"Marrying an only child can be less than twenty years of struggle", and families with three incorrect views must not be married

01.

A few days ago, I heard my cousin talk about her blind date experience.

The other person seemed gentle and elegant, and was the type she liked. The two talked happily, and left contact information for each other when they left.

Her first message from the boy was, "By the way, are you a local only child?"

After the cousin denied it, the other party put down a sentence: "You are not an only child, we are not suitable" immediately blocked her.

She felt offended and unwilling. I asked the staff of the marriage agency, and the other party told her that she did not meet the man's criteria for choosing a mate.

His ideal type is: "Marry an only child, you can struggle for twenty years less." ”

I wonder how today's young people can so blatantly expose their ambitions to the public.

But this is also good, saving everyone from wasting time.

In this world, there are many women who want to marry into the rich and enjoy the blessings, and there are many men who want to change their fate through marriage.

Compared to: "Female junior, holding gold bricks." Female senior thirty, send Jiangshan. "The age-appropriate urban only daughter has undoubtedly become the most sought-after fragrant food in the marriage market."

If it is just for money, my cousin's family is not bad. The younger brother followed his parents in business and became a family early. She graduated with her own master's degree and has a stable job. Every family member has financial freedom.

Such conditions are still rejected. I have to say that the current blind date conditions are inevitably a bit harsh.

02.

Once upon a time, when it came to only children, people's first impression was that they were accustomed to a life of eating to open their mouths and clothes to reach out, and they had a bad temper and did not have the ability to take care of themselves. Many boys and their parents are reluctant to marry such an "ancestor" back home.

So why are more and more men now fond of only women with superior families?

I believe that most men, when they first entered the society, had the ambition to "live on their own in the city". However, after a severe beating by society, it was found that the speed of wallet growth could never keep up with the speed of house prices. In order to have a small nest in the city, it may take thirty or forty years to struggle, or even take the life savings of your parents.

Therefore, if you want to take root in the city, you can only use external forces to find another way.

If there is a girl who is willing to marry with a house, for them, it is tantamount to finding a springboard to help them jump directly out of the process of struggle and liberate them from the "house slavery" in the next few decades.

In fact, the phenomenon of the woman's dowry house has become more and more common. Why do you have to be an only child?

Because they know that in a one-child family with good family conditions, parents will do everything they can to cultivate them, in general, they have good personal cultivation, and they are not like some girls from poor families.

The most important thing is that they have no brothers and sisters, and the property that their father-in-law and mother-in-law have worked so hard for all their lives will one day be handed over to them, and sooner or later it will fall into their hands.

"A man marrying an only daughter from a privileged family is equivalent to marrying a cash machine, and can struggle for twenty years less." This is not false at all.

In order to achieve this great goal, men will disguise themselves as any one you like.

Some people say that everyone has the right to choose their ideal partner, and it is not a shameful thing to put the conditions on the table before marriage.

Indeed, this kind of thing has always been "Zhou Yu hit Huang Gai, one willing to fight one wish to be beaten." ”

It's just that this kind of utilitarian marriage, how many can really go to the end?

Because a comfortable marriage not only needs to rely on material foundations to maintain, but more importantly, whether the three views of two people are consistent.

03.

Recently, Mango Station launched the first divorce variety show "Goodbye Lover", Zhu Yaqiong and her husband Wang Qiuyu, are a controversial couple.

The two were married for six years, during which they were separated and merged, divorced and remarried due to pregnancy, and finally the woman still wanted to divorce and was currently in a "cooling off period".

Looking closely at their marriage, in the final analysis, it is because of the three views:

Zhu Yaqiong wrote a song to her husband, who said that her words were not well written. She is a person who needs encouragement, but her husband has always denied her talent;

Zhu Yaqiong is a romantic type and likes a sense of ceremony. And the husband thinks that the sense of ceremony is a kind of performance, they don't even have a wedding, there is no anniversary;

On the day of the registration, she carefully put on makeup, but he said: "You are so ugly."

Even when hugging, the other party will silently time, and when the minute is almost up, they will signal to her: You can go out.

There is nothing more disheartened than this.

And her experience is not a microcosm of thousands of couples. The three views are inconsistent, and even if they are barely together, they are just two walking corpses living under the same roof.

Two people who come together because of love are still separated for one reason or another. How can you expect that a man who tries to "marry an only child and eat a family" will give you a happy marriage?

Maybe he can tolerate you, accommodate you, and try to cater to your three views. But who can guarantee that he will always be able to pretend like this?

There are countless examples of those who have seen their father-in-law and mother-in-law die, and the wife has lost her dependence, and has taken revenge on her wife for decades. They cheat, domestic violence, and even abandon their wives mercilessly after they get everything they want.

It really answers the sentence: "Beasts are always beasts, and sometimes man is not man." ”

04.

We often say that the door is right. It does not refer to the simple sense of "equal money", but to the like-minded outlook on life and values.

It is not to say that two people have to have the same interests and hobbies in order to be called the same as the three views.

It's "I like to eat kebabs, and you tell me it's unhealthy to eat kebabs, and then I don't eat them." But when I can't help but want to eat, you are still willing to eat with me. ”

Allowing the other person to be different from us, but also respecting his differences and embracing his differences.

To be able to do this, one needs to be open-minded enough.

And I never believe that a man who is calculating and unwilling to fight down-to-earth, trying to change his destiny through women and marriage, has such qualities.

So girls meet someone they like, don't rush into marriage. Give yourself some time to learn about his three views.

You will find that all emotions can start with the five senses, but will certainly be faithful to the three views, or finally the three views.