Who is at fault with my brother's marriage? They have no way to retreat

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My mother hadn't studied much in her life, but she knew it was important.

She often said that she had suffered a lot of losses because she did not study much.

Our family has three children, the younger brother is the youngest, and it is the heart of the father and mother. Since childhood, he has indulged this younger brother a lot, so so far his brother has not even married.

01

Look at the daughter-in-law by the mother's standards

To be honest, my brother was handsome when he was young, and if he was Andy Lau second, absolutely no one in the village said first.

There are also many girls who like him, far from the point where my mother wants to find someone to match now.

I remember one year, my brother guangdong came back from work, I saw a bunch of photos, one of the girls is From Fujian, with a good figure, a white face, really as beautiful as a star retouching.

It may be yin and yang, not together.

Later, there was a girl in the next village who liked her brother, and the younger brother also thought that the other party could. But the mother looked at it from her point of view, saying that the girl's facial features were not good enough, and the next generation would have problems in the future.

In my opinion, this is not too much of a problem.

But the mother objected again and again, thinking that the daughter-in-law must find a person with good facial features.

Coupled with the first meeting, this future daughter-in-law collided with her mother, and the younger brother also felt that it was a bad sign that she had not yet crossed the door, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would have a big contradiction in the future.

In this way, the daughter-in-law will be scrapped. The younger brother has not found the right one, the mother as she gets older, eager to ask for a son, only to reflect on it, if there was no obstruction from it, blocking the brother's marriage, now the younger brother's children can play soy sauce.

The younger brother, from the bottom of his heart, sometimes blames his mother, why should he impose interference.

Later, the mother also understood that the marriage of the children should be left to their own choices, and the children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. The vision of the previous generation is not necessarily in line with the vision of the next generation, and many times it is good intentions to do bad things.

02

Machismo is at work

In fact, the younger brother has a strong machismo.

I found that in my brother's eyes, he always felt that only when he was strong, or that he was stronger than the woman, he could engage with the other party.

Reality is such a coincidence.

I often joke that I've wanted to eat soft rice all my life and just can't eat it. This is both encouragement and ridicule.

In fact, this concept of thought is also the crux of many post-80s and post-90s generations. They felt that they were not enough to support each other, so I did not go to the object, and did not dare to talk about marriage. Over time, they all became single dogs.

Just like the young men in our village, in order to find a daughter-in-law, they all rush to the county town to buy a house. Oh, yes, with a house you must also have a car to be in the county scenery.

In the eyes of my brother, these are standard, but he does not have a standard, how to talk about matching?

So, even after the age of marriage, the younger brother is still afraid - think of the house, the car, the ticket, the children, the loan, a few mountains and shake himself to the point of not moving.

In fact, there is no need for this at all.

I often advised my brother that I was also naked. Mother-in-law did not agree, but also called the police to arrest me, I did not have money to buy thousands of rings, I went to the City God Temple to buy 20 pieces, no money to shoot wedding dresses, I rented a set, I took a picture, I did not buy a house to rent a house...

The key is that the two loves each other, and the love is stronger than gold.

03

A forced marriage is exhausting

Who said that the female eldest does not stay in the middle, stays and stays to become a vendetta, and the son is the same.

After staying at home for a long time, not getting married, the parents were 100% miserable and faceless, so they went around looking for someone to tell their children to find a matchmaker. The more this happened, the more the front and back of the house commented, as if they were plotting something, and the more disgusted the younger brother became.

The younger brother belongs to the type that can be talked about in the north and south of the world, as long as he talks about his girlfriend, he pretends to be dead.

Therefore, there are countless matchmakers who come to the door, and they are embarrassed by their brother's "perfunctory blame".

You say talk about love, why don't you talk about it?

Do you want to add a WeChat QQ, chat online? Yes.

The girls in his brother's friends are estimated to be not hundreds but also dozens, but he almost doesn't want to say a word, his father and mother are anxious to have white hair next to him, but the younger brother is as stable as Tarzan and does not talk.

You don't want to talk, do girls "hot face stick cold ass"? Everyone is a pearl in the palm of the hand, the personality plays cooler than anyone, can talk about it, don't talk about pulling down, I play with my phone to go.

Because he was exhausted and bored.

04

You can only go with the flow

Seeing that Meng Fei asked Liu Yan why she was still single, Liu Yan said that it might be because she was too strong, maybe she was old, and she would not put down the lower limit anyway.

A group of post-80s and post-90s sample young people like my brother did not find the right one, and I can't completely blame them.

I also advised my mother that my children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and when the time comes, they will get married. Even if you force him to get married now, and you don't have half a year to divorce again, why bother?

You know, the single population in our country has exceeded 240 million, and there are more and more single dogs.

It is said that the post-90s divorce rate continued to climb from 2010 to 2017. The divorce rate after the 80s is more than 50%, and the divorce rate after the 90s is 51%, far exceeding the post-70s and post-60s people.

There are many reasons for not getting married, and when the time comes, fate will naturally come.

As long as you are a little more tolerant of each other, a little less urgent, a little more understanding, a little less strong, don't take the frame to set, loosen your fist, you can see the beautiful scenery in the distance.

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