After the children enter kindergarten, they begin to enter the collective life, and some children will fall behind when they are slow, affecting the overall rhythm of the class. Especially after the child goes to primary school, the primary school learning content and homework is more, more need for children to do things faster, many parents are worried about their children being left behind, to the children arranged a lot of courses and training classes, time will be more tense, parents will have been urging children, or some children write homework is slower, will continue to urge. This not only destroys the child's concentration, but also loses the patience to do things after a long time, and the child will be prone to short-temper and more resistant to parents.
So why are children slow to do things? In fact, a large part of the reason is because of the natural growth of the child's brain stage, there is also a part of the natural slow nature, in addition to the child will not have the same concept of time as adults, their concept of time is more vague, at the same time, the child's attention is relatively easy to transfer, easy to be affected by the surrounding environment, it is easy to forget what they are doing, there are some children because they are not interested in what to do, the enthusiasm is not high, in general, these are the characteristics of the child itself, objectively speaking, Children will normally be slower, in addition to the characteristics of the child itself, there is also a part of the environmental impact, such as parents to do, many parents because the child to do things slowly, do things for the child, self-care ability does not have a certain exercise, do things are not very skilled will be a little slow.
Whatever the reason, we will work hard from the following aspects, and it will definitely have an effect
First, self-domination. Everything to cultivate children is to lead the completion of their own, to develop the habit of autonomy, not to do it at the urging of parents. Instead of the children listening to their parents, they consult with each other and ultimately take the child's decision. For example, the teacher left homework, after returning home, ask the child what homework he left today, how long it takes to complete, and then let him go to the room to write, to master the rhythm of time by himself, you can use an hourglass or alarm clock as a standard of time, if you do not write properly extended, let him feel the speed of time, at the same time, let him know that after writing quickly, you can play for a while, you can watch cartoons for a while.
Second, be responsible for your own actions. Tell the child the time to complete the homework and the time to sleep every day, no matter how much homework, it must be completed before going to bed, rest on time, if it cannot be completed, go to the school the next day to explain to the teacher why it is not completed, let him bear the consequences by himself, and enhance the sense of responsibility.
Third, face it with your child. With autonomy and a sense of responsibility, we must help the child to find a way to complete the difficulties he is facing now, rather than forcing him to complete according to the requirements of his parents, he is still a child, we may not be as good as him at this stage when we are young, do not put too high demands on the child, and the child has opened the door early and late. Children in the process of learning will encounter problems, such as writing slowly, writing when distracted, or always want to go out to play, this time the child does not have a strong self-control ability, as a parent, to face problems and difficulties with him, help him and him to find a way to solve.
Fourth, develop good habits. Parents pay attention to cultivating children's good learning and living habits, and stop bad habits in time, so that they will not repeatedly correct them in the back. Take writing homework as an example, every day when you come home to rest until what time, what time to start eating, what time to start writing homework, how long to rest in between, how to arrange after writing, what time you must wash and sleep. Once you get used to it, it's easier to do.
Fifth, parents should maintain a good attitude. Parents' mentality is very important, to adjust their mentality, keep calm and calm, positive encouragement, must not be anxious, growth is not a moment, give the child some time, do not rush to criticize the child. To understand the child's inner thoughts, what problems have occurred, what causes them, and how to effectively solve them, parents must think calmly. If you don't find the reason, criticize him, which will have some negative effects on the child's psychology.
Many of the problems faced by children are universal, not unique to a child, as parents, we must observe more, to communicate, to understand the child's heart, find the cause of the problem, and face and solve it with the child, so that the child will live happier, confident and calm.