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In real life, having a son and a daughter is the dream of many people.
Although it is good to have both children and daughters, many parents are influenced by traditional ideas and have a clear tilt towards their sons and daughters in terms of economic contributions, which can easily cause conflicts between brothers and sisters due to parental bias.
Not long ago, I saw a post on the Internet: a family with a son and a daughter, will you choose to divide the property equally?
The owner is a post-80s mother, holding two people for four years, with both children and daughters, and her answer is diametrically opposite to many people.
Because Dabao is a sister, Bao's mother loves her first child very much, so she admits that she will definitely be better for her daughter than her son in the future, in addition to spiritual care, she will also leave the current property to her daughter for premarital property.
As for the son's lifelong event, he and his husband will save the down payment of the new house, and the rest will let the son fight on his own.
Bao Ma's opinion has exploded a lot of splashes in the comment area.
Although some people praise her unbiasedness, many netizens said that in a family with a son and a daughter, parents divide the property equally or are more inclined to pay for their daughters, which will definitely cause dissatisfaction from the daughter-in-law and ultimately affect the harmony of the son's small family.
"It's good that parents of a son and a daughter are completely fair, and most of them are more inclined to their sons in terms of property."
"There is no problem with Bao Ma's approach, but the premise is that there must be a reasonable daughter-in-law, otherwise many people are against the mother-in-law being good to the sister-in-law."
" My parents after 80, materially for a son and a daughter will be absolutely fair, the future house is also a set of one person, the future pension children to bear together!" 」
In the past, if there were sons and daughters in the family, then parents were mostly inclined to their sons in the distribution of property, after all, the daughter was "spilled water", and the son was the dependence of the elderly.
However, with the development of the times, the ideological concepts of many young people have also changed, and it has been understood that parents with both children and daughters are roughly divided into the following situations in the distribution of property.
1. Complete equality without any tilt
Because sons and daughters have the obligation to provide for their parents, highly educated young parents are more inclined to be completely equal in the distribution of property, they are not affected by the idea of son preference, and they do not think that their daughters have nothing to do with their mother's family after marriage.
Compared with the past, the advantage of this practice is that parents greatly protect the rights and interests of their daughters before marriage, and parents will receive their daughters' dedicated care in their later years.
But it is undeniable that in some families, the absolute fairness of parents to their children may also cause dissatisfaction with their daughters-in-law.
2. Whoever divides the family property and who retires will not morally kidnap the other
For this part of the parents, they pay more attention to their children who are more filial to themselves, regardless of men and women, parents are more willing to share the family property to the children who are reliable and filial piety.
Of course, this distribution method is destined to hurt another child, so parents will also make it clear who divides the family property and who will retire, and will not morally kidnap another child.
The disadvantages of this distribution method are also obvious, that is, it will lead to discord between brothers and sisters, and the parent-child relationship will also be greatly affected.
In addition, in order to make themselves worry-free in their later years and to get along well with their children, many post-8090 parents have another choice, that is, to divide their property into three parts.
A daughter as her own exclusive premarital property, which is a guarantee for girls, but also the mother's family to give confidence, after all, even if the man has a house at the time of marriage, the name of the woman may not be added to the property certificate.
The second to the son as the start-up capital of the small family, he will support the son to make a down payment for the marriage room within the scope of his ability, as for the later repayment, it is the son's own business, and the parents will not pay without a bottom line.
The third part is reserved for themselves as a pension reserve, in the multi-child family, many people have such a distress, no matter how fair the parents think they are to the children, the children will still have conflicts because of various things, and eventually blame each other on the issue of pension.
Therefore, in order to ensure their later life, more and more parents will not choose to leave all their property to their children, but leave a way back for themselves on the basis of fair distribution as much as possible.
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