Text: Xi Xihuan
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As the old saying goes, marry the right woman, and the family will be prosperous for three generations.
Perhaps in many people's minds, the helmsman of a family is always a man, with stronger psychological resistance to pressure and an advantage in making money.
However, people who live thoroughly understand that the stability maintenance and operation of a family is inseparable from the joint efforts of both husband and wife, even if the man is capable, if the woman does not fulfill the obligations and responsibilities of the wife and mother, then the man will eventually be chilled, and finally there will even be the idea of abandoning the marriage.
So there are many parents who will tell their sons to watch carefully when marrying a woman, and it is not the one you love who must be worthy of you.
Sun Liang's father and son's relationship has always been very good, in Sun Liang's eyes, his father has always been a reasonable old man, he will never interfere with his own choices and decisions, as long as it does not hurt the interests of others, his father will always understand and support him.
In the second year of work, Sun Liang met a girl, and the two fell in love at first sight and quickly established a romantic relationship.
Just when Sun Liang wanted to mention the marriage to his father, his father, who had always lived thoroughly, told him: "Son, are you sure you really know her?" Whether a woman is worth marrying is often not difficult, and it only needs to look at three aspects to be clear. ”
Listening to the advice given to him by his father, Sun Liang decided to spend some time with the girl to see, and sure enough, according to his father's analysis, Sun Liang found that he and the girl were actually not suitable, so he got together with her and dispersed.
01 She is not really understanding you
Once saw a small story on the Internet, the granddaughter asked Grandma what is the difference between marriage and not getting married, Grandma said, maybe you will spend a lifetime to love the person around you, there may be unhappiness, there have been grievances, but when you are old, sick, hurt, lying in bed can not move, you have a look he knows whether you are thirsty or hungry, this is the meaning of marriage.
Just like Sun Liang, he found that the two people had been together for almost two years, and he could say that he knew everything about the girl, such as what she liked to eat, what flowers she liked, and what movies she liked to watch.
But what about the girl to him? Sun Liang has a stomach problem, but every time he chooses to eat in the restaurant is Sichuan cuisine; Sun Liang does not like to eat fish, but the girl always forces him to taste the fish he made.
After a long time, Sun Liang really felt that the girl did not understand him at all, and even refused to pay some time and mind to understand him.
In this way, Sun Liang finally realized that the girl was actually not concerned about him, and if a person had paid for a long time, if he had not been rewarded, his heart would be cold.
For men, marrying a woman home is not to be good to her in one direction, men also have their own emotional needs, if the woman does not know him, then even if two people enter marriage, it is difficult for men to get the happiness they want.
Men should know that a woman who understands you will not only have a tacit understanding with you in the process of life, but most importantly, her understanding of you means that she is willing to pay attention to you and is willing to spend her mind and time in order to better understand you.
When the wife understands the husband, when the husband is tired, when the husband has pressure and has nowhere to vent, perhaps a look or a short companionship of the wife can comfort the husband's soul.
Men in marriage do not want to be alone, because even if they are capable, if they always face a woman who does not understand themselves, then no matter how much enthusiasm a man has, he will be poured out, and no amount of money earned will be considered worthless and meaningless.
So, if after giving all your sincerity, the woman still doesn't understand you, then don't be reluctant anymore, a woman who has never entered your heart is not worth marrying.
02 Whether you are willing to refuse temptation for you
It is said that a person always has the opportunity to choose again before they are married, and whether it is a man or a woman, they have the same rights.
In the relationship, we may all encounter the temptation of the outside, and the ambiguous feeling is very high, which will bring us a sense of freshness and excitement.
In the face of temptation, some people choose to keep the principles and the bottom line, because there is already a person who promises each other, so they should be loyal to him; but there are also people who indulge themselves and cannot refuse the temptation.
Friend Zhang Lin is about to marry his girlfriend, but on the eve of the wedding, he finds that his girlfriend has maintained an ambiguous relationship with other members of the opposite sex.
After proposing to break up, his girlfriend cried and begged him to say that he was just confused, but Zhang Lin did not have a soft heart, he felt that if a woman really loved him, it would reject all the temptations outside for him.
Now that this man has given her a sense of freshness, if she meets her again in the future, will she betray him again?
If a woman refuses to refuse temptation for you, it means that you are not the only one for her, at least she does not care much about your true psychological feelings, and there is no need to go to the step of marriage.
03 Whether you understand that it is not easy for you to work hard
It is actually really difficult for men to work hard outside, and now many women pay attention to the sense of ceremony inside love, no matter what the festival, men are required to send romance, surprises and gifts.
Sometimes for men, meeting these requirements of women has actually caused a lot of pressure, but because of love for her, they have accepted it.
But men also need to understand that if a woman really loves you, what matters most is what you care about her, not the love that is expressed through money and material things.
Just imagine, if the woman you married home never felt sorry for your hard work, nor did she understand that it was not easy for you to work hard outside, she only cared about satisfying her own materialistic desires, but would not give you the warmth and care you deserved, wouldn't you be cold?
The meaning of marriage is that as long as two people are together, even if they encounter a big storm, they will not be afraid, but they will become more courageous and confident because of each other's love.
The woman who understands that you are not easy to work hard will take the initiative to reduce your burden, will guard the home and your feelings for you, and she will give you encouragement and support when you need it most.
And people who don't understand you, even if you give her everything you have, she is still too little, so your efforts are justified for her.
The formation of a family is not easy, relying on the joint efforts and intentions of two people, marrying the right person is equally important as marrying the right person, which is why we should be cautious when entering the marriage, because once some promises are given, it is a lifetime.
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