Son-in-law, my son wants to travel abroad, and you sponsor twenty thousand

Marriage is a happy union, not an exchange of benefits

Some people say that marriage is a journey, and it is the most romantic thing to find the right person to enjoy the scenery along the way; some people say that marriage is a responsibility, we must be responsible for the second half of the lover's life; some people say that marriage is a task, we must complete our mission at the right age.

But I think marriage should be a happy union. Two people who can come together must have identified each other from the depths of their hearts and firmly believed that each other can bring them the happiness they want.

How to get more happiness after marriage and how to cleverly avoid contradictions in marriage are topics that every couple should study. We always firmly believe that long-term and stable happiness must be based on "spiritual resonance".

Life is inseparable from material things, but people who pay too much attention to material things in marriage often strive for more benefits for themselves by overdrawing their emotions. In the long run, this will inevitably affect the stability of the relationship.

"Son-in-law, my son wants to travel abroad, you sponsor twenty thousand" "I am divorced, find someone else"

01. "Hard work can get rich", this is a sentence that Wen Bin often heard his parents say when he was a child. Although Wen Bin's family is not rich, with the diligence and dedication of his parents, the family's life is still quite good. His parents always taught him to stay learning, to stay motivated, to be industrious.

Because of the influence of his parents, Wen Bin was also very serious during his studies, and even in the eyes of his classmates, he was a "nerd". Although his communication skills were very poor, Wen Bin's learning talent began to show. In high school, he was always the first in the class and became the first child in the village to be admitted to a key university.

After graduation, Wen Bin quickly got a stable job, and his annual salary quickly exceeded 100,000. In the eyes of relatives, Wen Bin is an honest and reliable young man, so they all want to introduce him to the object. Xiaomei from the village next door is his high school alumnus and admired him when she was a student. Through the opportunity of blind dates, Xiaomei became his girlfriend.

02. At the beginning, Xiaomei's mother was not satisfied with Wen Bin. The appearance is average, the family is average, and there seems to be nothing outstanding. But in those two years, Wen Bin was in an upward period, and his income was growing rapidly, so Xiaomei's mother slowly accepted him. However, just before getting married, Xiaomei's mother proposed that she must come up with a dowry of 280,000 yuan and buy the house.

Although I have some savings, it is really too much pressure to bear the money for the down payment, the bride price, the goldware and the banquet at the same time. In order to let their son marry with dignity, Wen Bin's parents could only borrow money from relatives. Because of this matter, Wen Bin has been uncomfortable in his heart. What made him even more uncomfortable was that Xiaomei did not have any dowry, and that money naturally became the "marriage reserve" of the brother-in-law.

Xiaomei did not feel that there was anything wrong with her parents, and she always enlightened Wen Bin: "My whole person is yours, do you still care about money?" Besides, my brother is also from his own family, so isn't it right to help him? Because Wen Bin's income is getting higher and higher, he doesn't think too much about it.

But Wen Bin did not expect that the increase in his income not only won the approval of his wife and father-in-law and mother-in-law, but also exchanged for their endless exploitation. Xiaomei, who seems to be a virtuous patron of the family, is becoming more and more unlimited when helping her mother's family. Within two years of marriage, Xiaomei spent at least 100,000 yuan in her mother's family, and most of this money was Wen Bin's income. But when facing her in-laws, Xiaomei behaved very sharply, and even tried to pick the cheapest one when buying fruit.

03. In the third year after marriage, Xiaomei's younger brother graduated from college. At this time, Xiaomei proposed to give the marriage room when she was married to her brother, because the suite was smaller, and she took this opportunity to buy a larger set again. Wen Bin sneered, "I feel that your family has regarded me as a cash cow and has been using me." ”

Xiaomei was furious after hearing this, and the two had a big fight. Wen Bin's long-accumulated anger and grievances were also released at once, and he decided to divorce on the spot. Before the two told the elders of both sides of the divorce, Wen Bin received a call from Xiaomei's mother: "Son-in-law, my son has just graduated, he wants to come to a graduation trip and go abroad for more than a week." Well, your brother-in-law's sponsorship of twenty thousand! ”

Wen Bin said: "Sorry, I just got divorced, you still have to find someone else, I don't want to help the poor anymore." Originally, Wen Bin still had some regrets and reluctance about the divorce, but after hanging up the phone, he suddenly felt that his choice was not wrong.

Yan Yan has something to say:

There is nothing wrong with honoring parents and helping relatives is a virtue. But after marriage, we have to treat both parents by the same standards. Leaving the best resources to the original family, but treating the parents of the lover is a different attitude, this "double standard" approach is bound to cause contradictions.

When accepting a marriage, we should set our minds straight. Those who have a correct view of love and a correct view of love must know what to focus on in marriage. And those who pay too much attention to material and interests often determine their attitudes because of each other's income.

Parents should play a role in "maintaining stability" in their children's marriages, and at the same time should show the arrogance of elders and set a good example for their children. We advocate the right door, but we do not recommend that you take material conditions as an important criterion for measuring marriage. Because character, character, and ability are more important.

Whether a marriage can be happy or not can actually be seen when it is determined. The union of a pair of lovers is a test of each other's feelings and a test of the families of both sides. Those who value material things too much are doomed to less easily reap happiness.

Don't test your lover's bottom line over and over again

The favored are always fearless, because we always feel that because the other person loves us, we can constantly ask for love and materials from the other party. Of course, a man who loves his wife must be willing to continue to pay for his lover and family.

But married life has been around for decades, and the feelings between husband and wife are also mutual. Blindly asking and constantly testing the bottom line of the lover, the other party will eventually have a "tired heart" day. Long-term efforts will not be rewarded, and even the warmest heart will become indifferent.