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Recently, a new real-life family drama called "Dear Child" was released, which made people itch their teeth.
The heroine Fang Yinuo, played by Ren Suxi, is a people's teacher with ideals and ambitions, and her husband Xiao Lu is played by Qin Hao, a social animal who works outside, and the story is based on the family formed by the two of them.
How angry is this drama, when Yinuo gave birth to a child, her husband did not care at all, she endured ten degrees of labor pain in the hospital, he fell asleep watching TV at home, after the birth of the child, he did not take care of his wife, but took his child's placenta to his mother, who wanted to use it for his young son to eat.
They invited the sister-in-law is not reliable, secretly mixed milk powder for the child, but also provoked the relationship between their husband and wife, the unreliable sister-in-law was said by a promise to say two words and directly left, and then Xiao Lu's mother came to take the child, she has a lot of shortcomings, the most unbearable thing is to take the child and smoke, mahjong addiction comes and does not care about the child, causing the child to fall from the stroller.
And Xiao Lu, for the family dispute, is able to hide and hide, obviously the family needs him so much, but always on the grounds of overtime do not go home, back home downstairs and go out to ask out other girls, and later cheated.
Some people complained that this drama really stewed all the dog blood things in one pot, and quan'an was above this family, which was not realistic at all, who was so miserable to meet it all? But some people say that this is the truth of the world, not the sale of anxiety, girls should take a good look at it, this is the true face of marriage.
So, is this drama selling anxiety, or is it real in the world?
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It is also understandable to say that the seller of anxiety is also understandable, because the drama is indeed all bad from the beginning, almost everything is very bad, and Yinuo has never been worried for a moment.
In real life, is there such a miserable thing as Yinuo, just when everything happens to happen? If you have not been married, or if you are married and have not yet had children, you may not really see the marriage part of the chicken and dog jumping.
But if you are married and have children, you can especially empathize, this is the truest part of marriage, not false at all.
From the beginning of watching the first episode, I watched with the bullet screen, while watching the plot while watching the bullet screen, watching the discussion of netizens, there are very, very many netizens said, too real, whether it is Yinuo's excessive tension about the child, or the friction in their marriage, is the shadow of real life.
The reality of marriage, from the birth of the child, is the chicken flying dog jump, this time, basically the whole family revolves around the child, and in the process of taking care of the child, there will inevitably be a lot of contradictions and friction, contradictions between husband and wife, contradictions between elders and husband and wife.
Obviously, everyone is for the good of the child, but the result is that the family is separated, the feelings of the husband and wife become bad, and there are many contradictions between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law.
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It is said that art comes from reality and is higher than reality, and these plots in the TV series are all derived from real life. A lot of times we think it's made up out of thin air, and that's just because we haven't experienced it.
And no experience may also be that you have not experienced it now, does not mean that you will not experience it in the future, unless you do not plan to get married, then as long as you get married, you will have to face these chickens and dogs.
I don't think this is selling anxiety, because it's just a reflection of what marriage really is, letting us see what it really is, and only by knowing what it will be facing can we make choices that are more suitable for us, rather than blindly marrying for the sake of getting married, and only after marriage do we find out that it is not what we imagined.
Because in real life, there are too many people, especially girls who have not yet experienced the world, have very good expectations for marriage, looking forward to meeting their own Prince Charming, looking forward to marrying him, and then living a happy and happy life.
But the cruelty of the story is that it only presents the best part to us, otherwise why wouldn't there be a sequel to the story when they get married, because there is nothing romantic about the sequel.
Full of anticipation to enter the marriage, it is bound to be disappointed, because the marriage is not imagined, it is composed of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, which is full of all kinds of trivial things, each of which may consume all your energy, which is not an exaggeration.
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It may feel painful and uncomfortable to watch, but it's also the beginning of our breaking the marriage filter.
Let's stop paralyzing ourselves, deceiving ourselves, saying that the real marriage will not be so bloody, and don't feel that we will not be so unlucky to meet a husband like Xiao Lu.
No, even if there is no husband like Xiao Lu, he will also meet other unreliable husbands, and the probability is still quite large, the husband is not reliable, the husband does not return at night, the husband cheats, the husband escapes family responsibilities, these may be encountered.
It is not to say that we will not let everyone get married, but to be prepared to get married, think about it, if you meet such a husband, what to do, can you bear the consequences, do you have the ability to solve problems.
If the answer is no, then it means that you are not ready to get married, and you should not blindly enter into marriage at this time, because what you are waiting for will only be doubled pain.
Only when you are ready, you feel that you can, no matter what bad consequences, you can bear it, then you can rest assured and boldly enter the marriage. Even if you are really unfortunate enough to meet an unreliable husband, at least you have the ability to re-choose.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Little Child"