Author: Wang Zhongzhong
Don't pretend, showdown, you are the greatest prophet of our time — it's you, Huang Ali.
For example, "Lying Flat", which has not become the top ten popular words of the year until 2021, has long been Huang Ali's iconic golden sentence, from her 2016 Netflix original comedy special "Yellow Ari: Baby Cobra".
"I don't want to lean in, I just want to lie down!" How many salted fish voices have been said that refuse to roll inside.
The third Netflix stand-up comedy, Don Wong, which was released in February this year, is facing a daunting midlife crisis: God knows, every 5 minutes now, I have an urge to cheat.
Unexpectedly, only two months later, Huang Ali solved this problem "once and for all": People magazine revealed that Huang Ali chose to peacefully end nearly 8 years of marriage with her husband, and the two children were still raised by them.
In 2016, Huang Ali, who only wanted to lie down and rely on her husband to support herself, talked about her thousand-layer routine of "trapping" her husband in "Little Cobra". In 2022, "Merry Woman" Huang Ali gave the sharpest summary of her marriage:
"7 years ago, I wished he would marry me right away; 7 years later, I just wanted to live on my own."
This is probably the most eloquent call back ever made on the stand-up comedy stage.
Huang Ali, who said that "monogamy works before the age of 40", escaped from marriage this year at the age of 39. / The Merry Woman
When the "funny woman without love" walks out of marriage
Although the divorce was announced, Huang Ali said in an interview that it was a peaceful decision made by both sides.
In the face of this typical case of peaceful breakup, there will always be human beings who can't help but expose the nature of "persuasion and dissuasion", but it is obviously not applicable to Huang Ali - the audience is only concerned about when they can see the passage about divorce in the new special session.
Because the biggest contradiction caused by this divorce storm has also quickly become a paragraph.
When reporting the divorce news, the gossip magazine Parade mistakenly referred to Wong Ari's long-time friend and partner, Korean actor Randall Lee. Park became her ex-husband Justin Justin Hakuta also put a photo of the two on the front page of the news.
The two once made Huang Ali's film debut", "Always Be My Maybe".
This low-level mistake was immediately slammed by other media in the name of "racial discrimination", although "Parade" quickly apologized, but the righteous netizens did not stop condemning, but also made a meme challenge: for example, in the following four Asian male faces to find Huang Ali's ex-husband - Jackie Chan, Bruce Lee, Yao Ming, Zhou Xingchi.
From "Little Cobra" and "Iron Lady" to "Merry Woman", for Huang Ali fans who have watched these three special sessions, to some extent, they are also witnesses to this marriage relationship.
The beginning of this marriage story is much like an urban fairy tale about the frog girl and Prince Charming.
Huang Ali really didn't lie, her ex-husband was really handsome when he was young. / @Ali Wong ig
Since graduating from college in 2005, Huang Ali gave up being a research scholar and turned to the stand-up comedy scene in New York, sharing a room with 6 roommates, and even unable to afford a down jacket for the winter when she was the poorest.
In this case, Huang Ali met Bai Tian at a friend's wedding, and the first thing she learned from the other party was that the other party was studying at Harvard Business School, so she decided to "get her hands" on this high-achieving student at first sight.
"Because I know he's in high demand and you need to use a special strategy to treat him." Therefore, huang Ali, who insisted on kissing each other until the 5th date, also skillfully used the rule of "grabbing a person's heart and first grabbing his stomach", making breakfast for her boyfriend every day rain or shine, which lasted for 5 years.
Huang Ali never skimps on the stage to "show off", Harvard graduated the second generation of the rich, served as the vice president of a million-dollar technology company, respected and supported her career, and was her best friend... The most important thing is that he is also handsome.
Huang Ali, who dreamed of lying flat as a full-time housewife, went to the other extreme at the end of the marriage: she became the mainstay of the family.
For the simple reason, In her autobiography to her two daughters, Dear Girls, Ms. Huang revealed that she had been forced to sign a prenuptial agreement that made it clear that she could not rely on her husband, so she became more motivated to make money.
"My father always praised 'fear is a gift' and that prenuptial agreement really scared me. But at the end of the day, I find that being forced to sign a prenuptial agreement is one of the most correct things that have happened in my life and career. ”
As a result, two weeks before the payment for the house, Huang Ali found that her perfect husband was carrying a debt of 70,000 yuan.
"How did he do it? How did he get me? Probably because he went to Harvard Business School— a place that specializes in brain crime — he designed me. Now if I don't work, we're both doomed. Otherwise, why do you think I still come out to perform with a big belly? ”
Looking at Huang Ali's marriage, it seems to be very much in line with the recently popular "funny women have no love" network hot meme. Funny women who "don't care about people on the Internet anymore" share their social death love experiences everywhere. Huang Ali, who is critical of her marital life on the stage, is also using humor to solve the problems in life.
In the barrage of Huang Ali's related videos, "laughter with tears" is a word that often appears.
But just as the background of comedy is sadness, the humor of "funny girl" Huang Ali is not a joke about life, but comes from the pain of life.
No contraindications to Huang Ali
On Mother's Day in 2016, Huang Ali's stand-up comedy debut "Little Cobra" was launched on Netflix, and few people outside the comedy circle knew who Huang Ali was at that time.
A pregnant woman with a big belly, wearing a short skirt with exaggerated patterns, opened a yellow cavity on stage for an hour without hesitation – this is the fame of "the world's dirtiest stand-up comedy queen".
These passages aimed at the gap in the existing market, and opened up a new market in the comedy industry with one hit – "Little Cobra" became the first comedy scene to become popular by telling the topic of parenting from a female perspective, opening the way for a large number of mother comedians and winning a large number of new fans for Huang Ali.
Netflix took advantage of the chase and also chose to launch Huang Ali's second stand-up work "Huang Ali: Hard Knock Wife" on Mother's Day in 2018.
At the beginning of "The Iron Lady", Huang Ali, who was pregnant with her second child, joked: "It is estimated that the Asians in the city are in this theater tonight, but you may not imagine that I only needed $10 to see me a year ago." Now, her fare has been flipped to $1,000 by scalpers.
Huang Ali's core story revolves around having children, feeding, changing children's diapers, and being surprised by the destruction of women's bodies caused by childbirth, spitting out the real situation of the "mother" character commonly praised by men in real life, and her views on it.
It's hard not to say "understand the applause" after reading it. / The Iron Lady
When Huang Ali gave birth to her first child and was ready to return to work, she was often asked: "You are here, who is responsible for watching the children?" "What do you think?" TV is watching kids, okay? Another example, "Many people like to ask me, how do you balance family and career?" No one asks men this question because they can't balance it out. ”
She gives an unvarnished description of the truth about having a child, whether it is a human-making plan for the purpose of pregnancy or the resentment of a pregnant wife who is unique to her husband. Her husband asked her to do housework, and her answer was, "I'm busy getting pregnant, and so are you?" I don't think so. ”
Describing the pain of breastfeeding a child, she said: "Having a baby is nothing compared to breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is a chronic physical torture, I thought it would be a beautiful ritual to cultivate relationships, but it is not so at all, breastfeeding is a barbaric sacrifice, it reminds you that your body is now a canteen! ”
Because of breastfeeding, Huang Ali said that she and the little plum in "The Wild Hunter" deeply empathized.
These raw and hot contents are just the lightest taste in Huang Ali's paragraphs. Because Huang Ali, who focuses on and jokes, is even more at the peak of Huang Duanzi's achievements.
For example, her most famous definition of Asian men as "sexy": "They are hairless from the neck down, like dolphins." ”
The New Yorker listed Huang Ali as "the top ten comedians to look forward to" and commented on her: "The anti-traditional thing about Huang Ali is that when she describes the commonplace family life, she occasionally touches on what may be the ultimate taboo when talking about female lust: women are animals." ”
She breaks down women's shame about their own sexual desires and makes the audience care about the dark and cruel side of housewives.
In a popular phrase, now Huang Ali "shed tears" in the paragraph, which is when she wanted to be a full-time housewife, her brain went into the water... / "Iron Lady"
Huang Ali, who boldly talks about gender topics and does not shy away from using exaggerated body movements to create comedic effects on the stage, uses her body as a weapon to shatter the stereotype of housewives, Asians, successful women and other groups in the eyes of the public.
As she said when she shared her miscarriage experience on stage: "I hope more women will have the courage to talk about these things, so that when they experience it in person, they will not feel pain." 」 ”
"We need equal joy"
"Why should women wear masks to be human? Why do we have to pretend to be stupid, but it is not actually stupid. Why do we have to pretend to be helpless, but it is not helpless. Why do we pretend to apologize, but we didn't do anything wrong? Why do we pretend not to be hungry, but in fact we are hungry to death? This is one of the most impressive monologues of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.
In 1954, Phyllis M. Lee, who debuted at the same time as Mrs. Maisel's archetypal character, was killed in the film. Phyllis Diller became the first female stand-up comedian to perform on stage.
Phyllis · Diller's pompous costume proves that women had to become a comedian by hiding their feminine characteristics. / travalanche
"I became a stand-up comedienne because I had a sit-down husband." In later performances, Diller told the stage about his original intentions in the industry.
In the jokes of female stand-up comedians, it seems that they have always revolved around their own family life, heavy housework, useless husbands, and the "small contradictions" that accumulate in their daily lives. While ridiculing his mother's identity, he also implicitly pointed out the difficulties of the mother's job, such as the father's dereliction of duty and the mother's fatigue.
"Little Cobra", which made Huang Ali a hit, has been put on the agenda by Netflix as early as 4 years ago, but she has always felt that she is not ready. It was not until July of the pregnancy that Huang Ali began to worry and worry, "If you don't record the special session again, you won't have a chance."
On those years, Huang Ali set up a flag. / The Iron Lady
This fear is not unfounded, and for American working women, pregnancy is still a "fatal blow" for working women. The fatigue of working during pregnancy, postpartum maternity leave and physical recovery, and the most difficult of raising a child are enough to drain a mother's energy.
The story of motherhood has become a reserved content for female stand-up comedians.
Even after nearly 70 years, female comedians led by Huang Ali are still keen on women's issues. It's just that before Huang Ali, few female comedians have described the darkness of their motherhood so vividly.
Because of this, for the audience who is new to Huang Ali's comedy, many people's first reaction is to "overcome the discomfort". And this "discomfort" hidden under the violent, vulgar and even obscene language is the truth of life that women have been facing.
In her autobiography Dear Girl, Huang Ali said that the Japanese documentary "The God of Sushi" was the last straw that overwhelmed her: a god who studied sushi all his life, devoted all his energy to the sushi restaurant, and trained two sons who took over the mantle, but there was no single shot of his wife in the whole documentary.
In her comedy special "Merry Woman" this year, Huang Ali pointed out a successful woman with money and power, but she did not get the corresponding respect. In the new era, independent women need not only "equal pay for equal work", but also "equal pleasure".
The story of St. Don Juan has been passed down through the centuries, and the current "merry woman" Huang Ali is also worthy of writing into the legend.
We like Huang Ali because we will one day understand the meaning of independent women: instead of waiting for the hero to come, it is better to choose and live a hot kiss like Huang Ali.