Learning at home,
Distance learning has become the new normal,
Long-term home for children and parents of psychology
It's all a challenge.
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Some parents believe that
Children learn at home without the supervision of teachers,
it will reduce autonomy,
So he strengthened his "supervision function",
But too much intervention may be counterproductive.
In addition, many parents also work from home,
Spend more time with your child on a daily basis,
More interaction and friction.
Dear Parents,
What do you have to do for your child to learn at home?
Let's share the discussion!
First, eye protection is very important
Second, respect your child's social privacy
Third, guide the motivation of independent learning
Fourth, parents should control their emotions
Fifth, do not interfere too much in children's learning
Sixth, moderate study, combination of work and leisure
7. Make good use of learning tools and review them in a timely manner
Create a sense of ritual for learning at home
Then parents work from home,
Kids learning online,
How to resolve the contradictions of getting along?
Some parents will be because
Children's online class performance is inefficient, fidgeting,
Restlessness in front of the screen, grinding and rubbing, etc
fly into a rage
Parent-child communication is becoming more and more difficult...
Fu Limin, a psychological counselor at Shanghai Ganquan Wai Chinese Middle School and a special teacher of moral education in Shanghai, thinks so:
Blind preaching and criticism will make children form a self-perception that "I am terrible in the hearts of parents". But unfortunately, on the one hand, the child is very resistant to this criticism, on the other hand, the subconscious will accept psychological hints such as "I am bad" and apologize for it. If parents do not control their emotions, the child will imitate and learn your destructive emotional expression, which not only does not solve the child's problem, but also passes on his anxiety to the child again. To solve this problem, parents need to make an important change: accept the child's emotional expression, allow the child to complain, allow the child to have an unactive emotional expression, and then face the actual problem together.
Parents should also strive to help their children improve their enthusiasm for learning, not all of them blame their children with attitude problems, and give their children the channel and opportunity to talk, which is the first step to appease emotions. Parents use open-ended questions to help children identify and perceive their emotional states, and on this basis, through cognitive regulation, to achieve the purpose of emotional guidance. For example, the child is restless in front of the screen of the online lesson, and observe whether it is an operation problem, or a network speed problem or other specific problem. After class, you can ask your child "what problems have you encountered"... From the simple general state of the class, focusing on the specific problems that affect the child's state, the child will also sort out clearly, "I am not resistant to online classes and teachers, I just need to solve these problems."
So, how to turn "conflict" into a new opportunity for parent-child communication?
In fact, parents should also learn to "show weakness" and give their children the opportunity to face problems with you. For example, the small things in life, sharing with the child, expressing the help and support of the child, I am much more relaxed. If you have time, do useful and interesting things with your child and let your child plan family activities. These abilities formed in life will migrate to the places he needs in the future, and this process will bring the parent-child relationship closer, from "having something to say" to "saying well", to needing each other and sharing together.
Note: This article is quoted from China Education Newspaper Good Teacher, content sources @ China News Weekly, Jiefang Daily, etc.