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In this life, it is particularly difficult for people to meet a soul mate, to meet a blue-faced confidant and a red-faced confidant.
Being able to fit in with the other half of the soul is the person I have met, the greatest luck in this life.
Many times, when one person wants to meet another person, it really takes a lifetime of good luck.
A relationship from the beginning to the final blossoming, in fact, is not smooth sailing
The middle will experience twists and turns, the middle will experience turmoil, the middle will experience contradictions and differences, and the middle will experience three "disconnections", but there will definitely be, towards the prosperity of spring and warm blossoms.
1. "Disconnection" when tastes are different
Everyone's taste is different, some people like to eat spicy, some people like to eat salty, some people like to eat bitter, and some people like to eat sour.
When men pursue a woman, they will try to follow the woman's taste.
Even if the woman is not spicy and unhappy, the man can never eat spicy, he will accompany the woman and eat the next spicy dish after meal.
Two people have been together for a long time, and men no longer want to cater to women's tastes, he wants to eat what he likes, he wants to eat his favorite tastes.
A man who never eats chili peppers, when he sees that there are always chili peppers in the dish, will have a nameless fire and want to vent it; he will inexplicably be ashamed and angry.
He feels that women are destroying his sense of taste, women are changing his eating habits, women also feel that they are particularly wronged, I want to eat some of my favorite meals, what to do?
At this stage, two people will "disconnect" from each other for a period of time because of the inappropriate taste, but when two people realize the importance of feelings, the two people will contact each other, and this level will pass.
2. The "broken connection" of the three different views
Compared with the difference in taste, the difference between the three views of the two people is more difficult to accept each other.
Men will feel that women should be at home with their husbands and children, rather than showing their faces, not traveling, but also frequently socializing.
Men also feel that after two people get married, the woman is the person of her own family, and she should have little relationship with her father-in-law and mother-in-law, and she must draw a clear line with her mother-in-law.
Men feel that women at this stage, the most important thing is to take good care of the family, to serve the in-laws well, other things, women do not need to worry.
Women, on the other hand, feel that their parents offer themselves for college, not to make themselves a stay-at-home mom.
Whether they are married or unmarried, they are always the children of their parents, and women should support their parents more than serving their in-laws and honoring their in-laws.
At this stage, because of the discord between the three views, two people will have a lot of contradictions, and even if they are more serious, they will not be able to reconcile.
However, what marriage and relationship in the world has come easily?
The feelings that can face this problem and finally solve this problem must be long-term and stable; the feelings that do not solve this problem are either constantly disputed every day, or finally go to the end of the breakup.
Please don't give up so easily, don't say break up so easily, two people can meet, it is already a great fate.
We must cherish it well, do not waste the fate of the gods, and do not discard the happiness that originally belonged to us.
3. The "disconnection" of two families that cannot be integrated
When both men and women have been integrated and reconciled, they will reach a consensus in many aspects of life, and the two people will basically no longer have differences and contradictions.
Even if there is a new problem, both people have found the best way to communicate and solve the problem.
However, when two strangers really come to the step of marriage, it is the beginning of entanglement and contradiction.
Because Chinese marriage has never been a marriage between a single man and a woman, a marriage of two people, but the integration of two families.
The future in-laws, who feel that their son is excellent, should have a better woman to accompany him.
The future father-in-law and mother-in-law feel that the daughter she has raised so hard should be able to find a boyfriend with better conditions, and she should be able to find a more reasonable mother-in-law.
Regarding the aspect of the bride price, the future father-in-law and mother-in-law feel that no matter how much they take or take less, the attitude of the man is very important, and the attitude of the in-laws is very important, because it is related to the happiness of the daughter in the future life.
The future in-laws feel that marriage is only a matter of two people, and the woman should not use marriage as a chip, and she will have to pay the bride price at every turn.
When the contradictions between the two families behind them cannot be reconciled, no matter how good the feelings of the two young people are and how much they want to be together, they may be torn apart alive.
When love enters the real marriage, when the wind and snow become the triviality of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, perhaps the feelings are only a chicken feather.
At this stage, two people can not adjust the attitude of both parents, two people may be completely "disconnected", can get the blessing of both parents of the marriage, can get the blessing of both parents of love and feelings, will be long-lasting and stable.
A stable and long-lasting relationship will definitely go through three "disconnections", which is a test for two people and a challenge to the feelings of two people.
As long as you can survive the stage of "disconnection" three times, this relationship will really get better.
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