On the last weekend of Xiao Lu and Dong Fan's marriage, Xiao Lu got up early in a happy mood, watched the tutorial on his mobile phone to make a loving breakfast for his newly married little wife Dong Fan, Dong Fan lazily climbed up and sprinkled: "Husband, I am so hungry", Xiao Lu dotingly nagged:
My mother called early in the morning, asked me to make you this fish to eat, I see you are like her own child, look at what your mother sent you, you said that my mother's temper I really can't feel, usually thrifty, here reluctant to spend, there reluctant to spend, this you said that the money sent can buy another box .......
The standard of a good husband is to get rid of it, this is completely two people, once Xiao Lu was completely indifferent to everything in the family, occasionally asked him to do something, he was absent-minded, but now he is willing to take care of everything, and he is very happy to do it, Dong Fan has achieved a new Xiao Lu.
Xiao Lu is actually not as bad as Fang Yinuo said, once there was a problem in the marriage of two people, Fang Yinuo put all the responsibility on Xiao Lu, in order to prove her innocence, she also arranged a "Hongmen banquet" for Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu, humiliated Xiao Lu, and also made others mistakenly think that Fang Yinuo was a victim of marriage.
In fact, the problems of two people in marriage are not small, but Xiao Lu's problem is floating on the surface, and Fang Yinuo's problem is hidden in the depths, which leads to two people who love each other, and eventually turn against each other.
Seeing the reorganization of the two families and finding the right people to live happily, I understood the essence of marriage: suitable is always more important than love, xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's break and rebirth, but also made the best interpretation of the second marriage family: the seed is not good, change the land to plant it!
Xiao Lu - Fang Yinuo, a broken marriage of love and killing
When we are young, we always think that love is the most powerful thing in the world, so powerful that it can defeat everything, so that when we choose marriage, we only take love as the standard and ignore everything that we think is not important.
And when we enter marriage, we will find that the love that was once thought to be omnipotent will become vulnerable, and what was once thought to be insignificant has become a weapon to crush the marriage.
When Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu first chose marriage, they only considered love, and when their parents thought that Xiao Lu had nothing, the two families were very different, and strongly opposed the two of them being together, Fang Yinuo firmly believed that as long as Xiao Lu loved her, she could overcome any difficulties and eat any suffering.
As Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote in "The Siege": Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out, and soon their great love is broken by the chicken and dog fragments of marriage, and the two people are full of disappointment and fatigue for marriage and each other.
The arrival of Hehe made Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, who had just become fathers and mothers, helpless, and it was precisely because of the arrival of the child that all the problems between them were magnified and the marriage was pushed to tragedy.
In fact, the little couple are not ready to have children, both people are in the rising period of their careers, Xiao Lu is being reused by the boss, Fang Yinuo is also bent on being a class teacher, at this time, the arrival of children will not only not make life better, but also increase the burden of two people.
Both of them are actually trying to prepare for this new little life, Yinuo has to give lessons to students every day during the day, and when they come home at night, they have to check over and over again whether the baby's supplies are ready.
And Xiao Lu, although busy at work, but also not idle, he worked all day, dragging a tired body in the roadside stalls to eat noodles, do not forget to use the radio to play the "newborn birth to be wrapped in a bag" audio, to Yinuo to bring dinner, he also carefully instructed the boss not to put peppers, but in the end Xiao Lu all the efforts, were ignored.
One of the things that Fang Yinuo hates Xiao Lu the most in this life is that when she gave birth to a child, Xiao Lu was not by her side, but this is not entirely Xiao Lu's fault, Xiao Lu did not mean to leave when he received a call from the company, it was Fang Yinuo who created an "illusion that it is very simple to have a child", and Xiao Lu went back with confidence.
Ming Fang Yinuo did not want Xiao Lu to go, but he urged him vigorously: "Go quickly, it's okay, ten minutes of things", which made Xiao Lu relax his tense nerves, originally planned to squint for a while and go back, but accidentally fell asleep, only to miss the child's birth time.
Although Fang Yinuo was so "considerate", the two people still went to the step of divorce, the reason was Xiao Lu's derailment, Fang Yinuo couldn't figure out that he was so stoic and did so much, why Xiao Lu was not only not grateful, but also betrayed her, she roared:
You touch your conscience, from the birth of Hehe to now, I went up and down, inside and out, our family I let you fuck your heart, Xiao Xu ate placenta, I endured, your mother smoked at home and dropped Hehe, I also endured, I worked while taking children, I endured, you took our family as a hotel, I also endured, right, I should do, I can do, I did it all, what else do I have to do, what do you give back to me?
Fang Yinuo's words, it seems that she is the victim, in fact, she is also hurting others at the same time, she used countless "forbearance" words to describe her relationship with xiao's family, which shows that she has never regarded them as her own relatives, and has never truly accepted them.
Although Xiao Lu's mother is a vulgar and uncultured woman, her essence is not bad at all, and she is very assertive in major issues of right and wrong, and Yinuo has always disliked her, rejected her, never treated her as a relative, and even came to take care of her confinement, she was disgusted.
Xiao Lu's younger brother Xiao Xu, is in a period of rebellion, usually at home is not beaten by his mother, or scolded by his mother, the reverse scales on his body are plump, on the surface it looks arrogant, in fact, the heart is very inferior, Yinuo and her mother have never respected Xiao Xu, always treat Xiao Xu with a sense of superiority.
This is also the problem of this marriage: Xiao Lu climbed Fang Yinuo high, and Fang Yinuo always had a sense of superiority, and she treated Xiao Lu's relatives in this way, and at the same time treated Xiao Lu in the same way.
From beginning to end, Fang Yinuo never had a little woman-like posture towards Xiao Lu, but forced Xiao Lu to love her like a little woman, she never expressed her needs, but always hoped that Xiao Lu could speak for herself.
In fact, there is no tacit understanding between the husband and wife, Xiao Lu is a person who grew up in poverty, lack of responsibility since childhood, he can't understand the pain that Yinuo endured, nor can he feel Yinuo's delicate thoughts and emotions.
In Yinuo's repeated accusations and repeated dislikes, Xiao Lu lost his sense of responsibility for the family, what he did was wrong, he sold out of crucian carp after work, bought into catfish, and was scolded by his wife; he washed the bottle and fell to the ground, he was scolded by his wife, he forgot to put salt in cooking, and he also had to be complained by his wife, since he could not do anything to please her, it was better not to please her.
Xiao Lu in this marriage, in fact, the posture is very low, he knows that he is a high climb Fang Yinuo, so he tried his best to please Fang Yinuo and her parents, he took Fang Yinuo's parents to travel, a flower is tens of thousands of pieces, but never took his mother to go, every New Year's Festival to his father-in-law and mother-in-law red envelopes, but also hundreds more than to his mother...
He did a lot, what he recognized was taken for granted by Fang Yinuo, and what he did not recognize was wrong in Fang Yinuo's eyes, Xiao Lu and his mother and brother, the three people were dependent on each other to persist to this day, but Fang Yinuo's attitude towards his family made him even more chilling, and when he tried to please Yinuo's family, Yinuo desperately hated his closest relatives.
Xiao Lu was full of tiredness and fear for this marriage, he began to escape home, and Fang Yinuo did not get considerate and cared for after giving birth, and lived physically and mentally exhausted, both people lived very hard, but did not put their strength to one place, but the two people went to the side, and finally tore the marriage apart.
In fact, in this marriage, both people are wronged, and both people are wronged, and at the same time, both people are at fault, the new life gives them enough time to reflect, to grow, Yinuo and Xiao Lu, have become qualified wives, qualified husbands.
Fang Yinuo - Xie Tianhua, an angel who fell to earth
Fang Yinuo chose to marry Xie Tianhua, not because of love, although Xie Tianhua has a love for her for ten years, but Fang Yinuo did not like Xie Tianhua, chose Xie Tianhua, but wanted to find a father for the child and give the child a complete home.
Xie Tianhua's bits and pieces of Hehe, Fang Yinuo was in his eyes, and there might never be such a man in the world who loved Hehe as if he loved his own daughter.
Although Fang Yinuo was the pursued party, the union of this marriage was not so easy, Fang Yinuo had been married, with children, and was also the ex-wife of Xie Tianhua's good brothers, and his family could not accept such a woman.
Xie Tianhua in order to be with Fang Yinuo, but also with the family tore his face, he likes Fang Yinuo, and Fang Yinuo is his happiest moment, he does not feel that helping Fang Yinuo raise children himself suffers losses.
After getting married, the couple never quarreled, not even speaking loudly to each other, the couple really respected each other, Fang Yinuo's "empty bed period" of these three years, learned to grow, learned how to be a qualified wife.
Marrying Xie Tianhua, Fang Yinuo no longer wants other people's sons as before, and in turn abandons other people's families, Fang Yinuo learns to treat her husband's close relatives as family, to respect and understand them.
At first, the mother-in-law did not like Fang Yinuo, but Fang Yinuo paid wholeheartedly for the family with a sincere heart, and was recognized by the mother-in-law and the family, and everyone regarded her as a relative and treated Hehe as the grandson of the family.
Only Xie Tianhua's eldest sister could not accept Fang Yinuo, always regarded Fang Yinuo as a thorn in his eye, and he had to target it at every turn, Xie Dan was not a bad person, but his mouth was too broken, many of the words she said were facts, she hated Fang Yinuo and was also completely in line with human nature, she told Fang Yinuo:
Fang Yinuo, I don't like you, I don't accept you, I have no opinion on you as a person, I feel a loss for my brother, I feel worthless for my brother, my brother is a big and small guy, what kind of girl can't marry ah, but he doesn't even have his own children, every day to raise children for you, why, I feel sorry for him!
When Xie Dan said these words, the family remained silent, and silence was the representative's approval, and Xie Tianhua also silently drank a glass of wine for himself, but in turn, he also had to appease Fang Yinuo's emotions, appease the family's emotions, and he was splinted in the middle.
Xie Dan's hatred for the other party Yinuo is not unreasonable, first of all, what she said is the truth, this marriage, the loss is Xie Tianhua, from the perspective of the bystander, I hope that Fang Yinuo will live happily, but empathy, if Xie Tianhua is my relative, I will also feel wronged for him.
Fang Yinuo, as a daughter-in-law, has done a good job, she will get up every day to make breakfast for her family, her mother-in-law is sick, she will go to the hospital to take care of it, bathe her mother-in-law, wash her face, wash her clothes, she does a good job, very standard, which she will not do in her last marriage.
But Fang Yinuo still did not grasp the core of the marriage, when Zhu Zhu and her showdown, asked Fang Yinuo, did you really care about Xiao Lu, Fang Yinuo's answer is "caring about it is not love", as everyone knows, what love needs most is to care.
A man is tired outside for a day, and what he needs to go home is a word of concern and encouragement from his wife, because he does this for this home, once the other party takes it for granted, then the effort will become meaningless, Fang Yinuo once did not recognize this, even if she divorced once, she still did not recognize this.
In their marriage, Fang Yinuo is more of a party of enjoyment, every time it is Xie Tianhua to comfort Fang Yinuo, care for Fang Yinuo, but rarely see Fang Yinuo care about Xie Tianhua, ask him how he feels, which is also caused by Yinuo's original family:
She has never lacked love since she was a child, and her parents have always cared about her, so she is used to enjoying the care of others, but she does not know how to care for others, which may be the common disease of many only children, more independent and more selfish.
In fact, in the marriage between Xie Tianhua and Fang Yinuo, there are very few components of love, more is Xie Tianhua's helplessness and bitterness, after Hehe was diagnosed with leukemia, Xie Tianhua endured too much, for a woman who does not love herself, exhausted all the financial resources of herself and her family, I don't know if it is true love, or helpless.
Xie Tianhua for Fang Yinuo, like an angel, he saved the life of Fang Yinuo and Hehe, such a man, very rare, fortunately, Fang Yinuo learned to care in the end, watching Xie Tianhua drag his tired body away, Fang Yinuo finally looked at Xie Tianhua's eyes, there was a hint of "heartache", which also meant that Yinuo would become a qualified wife.
Xiao Lu - Dong Fan, a sweet and high-sweet couple who heal each other
If Fang Yinuo's marriage is a fluke, then xiao Lu and Dong Fan's marriage is really appropriate, because it is rare to thank Tianhua in the world, but there are many Dong Fan.
The love between Xiao Lu and Dong Fan is really too sweet, and it is also the kind of love I yearn for, two people who love each other, heal each other's lives, achieve each other, and grow each other.
Dong Fan is a personal good-hearted, sweet and salty little angel, Xiao Lu's change, most of it is the credit of Dong Fan, Xiao Lu since the divorce, the marriage is full of fear, Dong Fan has proposed to get married many times, Xiao Lu did not agree, not because he does not love her, but worried about not being able to do a husband, worried about the recurrence of the original scene.
The marriage with Fang Yinuo made Xiao Lu full of tiredness, but also full of guilt, guilt for his mother and brother, guilt for his own daughter.
When he was with Fang Yinuo, Xiao Lu rarely let his mother and brother come to the house in order to make Fang Yinuo more satisfied, because Fang Yinuo would dislike him and vent his dissatisfaction with him, so he paid little attention to his close relatives, and he climbed high above Yinuo to live a good life, while his mother and brother could not even come to the house, Xiao Lu was ashamed of their hearts.
However, dong fan's appearance healed Xiao Lu's heartbreak, and when he first planned to take Dong Fan to his home, Xiao Lu hesitated for a long time, firstly because he was afraid that Dong Fan would dislike his mother and brother, and secondly, because he was afraid that Dong Fan would see the photo of Hehe.
But Dong Fan proved with actions that Xiao Lu's concerns were superfluous, Dong Fan did not dislike his family in the slightest, and treated his family with sincere love and respect, but Xiao Lu still had some concerns and did not dare to easily step into marriage.
Until that rainy day, Dong Fan was wet on the side of the road waiting for him, Xiao Lu felt very guilty, when he timidly said that he and Su Jingwei quarreled, because going to see Hehe caused the contract to be sent wrong, waiting to be scolded, Dong Fan came to say:
You are arguing right, Su Jingwei is also too unkind, the father looks at the daughter, it is natural, he has no children and no father!
Xiao Lu was surprised and happy in his heart, if this was changed to the former Fang Yinuo, splitting his head and covering his face was a meal, he would not stand in Xiao Lu's point of view to think at all, Dong Fan's understanding, the acceptance of Hehe, made Xiao Lu want to be more good to this girl, he carefully helped her wipe her hair and wear a seat belt.
The two people did not take a few steps, the tire exploded, Xiao Lu got off the car to repair the car, Dong Fan went down to accompany Xiao Lu regardless of his disregard, blocking him with clothes, although he could not stop anything, but xiao Lu's heart was completely blocked on Dong Fan's body, Dong Fan sprinkled on Xiao Lu:
My dad said that a man who can change his tires at any time is really nice!
This affirmation made everything Xiao Lu do meaningful, although his body was raining, his heart was sunny, and although Dong Fan followed him to help him, Xiao Lu did not have a look of disgust:
Makeup is white, my mother told me before, at any time, girls who are not afraid of makeup flowers are still very good!
This is definitely made up, because Comrade Gao Caiping will not say such a thing, but Xiao Lu, in order to make her happy, found a symmetrical sentence and made a "pair" with Dong Fan's words, at the same time, he also wanted to become a pair with Dong Fan, and he proposed.
It is the understanding and companionship of this girl that makes Xiao Lu release the wounds of childhood and the death of the previous marriage, Dong Fan, who is Xiao Lu's angel.
There is a saying in "The World of Man": There is a type of woman who seems to be an angel sent by God to the people, as long as they have an intimate relationship with any family, the family will be full of splendor, and the mood of adults and children will be better. They are not necessarily pistachios, but at least they are a pillar of refreshing incense that is not easy to extinguish.
Dong Fan is both a pistachio and a refreshing fragrance, when she is there, the atmosphere of a home is cheerful and relaxed, she does not like the dishes made by her mother-in-law, but the mouth is sweet, always a vigorous boast, the comrades of Gao Caiping can not find the north, thinking that the dishes they made are really delicious.
Xiao Xu used to be an abominable problem youth, even his mother hated the kind, but after having a little sister-in-law, it seems to have become cute, like him, generally you also look down on him, the more he makes you uncomfortable, when he and Fang Yinuo quarreled, what ugly words were said, together with Dong Fan, but became a "iron brother" who said nothing,
Looking at the family members are good, Xiao Lu is happy from the heart, than when he left his family for love, he was a hundred times happier, Xiao Xu returned home in tattered clothes, he lay on the sofa, his shoes did not take off, he changed it into a promise, he was sure to find Xiao Lu again, but Dong Fan did a real understanding and respect:
I guess it was not happy outside, we were almost finished eating, I talked to him.
To understand a person, first understand what he likes, love a person, but also to love what he loves first, the two play a game together, Xiao Xu said what he was not willing to say to his mother and brother, to his sister-in-law.
This intimate relationship is the real benign relationship, rather than forcing others to become their own satisfied, if they are not satisfied, they will exclude people, Xiao Lu is these two close relatives, good to them, better than Xiao Lu himself to make Xiao Lu happy.
Unfortunately, Fang Yinuo did not understand this truth, only willing to accept Xiao Lu as a person, but his family was rejected thousands of miles away, Xiao Xu used to dislike going to his brother's house, and now he has to go to his brother and sister-in-law every weekend, because things have not gone, Xiao Lu also jokingly said to Dong Fan:
It's good not to come, I have to take care of you both when he comes, he can take care of you alone without me coming!
Dong Fan does not have Fang Yinuo's ability, but he can train Xiao Lu to be a good husband model, in fact, many times, men do not ask women to be more capable, they just want a little understanding and care.
Men are sometimes very strange, no matter how tired, as long as you praise him, he can immediately jump up and saddle up for you, on the contrary, no matter whether he is tired or not, if you blindly accuse and belittle, even if you are idle, he is too lazy to take care of you, let alone help you share the housework.
A strong woman like Fang Yinuo is difficult to get happiness, if it were not for the fact that Xie Tianhua is a thoughtful man, with Fang Yinuo's stubbornness, she will suffer a lot, and a small woman like Dong Fan is the most likely to obtain happiness in reality, which explains the truth of marriage:
Women, to know how to create a sense of accomplishment for men, do not always show the strong side in front of men, do not want to be strong when needed, do not always use their own ideas to control men, to know how to show weakness, know how to "let go".