"People can't be so selfish."
"In my current situation, I still hope to find a good family for my children, rather than selfishly keeping them by my side."
The person who said these words was named Dong Xiangyun, a patient with high paraplegia.
Now, he is incapacitated and unable to cover the normal expenses of his two children, and is struggling in his hospital bed.
For Dong Xiangyun, it doesn't matter if he suffers himself, but he wants to find a new way out for his two children.
No parent does not love their children, and when he said these words, Dong Xiangyun was also in tears.
Because before, Dong Xiangyun also had a happy and happy family, and because of the sudden change, he fell into the situation where his wife and daughter were separated...
Today, let us walk into Dong Xiangyun's family to see if fate has blessed them with suffering, and whether they can miraculously bloom in the midst of suffering.
When I was young, I had both children and a happy family
Dong Xiangyun was born in 1988 in Ningnan County, Liangshan Prefecture, Sichuan Province. His parents didn't have much culture, so Dong Xiangyun only went to elementary school and dropped out.
After not studying, he stayed at home and farmed with his father, and when Dong Xiangyun grew up a little, he chose to go out to work and earn money.
After Dong Xiangyun left home, he worked in all part-time works.
As long as he has money, he will change places to work. Only 22 years old, he is already a seasoned "working boy".
Because there is no culture, Dong Xiangyun can only enter various large factories or construction sites to do hard work.
Fortunately, when he was a child, he often farmed with his father, and his body was particularly good, and some hardships on the construction site could be eaten by Dong Xiangyun.
And he also has a very good personality, and he can often chat with his partners who work together.
Therefore, although life is not rich, Dong Xiangyun actually lives happily every day.
Don't look at Dong Xiangyun every day is dealing with the concrete on the construction site, but still pay great attention to his own image.
He's not as scruffy as the other boys who work at the construction site, buying himself a few clothes and getting a haircut to look cleaner in his spare time.
Although the clothes were not very expensive, every piece of clothing was washed clean by him, and the young man had a head.
In his 20s, he is flourishing, and a stop there can also attract the attention of many little girls.
In this way, Dong Xiangyun quickly attracted the attention of a girl surnamed Tang.
Two young men, you come and go, and soon fall in love.
However, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter between two families.
Tang Girl's family felt that Dong Xiangyun's origin was too low, and it did not meet the expectations of her family for her son-in-law.
Tang Girl's family felt that Tang Girl's appearance was good, and she would definitely be able to find a boy who was better than Dong Xiangyun, so she had always disagreed with the marriage between the two of them.
But this did not stop Tang Girl's determination to marry Dong Xiangyun, where in the world can parents overcome their children?
In the end, Tang Girl's parents reluctantly married their daughter to Dong Xiangyun.
And Dong Xiangyun also swore to his father-in-law and mother-in-law that he would be good to Tang Girl all his life and would not fail her.
After marriage, the lives of two people are like glue, except for work, every day is inseparable.
Outsiders should praise when they see it, and the feelings of this newlywed couple are really good.
After a year of marriage, the two had their first child, and her eldest daughter came to this life.
Soon, the Tang girl was pregnant again, and Dong Xiangyun felt that they were not suitable to continue to work outside.
So the family packed their bags, returned to their hometown, and wrapped up a piece of land with some of the savings they had saved over the years, ready to make a living at home by farming and farming.
Although life is not very rich, but can meet the daily expenses of a family, sometimes a family together, three meals and four seasons is not a kind of happiness?
Although in this small village, the neon of the big city can no longer be seen, but watching the daughter grow up day by day, the husband and wife are still very eager for the future life.
And this fetus just gave birth to a son, Dong Xiangyun can also be regarded as a child and daughter, a son and a daughter just made up a good word.
The days are also stable, with a stable income, a wife who can wash her hands and make soup, and two children of her own, who are next to him every day and learn to speak.
At this time, Dong Xiangyun felt that he was the happiest person in the whole world, but he did not expect that an accident had happened.
The arrival of this accident simply deprived him of all the joys of his life.
Paraplegic, wife away
One afternoon on April 13, 2016, Dong Xiangyun returned home as usual.
Thinking about what his wife would do for him after he came home, and what kind of games the children would play with him, he was immersed in the joy of happiness along the way.
But forgot to look carefully at the road.
The place where they live is hilly and surrounded by mountains.
On the way home, Dong Xiangyun had to walk through a small hillside, which often rolled down some stones, but no one was injured for many years, so no one cared.
But Dong Xiangyun became the unfortunate person, and on his way home, he happened to be hit in the neck by a stone rolling down the hillside.
Under the action of gravitational potential energy, Dong Xiangyun was in pain on the spot until he fell unconscious. Fortunately, other villagers passed around and rushed him to the hospital for rescue.
The injury this time was too serious, and the local small hospital could not properly handle Dong Xiangyun's injury.
After that, only Dong Xiangyun could be transferred to the hospital, and he also came to a large hospital in Yunnan for treatment.
Dong Xiangyun's wife did not expect that the misfortune would come so quickly.
She hurriedly packed up some luggage and went directly to the hospital in Yunnan to take care of her husband.
Dong Xiangyun directly fought with the god of death in the intensive care unit for nearly 100 days before he finally saved this life.
However, although his life was saved, the stone that hit his neck hit his spine.
It is likely to lead to lifelong paralysis below the chest.
He was unable to move anywhere but his head, including his arms and fingers.
At first, Dong Xiangyun's wife had not yet told him the truth, and she always felt that heaven could not treat them like this to a family that had not done anything wrong, and Dong Xiangyun would definitely be able to usher in the fate and give them a miracle of family.
But such a miracle can only happen in the TV series, through a period of rehabilitation training, Dong Xiangyun did not restore consciousness in other parts below the chest.
Eating and drinking Lazar every day, he could only rely on his wife to take care of him.
In order to treat him, his parents have spent all their savings and even borrowed hundreds of thousands of yuan from the outside.
But after a few days, Dong Xiangyun found that he did not see his wife's figure.
He was in a hurry, so he asked some caring nurses to call his wife, but no one answered.
Later, he called his home and asked if his wife had gone home to take care of the children. But the answer is still negative.
After living with his wife for so many years, Dong Xiangyun speculated that his wife was likely unable to accept his current situation and the huge debts of the family, so he left him.
But Dong Xiangyun was not dead-hearted, and he thought that his wife was not such a person, so he called his father-in-law and mother-in-law's house again.
At first, my father-in-law and mother-in-law all spoke in unison, saying that they did not have the information of Tang girl.
Until later, the father-in-law and mother-in-law also became bored, so they directly told Dong Xiangyun that they did not need to find their daughter anymore, saying:
The two of them had not agreed to have their daughter with him, and now that this had happened, didn't they let their daughter jump into the fire pit when they let their daughter return to this home?
Therefore, although it is somewhat difficult to accept, the selfishness of parents is also for the good of their children, and Dong Xiangyun has never inquired about the whereabouts of his wife since then.
From the beginning, it was like being hit by a thunderbolt on a sunny day, Dong Xiangyun was also slowly relieved, and felt that people should plan for themselves, and there was nothing wrong with it.
It's just that he doesn't have any self-care ability now, and can only let his old mother in his hometown come to the hospital in Yunnan to take care of him.
Dong Xiangyun's mother did not know a few big characters, and she had never been to such a high-level hospital in her life in the countryside.
Dong Xiangyun's mother has a lot of things Dong Xiangyun does not understand, but fortunately, some nurses and nurses in this hospital are more enthusiastic, and with their help, Dong Xiangyun's mother still takes care of her son very thoughtfully.
However, there is another conundrum in front of the family, and that is the cost of treatment.
Dong Xiangyun's mother can only run back and forth between home and the hospital, find people who can borrow money to continue to borrow money, and contact some institutions to reimburse the previous drug costs.
In this way, every time I just got the money in my hand, I quickly put it into the hospital's payment slip.
The tribulations of life
Until one day, Dong Xiangyun's mother said to her son with a crying voice:
"Son, let's go home!"
A simple sentence contains too much pain for a mother.
Dong Yunxiang also heard those words that had not been declared in his mother's tears, and he understood that their family conditions could no longer support him to be treated in a large hospital.
On October 20, 2017, Dong Xiangyun and his mother packed their bags and returned to their hometown to receive treatment at the local hospital in their hometown.
Back at home, Dong Xiangyun felt that he was going to give up on life.
But when he saw his son and daughter around him, he felt that God was not useless to him. Therefore, I am still strong and live, and I face life optimistically every day.
Bored at home, he could only choose to listen to TV and radio programs.
Once, he saw someone in the same condition as him on a show, and after treatment, a miracle occurred.
Although the rehabilitation process is a bit hard, it is like lying in bed for a lifetime.
Therefore, Dong Xiangyun discussed with his mother to return to the hospital in Yunnan for rehabilitation.
For the first time since the illness, a fierce quarrel broke out between mother and son.
At the end of the day, it's because of a word of money. Because the family no longer has the way to pay for Dong Xiangyun's treatment.
Dong Xiangyun greatly offset the sinking for a while.
The mother could not see that her son was depressed every day, so she could only drag an old face, continue to borrow money from relatives and villagers, run many times, and finally scrape together more than ten thousand yuan.
On March 1, 2018, Dong Xiangyun took the more than 10,000 yuan to St. John's Rehabilitation Hospital in Kunming, Yunnan Province for treatment.
But he was the only one on the journey this time, because the family's children still needed to go to school, and after the wife left, the mother needed to stay at home to take care of the two children.
So as a man, even if you fall, you have to carry a piece of the sky above your head.
Although there were no relatives taking care of him, the volunteers in this hospital were very kind and took good care of this unfortunate man.
However, the roof leaked in the overnight rain, and this already devastated family once again ushered in a new ordeal.
When Dong Xiangyun was receiving treatment in Kunming, Yunnan Province, Dong Xiangyun's mother suffered successive blows, and now the family's financial situation made her exhausted, and suddenly suffered from coronary heart disease.
At present, Dong Xiangyun's mother's illness also needs to be taken care of, and she can no longer continue to take care of Dong Xiangyun's two children.
But children are innocent and should not be allowed to suffer like this.
So Dong Xiangyun contacted the well-meaning volunteers and took his two children to his rehabilitation hospital.
The two children were forced to suspend their studies and come here to accept their father's care.
But although he is cared for by his father, what can his father, who is paralyzed in bed, do except be able to see them?
On the contrary, Dong Xiangyun's 8-year-old daughter, such a young age, carried a weight on her shoulders that should not be borne.
She often posted on her father's side, encouraging Dong Xiangyun to be sure to receive treatment well.
Orphaned in danger, he wants to find a good family for his children
"Dad, you must be treated well. Even if everyone in this world abandons you, my brother and I will always guard you. ”
The eldest daughter's words were said word by word into Dong Xiangyun's heart.
In fact, children are very spiritual beings, and you think he doesn't understand many things in the adult world.
But in fact, they are understanding the world of adults in their own way, and that way may be more simple.
And these things seem like only adults say, and the 8-year-old daughter has also fulfilled her promise.
Every day, she would fetch water to wipe her father's face and body, and pick up a nail clipper like an adult to trim her father's nails in a similar way.
She would also give her father some massages according to the doctor's method.
As a young child, she wanted to do some of her own modest efforts to protect this broken family.
The little girl was very sensible, and she and her brother said:
“
Mom is gone, and we can't lose Dad anymore. ”
It is under the education of such correct values as the sister, even if the younger brother does not understand some things, he does not cry or make trouble around his father, and looks exceptionally well-behaved.
Perhaps it was the sincerity of the child that touched the heavens, or it may be that the rehabilitation training was indeed curative, and Dong Xiangyun's fingers began to gradually recover consciousness.
After a period of training, the fingers have begun to become flexible. Now able to pick up all kinds of things, be able to pick up the phone and chat with other people, watch some of the latest news, etc.
This was really a blessing in disguise, after suffering one after another, Dong Xiangyun got the only good news.
When Dong Xiangyun received rehabilitation treatment, her sister would also secretly teach her brother to learn some words.
She was afraid that her father would feel sad when he saw it, and she always privately taught her brother something she had learned.
However, the children were still children, and their careful thoughts were soon known to Dong Xiangyun.
Dong Xiangyun's face showed an embarrassment, and he began to blame himself repeatedly,
Why was I careless when I walked that day?
A good family, but his illness dragged down into this shape.
The 8-year-old daughter sensibly shook her father's hand and told her father that it was okay.
"When you're well, send the two of us to school."
They all said, "The daughter is the father's little cotton jacket." ”
Having such a daughter is the luckiest thing in dong xiangyun's life.
But the daughter can understand her father, but as the father of the child, Dong Xiangyun, how can he continue to keep the two children by his side so selfishly?
Although the current rehabilitation training does have some effect, when will he really heal as before?
Ten years, twenty years, maybe a lifetime will not be able to heal and stand up, the wife has left her.
The most sorry thing in this world is his own children, so he can no longer choose so selfishly to keep his two children by his side.
After hesitating for a long time, Dong Xiangyun decided to be alone.
He posted a message online, hoping to meet a caring family that could adopt a pair of his children.
He doesn't take any money, just wants to have a family that adopts his son and daughter at the same time.
He could not be reunited with his own sons and daughters, but he still hoped that the two brothers and sisters who were connected by blood and bones could grow up together.
At the same time, he hoped that the family that adopted these two children would allow him to visit these two children once a year, after all, it was his own blood and bones, how could he easily say that he would break it off?
But he didn't mean anything else, he just wanted to see if his children were doing well? They can all go through the adoption procedures, and what kind of adoptive parents will these two children be in the future?
Dong Xiangyun said that he will not rob the children with the families who raise them, but just wants to see them again, every year to see their side...
After saying this, the middle-aged man wiped the tears from the corners of his eyes.
postscript:
In "Know it or not, know if it should be green fat red skinny", there is such a sentence:
"Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans."
Perhaps at present, Dong Xiangyun seems to be enjoying the joy of heaven when he keeps his children around, but in a few years, what kind of life should his children live?
Dong Xiangyun can only choose to endure the pain of cutting love and entrust his children to others for adoption.
These two children have endured such hardships as fate at a young age, and I hope that they can grow up healthy and happy.
At the same time, I also hope that Dong Xiangyun's body can recover as soon as possible.
Suffering will wait for the flowers to bloom miraculously.