Through a survey of parents of young children, primary school students and junior high school students, the survey results showed that 41.8% of children communicated well with their parents and there was no communication barrier. Other situations with parent-child communication disorders are mainly manifested in the fact that children are prone to resistance to their parents' education (such as quarrels and mouths), accounting for 27.2%; children do not like to communicate with their parents (15.8%); children are close to one parent but alienated from the other (11.4%). Overly strict, authoritarian discipline or emotional parent-child communication are easy to make children afraid of their parents and unwilling to communicate with their parents.
As a parent, are you bothered by the barriers to communicating with your child?
Communication has never been an elective course in home isolation during the epidemic, but a compulsory course in parent-child interaction! Good parent-child communication can make the family atmosphere more harmonious, parents raise their children more easily, and children can also draw nourishment in a warm family atmosphere and better devote themselves to learning and life. So how to establish a good parent-child relationship with your child?
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Respect children and create a democratic and equal communication atmosphere
Many families have a slanted mode of communication: parents are on top, always appearing as teachers, parents are always right; children are passive, in a position of obedience and obedience. Such communication is difficult to cultivate children's initiative, and it is not conducive to children's bold voices.
Parents should regard their children as thoughtful people and pay attention to their children's opinions. Let the child talk more, protect the child's self-esteem, help the child establish self-confidence in expression, listen more, ask more, deny less, and comment less.
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Understand your child and improve the effectiveness of parent-child interactions
The child's world is simple and simple, go into his heart, experience his feelings and needs, express the needs of love with the language of love, and the child can feel that he is understood and loved. To understand your child's feelings, you can do it from the following three points:
First, replace commands with interrogative approaches.
Second, speak up for your child about how they feel
Give advice
At the same time, we need to harness the power of our parents' role models
Because, role models are the best education
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Encourage your child to be independent and establish his own code of conduct
We hope that children can learn consciously, reduce their dependence on electronic devices, take the initiative to pack up toys, etc., we provide help and correct guidance on the child's growth path, and then learn to encourage children to be independent.
First, you can set the rules before you begin. Parents should set an example of being faithful in front of their children, because in life we all do what we say, so he/she can fully understand that he/she does what he says.
Second, learn to prepare your child. Learn not to set the child to act immediately, and countdown to make the child mentally prepared and prepared for action.
Third, tell your child that you can ask for help, but it's best to set rules for help.
Fourth, the task is from small to large, from no requirements to requirements. Don't always measure your child by your own standards, let your children establish their own standards. For example, how to classify toys, how to calculate and pack, by the child himself, the role of parents is to supervise, remind, help, but do not interfere.
I hope that everyone can cherish the time spent with their children, create more beautiful parent-child memories, and often communicate with each other to enhance parent-child relationship.
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