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Even though the reality of marriage makes us feel tough, we still struggle to find security in our marriage.
But sometimes you can meet a responsible husband, and it is not easy to talk about it.
The heroine in the next case not only met her husband who did not take responsibility, but also had a mother-in-law with thin mud.
Since Zhao Qing got married, she has completely ended her previous comfortable life.
It turned out that she was a person who ate enough for the whole family and was not hungry, but this marriage and pregnancy made her live a more and more tense day by day.
And the husband Zhang Zhichao's monthly salary is not very stable, sometimes the benefit can be seven or eight thousand, not good can only take three or four thousand.
The most troublesome thing is that the little couple's house still has a little mortgage, and they have to give the bank nearly two thousand a month.
Although this month's payment is all paid by the husband, this marriage room is also written with his own name.
And the husband's heart is still very unbalanced, he always takes this month's confession to talk about things, from time to time he complains that he is under great pressure and that it is very difficult for a person to repay the loan.
But where did he know, in fact, Zhao Qing's heart was more bitter.
She was an ordinary logistician in the factory, working overtime a month to get more than four thousand.
Coupled with the fact that she became pregnant after marriage, the obstetric examination and filing were all her own money.
Sometimes when asking her husband for money to buy some food, he had to grind for a while before reluctantly taking a few hundred.
A few times down, Zhao Qing would rather cut a little herself than look at her husband's face for hundreds of pieces.
Watching her belly get bigger and bigger, there are more and more things to prepare.
From children's quilts to clothes and diapers, they have to be hoarded and prepared.
But her husband would argue with Zhao Qing every time about this, and he thought that the child had not yet been born and did not need to prepare so much.
However, Zhao Qing did not care about her husband at all, she knew that her husband was worried about spending money.
Looking at him like this, Zhao Qing's heart had begun to faintly worry, because there would be more places to spend money after the birth of the child.
Sure enough, after the birth of the child, the family's expenses are getting bigger and bigger.
Diapers are not wet paper towels These are all consumables, they have to be bought continuously, and emollient baby strollers must be prepared one after another.
The husband watched the little child spend money like flowing water, his face became more and more ugly, and the purse was getting tighter and tighter.
Zhao Qing knew that the family's economy had always been tense, and the idea of hiring a nanny was also denied to herself.
Just when she was trying to reduce the burden on her family, her husband Zhang Zhichao put forward an extremely absurd request at this time.
In order to avoid responsibility and pressure, he actually proposed the AA system with Zhao Qing.
He also said that he was responsible for the mortgage and basic daily expenses, and the cost of the children was half of that of one person.
This request Zhao Qing listened to like five thunderbolts, which was clearly selfish to the extreme.
She cried when she was angry, and she quarreled with her husband at home for several days in a row.
Finally, the mother-in-law knew and hurried over to play the round field, who knew that the old lady said: "Oh Zhao Qing, you are also in the blessing and do not know the blessing." How many women get married without a house, Zhichao pressure is big enough, this AA system is good for you. ”
Zhao Qing did not expect that her mother-in-law was eager to protect her son, so she blatantly helped her son to act recklessly.
Zhao Qing, who wanted to divorce and leave, suddenly decided to calm down and retaliate.
She gritted her teeth and agreed to her husband's request, and as soon as she was born, she actively returned to work.
From the moment her husband proposed the AA system, she knew that this man was not reliable at all.
So after returning to work, she began to work harder.
In order to be able to transfer to a position with more development potential, he also privately gave gifts and made good relations with leaders.
Slowly her efforts paid off, and a year later she was transferred to the sales department for contract review, and her treatment suddenly improved a lot.
Zhao Qing, who seized the opportunity, was excited in her heart, her relationship with all parties was good, and her income was not the same as before.
The cautious and far-sighted Zhao Qing did not spend money indiscriminately, except for the expenses for her son, the rest of her had a plan to save.
After a few years, the child took care of her white and tender, and she also had a large deposit in her hand.
On the other hand, the situation of her husband Zhang Zhichao is completely different from Zhao Qing.
Since he and his wife AA system, he has no self-motivation and feels that he can live a good life.
In the unit, because it is too mediocre, the income in the past few years has not increased but decreased, and the savings have not been saved much.
Watching his wife take his son more and more moist, Zhang Zhichao had some regrets in his heart.
As a result, before he and his wife could make peace, they learned that their mother was unwell and sent to the hospital.
He rushed to the hospital to understand the situation, only to learn that his mother had a benign tumor in her stomach that needed to be surgically removed.
But this operation fee made him suddenly difficult, his mother did not have a pension, and he did not save money in recent years.
Now that this is a serious illness, the mother and son are dumbfounded.
He wanted to come and go, but he had to call his wife hard.
On the phone, he said somewhat cautiously, "Qingqing, I'll discuss something with you." AA system suspended, my mom needs surgery, but now I... Can't come up with that much money. ”
Zhao Qing on the other end of the phone was silent for a while and said: "I don't go home this month, take my mother on a tour, Zhang Zhichao, your children have not been in charge of these years, you have money." ”
Zhang Zhichao said with some grievances: "I am not good Qingqing, unlike a man who talks to you about the AA system, you look at the child's face, you can't ignore my mother." ”
Zhao Qing finally softened his heart, indicating that he would give him the money for the operation, but he must say that it was borrowed and repaid later.
The embarrassed Zhang Zhichao had no choice but to bow his head and agree.
After the old lady's operation, Zhao Qing also chose not to see her mother-in-law to avenge the year.
The old lady who gradually recovered did not see her daughter-in-law at this time, and sighed and meditated on the ceiling as a whole...
The confused husband in the case made the relationship between husband and wife so estranged because he proposed the AA system.
This tells us that couples pay attention to the same heart and mind in life, and it also tells us that women should understand the following two truths in marriage.
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One: The most important thing women should avoid is men who lack a sense of responsibility.
To say that the most suitable man to get married is not rich or handsome, but a real man with responsibility.
This sense of responsibility comes from good tutoring, and even innate qualities.
After marriage, such men will not change due to certain difficulties or temptations, but will only continue to shield the family from the wind and rain.
If a man lacks family responsibility, sooner or later it will disappoint his wife and children.
The husband in the case is very irresponsible, and chooses the AA system to avoid responsibility when the husband becomes a father.
When the mother was seriously ill, she could not stand up and take money to treat the mother.
All he could think of was blindly finding reasons and evading responsibility.
And the man in the marriage should have become a tree-like role, sheltering the family from the wind and rain.
But those men who have no sense of responsibility are just used to hiding behind others.
So for families and women, such men are not suitable to walk hand in hand with them and spend the storm together.
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Two: The AA system between husband and wife is like a wall separated between two people.
There are not a few couples with weak feelings, so some people unceremoniously request the AA system.
You must know that the AA system is actually extremely humiliating for either man and woman.
From a man's point of view, it is natural that he cannot afford to raise his wife and children.
For women, living a life as a stranger with their husbands is also a laughingstock of failure.
Therefore, this AA system is an indiscriminate existence between husband and wife in the family.
Because marriage is two people working together for a lifetime, together to live a small life.
But this method of separating money is simply illogical and unreasonable.
This practice not only cuts off feelings, but also hurts each other's hearts.
This wall and this door have since turned two people into strangers.
As everyone knows, taking advantage of themselves is actually more than worth the loss.
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Two people live a life, the most taboo is the same bed and different dreams.
If you don't want to get married to someone, you can choose slowly.
But please don't play ridiculous tricks again after marriage.
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