In the mother-in-law relationship, the core is the man in the middle. Because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally two people who are not related by blood, if it were not for the same man, they would not live under the same roof, and they would not fight for this man.
As Tu Lei said: "People often say that since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, I agree with this sentence, but this sentence does not seem to be finished, that is, men are useless, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies." ”
In a marriage, a man's position and attitude determine everything. After all, no matter how unreasonable the mother-in-law is, she will also care about her son's feelings. The son protects the daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law easily does not dare to bully the daughter-in-law. On the contrary, the mother-in-law will regard the daughter-in-law as a weak and deceitful object.
01, the husband's monthly salary is 10,000, the wife is 5,000, and the mother-in-law requires the AA to make rules
Song Min did not expect that she and her husband started from scratch, did not eat and lazy, but was still disliked by her mother-in-law for her low wages, and her husband was also instigated by her mother-in-law to ask for a husband and wife AA system, to make rules for her, so that she knew a good villain.
For this selfish mother-in-law, Song Min was extremely unpleasant. However, the husband is a filial piety, obedient to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law pointed out that the husband did not dare to go west. Even if her daughter-in-law is bullied by her mother-in-law, her husband will only persuade her to endure, and all the parents in the world should not worry about his parents.
Hindered by her husband's affection, many times, Song Min turned a blind eye. The couple bought their first house in the city, the in-laws can't wait to live in, the husband doesn't say a word, but he can only suffer Song Min. Not only do you have to work hard every day, but when you get off work, you have to rush back to serve your in-laws.
Even if the service is overbearing, the mother-in-law is strong and domineering, and also likes to pick and choose, Song Min does not do well, the mother-in-law will be nitpicking, all kinds of disgust complaints, once or twice, Song Min can still bear it. But the number of times is more, Song Min is also very angry, but she can't do it with her mother-in-law.
This time is no exception, after learning that her son's monthly salary is 10,000, Song Min is only 5,000, barely half of her son's monthly salary, the mother-in-law asked her son AA, saying that she wanted to make good rules for her daughter-in-law. I don't earn much money, I don't respect my in-laws, I don't know how to be diligent and thrifty, I buy this and that all day, I'm too bad.
02, half a year later, the husband drove people away: Mom, you still have to go
The husband with soft ears, at the instigation and complaint of his mother-in-law, finally agreed to implement the AA system with Song Min, and the two people shared the family expenses equally, and also took the initiative to hand in the salary card to the mother-in-law.
Seeing her husband's foolish filial piety, Song Min was overwhelmed, but helpless. Only since then, all the expenses of the family, she has strictly implemented the AA system, even if it is to go to the supermarket to buy 10 yuan of things, she will also settle accounts with her husband.
At first, he couldn't stand his husband, he thought that Song Min was too rigid, he proposed the AA system, but he did not require AA to have children and do housework. No matter how soft and hard her husband grinds hard bubbles, Song Min just refuses to have children, saying that the couple's life is not understood, there is no need to have a child to come out and suffer.
Seeing that he was getting older, his in-laws also began to continue to give birth, and even once provoked dissension, saying that Song Min was a hen who would not lay eggs, but would only occupy the pit. Song Min was very angry, but still did not theorize with her mother-in-law. After all, it is her right to have children, she wants to be born, and no one can force her if she does not want to give birth.
The husband saw that both sides were not good, so he simply threw up his hands and ignored them. But the husband doesn't care, but the mother-in-law is not a fuel-saving lamp. She began to give birth every three to five years, and also interfered in the couple's life, which made Song Min even more disgusted and more disgusted with the matter of having children.
After half a year, the husband was the first to raise his hand and surrender, saying that he really couldn't stand the life sandwiched between two women. In the end, he was fierce and said directly to his mother-in-law: Mom, you still have to go, if you don't leave, you will never be able to hold your grandson.
03, the foolish filial piety man has no opinion, and it is the wife who suffers
The mother-in-law thinks that her son is joking, after all, they have a son, and in the future, they all have to rely on this son, how can the son be partial to the daughter-in-law and drive them away?
The mother-in-law was a little unforgiving, and the husband was also angry, and for the first time he felt that his parents were too ignorant. At the beginning, they hated the low wages of their daughters-in-law, and it was their parents who required their husbands and wives to AA; now it is also the parents who urge them to have children, and the parents are always uneasy, and they make trouble with their wives all day for trivial matters.
Without waiting for the mother-in-law to react, the husband resolutely packed his bags and sent them back to his hometown. As for the mother-in-law calling every three to five minutes, accusing her husband of not filial piety, accusing Song Min of injecting Ecstasy into her son, otherwise her son who was so filial would not be able to send them away.
Song Min didn't say anything, but she wouldn't agree to get pregnant and have a baby so easily. Until her husband did not completely change the problem of foolish filial piety, Song Min would not give him a child.
A man is foolish and filial, has no opinion, and in the end it will only be his wife who suffers. Because his wife endured all the hardships and anger of his parents, but as a man, he only watched, rather than bravely stood up against his parents.
Such a foolish man, which woman married him, is undoubtedly a disaster and pain. The attitude of a man determines the status of a woman in the in-laws' family. Men can't get up, they can't protect their wives, and their wives can only be tricked and calculated by their in-laws.