce in a gray and slippery manner. This incident caused an uproar in the village, and almost everyone was talking about it behind their backs, as if Yu Xiuhua had done something wrong.
No one around her understood her behavior. In their eyes, Yin Shiping takes care of the food and accommodation of his disabled wife and is a "good husband".
What an ironic thing, Yin Shiping was called a "good husband", and even Yu Xiuhua's mother said with regret in an interview: "Okay, my son-in-law is a person with good health." ”
Yu Xiuhua's mother's original words
When they went through the divorce procedures, Yu Xiuhua kept looking out of the car, her eyes full of tears, there were grievances and pain in the tears, but there was absolutely no regret.
Yu Xiuhua wrote a new poem "Divorce Certificate" after completing the formalities, and she used only one sentence to replace the marriage: "At the age of 36, I landed safely, at least for a while, I was no longer a tightrope walker." ”
No insults, no resentment, just the happiness of the rest of the disaster, this 20-year nightmare is finally over.
Yu Xiuhua and Yin Shiping
As Yu Xiuhua's poems became more and more popular, people began to attack her online, and they felt that her poems were too "debauched", either love or sex, and called her poems "sluts".
However, Yu Xiuhuacai did not care about these. For her, the first half of her life was extremely lacking in love, so her instinctive need for sex and love was very strong, and this frankness was full of rebellion against traditional ideas.
She responded directly to the voices attacking her on the show: "I think I'm a slut, what's wrong with you?" ”
Sex is human instinct, and it should not have any color. Some people speak with grandeur in their mouths, and they look like they are bitterly aware, but how clean has the work in their hearts ever been clean?
In the face of these attacks, Yu Xiuhua never chose to endure, she wanted to scold, with the most cruel words to return to those network keyboard heroes.
Someone attacked her disability and her appearance, and she frankly admitted her defects, and the general said: "I am crippled, but you are crippled in both human nature and physiology!" ”
Someone pretended to persuade her to restrain a little and not to be too public, and she replied: "Make me a slut, otherwise I'm sorry for the encounter in this spring breeze!" ”
Many netizens questioned her poetry as "too dirty", and Yu Xiuhua countered: "You can't understand it, it's that you don't understand the literati feelings of today's society." ”
This remark has been supported by many netizens and fans, we can not talk about sexual discoloration, Yu Xiuhua's poems are their own pursuit of love and sexual yearning, blindly denying it, is there a kind of "annihilation of human desire" meaning? Even some of these views have been endorsed by some experts.
Yu Xiuhua returned to the keyboard man
This is the real Yu Xiuhua, she disdains to please anyone, pursues her most instinctive needs, this uninhibited, free temperament allows her to live out her true self.
Fourth, I felt a lump of white in his poetry
In the face of love, Yu Xiuhua is also fanatical and straightforward, and she never hides her desire for love.
In the variety show "Lu Yu Has a Date", the host threw out a thorny question that made it difficult for public figures to deal with: Who is the dream lover in your mind?
But Yu Xiuhua did not hesitate in the slightest, frankly admitting that she liked the singer Li Jian. Not only that, she also openly showed her love to Li Jian on social platforms, and in just five months, she wrote four love poems for Li Jian.
From the first song "I like you, I like all the beauty of this world" to the third song "I am just a domain of water you entered when you set out".
Li Jian
Yu Xiuhua's passionate and unrestrained love gradually calmed down, and she understood that her life in Li Jian was just a small ripple. She had Li Jian's contact information, but never really bothered his life.
Li Jian has never publicly responded to Yu Xiuhua's love, he has read Yu Xiuhua's poems, and also affirmed her talent with eight words: "writing poetry in the clouds, living in the mud". Li Jian's wife also affirmed her love: "What a beautiful woman she is! ”
The parties did not mind, but some keyboard warriors could not sit still, and they began to accuse Yu Xiuhua of her behavior, saying that it was destroying Li Jian's family happiness.
Yu Xiuhua replied directly: "It's about you x things, and you are not his wife." She knew very well that Li Jian would not leave her marriage because of her confession, she just bravely said her love, and there was nothing wrong with loving someone.
Li Jian is more like the bearer of her vision of love, he can be Li Jian, or he can be someone else that Yu Xiuhua admires.
Later, in the interview, she finally plucked up the courage to admit in the show that she only had an appreciative attitude toward Li Jian, and that the poems were not written for him, but written to her sweetheart in reality.
When asked who this person was, Yu Xiuhua, who had always been frank, was rarely shy, and she refused to say his real name for fear that her sweetheart would be affected.
Fifth, please this world with pain
Since the divorce, Yu Xiuhua can't wait to start pursuing her love, unfortunately, over the years, she has never been able to find the person who can love each other deeply.
She desperately wants to prove that love has nothing to do with external factors such as physical disability and age, but after so many years of love and fruitlessness, she gradually did not look forward to it so much.
She wrote in "I Delight this World with Pain": "I suspect that I have done many evils in this world, and I have spoken harshly to the flowers that have bloomed. I suspected that I loved the night and despised the early morning. Between the lines, the meaning of loneliness is revealed.
On February 14, 2022, Yu Xiuhua suddenly updated a dynamic, she finally harvested love after so many years of staggering and waddling through the road of courtship.
The man's name is Yang Yongce, he is a post-90s beekeeper, and Yu Xiuhua is fourteen years old, and the love story of the two originated from a live broadcast by Yu Xiuhua.
Yang Yongce
In November 2021, Yang Yongce, a fan, was watching Yu Xiuhua's live broadcast, in which Yu Xiuhua said that because she often had to rely on alcoholism to fall asleep, her stomach disease was particularly serious, and she often hurt so much that she couldn't sleep.
Yang Yongce commented that he was a beekeeper and wanted to send some honey to Yu Xiuhua to nourish his stomach. In this way, the two added WeChat and chatted in two words.
Unexpectedly, the two talked more and more energetically, from the past to the future, from poetry to dreams, and then simply opened a video chat, which could be talked for several hours every day.
Yang Yongce has a straightforward personality, and when he talks about poetry, he does not deliberately curry favor because Yu Xiuhua became famous, but said: "I don't like your poetry, I like my own poetry." ”
Yu Xiuhua and Yang Yuce
The same personality, the same bumpy past, which made the two establish a relationship when they first met in Xiangyang.
They walked hand in hand in the streets of Xiangyang, met with the poet Han Shimei in Nanyang, attended the New Year's Eve poetry meeting in Hubei, and under the intoxicating moonlight, Yu Xiuhua held 99 roses in her hand and handed over her heavy love to Yang Yongce.
On New Year's Day 2022, Yang Yuce's social account released a video in which Yu Xiuhua was wearing a white dress, sitting on a swing, smiling very happily, and Yang Yuce was standing behind her, full of Yu Xiuhua.
Yu Xiuhua and Yang Yuce
As soon as the news of the two being together came out, yu Xiuhua was once again pushed to the cusp of the storm. Many netizens and fans have offered their blessings.
But in today's network environment, how can this kind of thing not attract the attention of keyboard men? So the questions of "old cows eating tender grass" and "no love, only for profit" have also flocked to them.
Unlike the previous sharp counterattacks, Yu Xiuhua did not respond positively, nor did she explain too much whether the feelings between the two could be long-lasting, and whether the feelings were sincere, the answer to this can only be answered by time.
As she said: "I love the delusion with all my heart, love for you, why should I say more" This is Yu Xiuhua's attitude towards love, it can last a long time, that is very good; if not, then let it go.