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Two days ago, Lao Yu brushed a search notice in the circle of friends, and a father was looking for the daughter of a British student who had been missing for 19 days.
Fortunately, it was a false alarm, and the girl had found and responded:
"Writing a doctoral research plan, I didn't see the news when my phone was turned off."
This response caused netizens to complain.
As a person who is about to study for a doctorate, he turned off his mobile phone for 19 days without knowing how to contact his parents, and during this period he also contacted his classmates and logged on to the course website, which seems a little strange.
Lao Yu felt that this response was a bit like an excuse for not wanting to contact his parents. Of course, it's all speculation.
The girl's response also differed from the details of the search notice sent by her parents.
Parents said that every Saturday there were phone calls and videos, and the girl responded that she usually contacted her parents once a long time. In addition, some insiders said that female students worked for two years after graduating from undergraduate before studying abroad.
Therefore, Lao Yu speculated that the girl's relationship with her family may not be so close and lack of communication.
In the "parents are a scourge" group that has disappeared from Douban, many children complain here that their parents will not communicate well, and they often beat and scold, resulting in their own sensitive and cowardly personality.
In real life, such cases are not few:
In the TV show "Super Parenting", Li Yongcheng and his father never communicated, and his father did not take the initiative to communicate with him. Mom always directed him in an imperative tone and did not guide him to communicate with Dad. In the long run, he stopped calling him Daddy and got along with him like a stranger.
In the program group, the parenting teacher cultivated the feelings between father and son by letting Li Yongcheng and his father complete the task together, and let the father take the initiative to communicate with him patiently, and he gradually became cheerful.
It can be seen how important communication between parents and children is.
Lao Yu summed up a few small ways to communicate with children:
Learn to listen
Children should be good at listening and listening carefully when they speak.
Some parents ignore the child when the child speaks, and even interrupt the child, resulting in a decrease in the child's desire to express, and in the long run, the child may refuse to express.
Friendliness
Be friendly when communicating with your child.
Parents are always impatient when their children communicate, and even vent other emotions in work and life on their children.
The child either accepts everything and becomes timid and cowardly under the criticism of his parents; or he is dissatisfied with the criticism of his parents and breaks out into contradictions.
Accurate expression
When communicating with your child, you should accurately express your own meaning, and don't be yin and yang.
Accurate expression can improve the effectiveness of communication, and change the rhetorical question sentence to a declarative sentence: for example, change "What is your attitude here" to "Your attitude is not good, where is the performance".
Appropriate praise
Praise your child appropriately when they are doing well.
Long-term belittling and suppressing children makes children lose self-confidence, and appropriate praise allows children to remember their good behavior, so that children strengthen their memory.
Being good at communicating with children is the foundation of a happy family.
How do you communicate with your children in normal times? Will your child talk to you a lot?
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