Divorced at an older age, with two children, in addition to the traces of years on the body and the scars left by the baby, will these become obstacles to your pursuit of the next period of happiness?
Before answering this question, let's first look at the answer of Wang Quexin's ex-wife Wu Yating.
As one of the first happy boys to get married, the marriage of Wang Quexin and Wu Yating has received great attention, and after 5 years of marriage, a son and a daughter have also made the family look like an extra layer of filter called happiness and invulnerable.
Until 2020, Wang Quexin announced his divorce from Wu Yating, whether it was the change of title from "wife" to "roommate" or the description of "getting off at the station", many people lamented that the marriage between the two was also a gorgeous robe full of lice, which could not be studied in detail.
Recently, Wu Yating was invited to participate in the social observation reality show "Spring Day Delayed Departure" launched by Mango Tv, according to the requirements of the program group, she made a phone call to her predecessor, but when Wu Yating dialed Wang Lixin's phone, Wang Lixin neither kept Wu Yating's contact information, nor heard Wu Yating's voice, which made Wu Yating quite embarrassed.
Not only that, when she tried to get along with the male guests, even if the other party released a positive message, she looked ahead and looked back, and her negative attitude towards accepting a relationship again made the onlookers shake their heads in a cloudy manner, "Save me, save me, this is really suffocating."
When the male guest who was liked asked: "Is there a place of fear and fear in looking for the other half with a child?" Wu Yating collapsed before she could open her mouth.
Going back to the question we mentioned at the beginning, divorced at an older age, with two children, will these be obstacles to your pursuit of the next period of happiness? Wu Yating's answer is yes. She said that after the divorce, whether it is sagging breasts or the extra flesh piled up on the stomach, it is an obstacle to her re-investing in a relationship.
Because "I went from being a teenage girl to a somewhat ugly woman."
I can't face my body calmly, so how can I ask men in the marriage market to choose themselves?
Even her body language is curled up, backed, and unconfident. That strong sense of self-doubt made the audience suffocate.
If the "secondary disaster" brought about by divorce includes a lack of confidence in the body, a lack of confidence in appearance, and even children have become the "inferior choice" of the marriage market, is it not to convey the message of "divorce anxiety" to the audience?
The new sister looked at the relevant comments of netizens, and sure enough, there were many people who were aroused by anxiety.
The gaze from the lover, the gaze from others, and the scrutiny from yourself may kill your self-confidence, so that you cannot maintain a normal state, and you can only passively accept yourself as the "alternative" of others, which is really not a very good message.
Too mournful, after the divorce can only choose to lie flat? Let's take a look at the story of another divorced woman.
Today, according to People, well-known talk show actress and Asian American actress Huang Ali officially ended her 8-year marriage with her husband Justin Kashiwata and returned to singlehood.
Huang Ali is well known to the audience for a large reason that she complains about marriage on talk shows and expresses her yearning for single life. Huang Ali said that when she met her husband, he was handsome and successful, an entrepreneur, and graduated from Harvard Business School, and various indicators were sought-after goods in the marriage market. So I thought, "Oh my God, I must grasp him!" Through active pursuit, Huang Ali finally won a very sought-after husband. And because her husband was really sought-after, she had to sign a prenuptial agreement, "which clearly stated that I could not rely on my husband." ”
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Seven years ago, Huang Ali forced her then boyfriend to propose to her. After marriage, her career took off rapidly, spread throughout the United States social platforms, became the economic pillar of the whole family, and even in July, she was still "working with the ball", compared with her, her husband became more and more wasteful. She complained in public, knowing that she was the hero, why did her husband pay a little to try to grab the credit?
After becoming pregnant with her second child, she had a new understanding and once again appeared on the talk show stage to share the difficulty of women having children. Use exaggeration and humor to defuse those suffocating moments in marriage.
Now, Huang Ali has officially announced her divorce from her "waste firewood husband", a prenuptial agreement that was once forced to be signed, which helped her preserve her property.
The same mother of two children has also experienced the irreversible harm and pain brought by childbirth to the body. But Huang Ali's example tells us that a single-parent divorced mother does not mean that she can only wait to be chosen. You have a constant job that gives you the freedom of wealth, you regain your own time, and you can meet better people. The choice is always in your own hands.
Divorce with a baby is the other side of life, telling you that life is not only poetry and far away, but also a place of chicken feathers. You can be sad, lost, and out of shape. But after crying, hurt enough, remember to move forward.
Romain Rolland said: "There is only one true heroism in the world, that is, to love life after recognizing its essence."
Huang Ali did it, and Wu Yating must be able to do it.
Text: Chen Xiaoqing
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