I have a question, which of my wife and I is my mother's biological child? Why do we husband and wife talk about each other, obviously my wife is unreasonable, my mother only scolds me, saying that I bully my daughter-in-law and have no ability? They were like mother and daughter, and I seemed to have picked them up.
Listening to the "complaint" of a male colleague, the surrounding colleagues, whether male or female, feel very envious, the female envy his mother is a good mother-in-law, and the male envy of the harmonious mother-in-law relationship in his family makes him less troublesome.
The new writer Gong Gaofeng wrote in "Father's BlackFish": "Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are natural enemies of each other, do not know how the Creator designed, a generation of mother-in-law and a generation of daughters-in-law, children and grandchildren are infinitely poor." ”
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along harmoniously and respect each other, then, home and everything is happy, there is a reasonable mother and a virtuous wife, and men have no worries, and they can focus more on their careers. If the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is sharp, and the man is dealing with things in the workplace, he has to fight the two women in the family, exhausted and unable to live in peace, how to adjust well and concentrate on work?
I have to say that the male colleague's mother is a wise old man who knows the way of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Tu Lei also once said: "Often a mother's true love for her son is that she loves his wife more, saying anything, saying problems, first counting down her own son, not counting her daughter-in-law."
As an in-laws, if you pull a biased frame and protect your son, your daughter-in-law will have the feeling of "they bully me as a person and treat me as an outsider", the contradiction will only intensify, your son has your protection, and the confidence to do bad things will become more arrogant.
"My husband goes out to play cards every day, and he doesn't go home at night, I complained to my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law smashed the mahjong table, and now, my husband's salary is under my control, and my mother-in-law stipulates the time for him to go home at the latest, so that he can share part of the housework, and my anger finally comes out."
Mentioning her husband Mr. Cui, Sister Hu held her breath in her stomach, fortunately, she has a reasonable and powerful mother-in-law.
01. Help me bring my baby to school and move back to live on my own, my mother-in-law is a person who knows how to understand me;
6 years ago, Sister Hu married Mr. Cui, in these 6 years, Sister Hu and her mother-in-law got along very well, almost never quarreled, only because the mother-in-law is a reasonable, loving, very measured old man.
When getting married, the mother-in-law gave a sum of money and bought a house for the son and daughter-in-law, although Sister Hu did not have a down payment, but the mother-in-law directly wrote the names of their husband and wife.
In the later stages of Sister Hu's pregnancy, she was taken care of by her mother-in-law, who looked up recipes on the Internet, consulted others, and changed her tricks to make nutritious meals for Sister Hu, so that Sister Hu could eat more.
Sister Hu gave birth to a daughter, and her mother-in-law liked her granddaughter very much, so she went to the temple to find someone to name her granddaughter. During Sister Hu's confinement period, the child does not need her to worry, she only needs to adjust her body with peace of mind.
"My mother-in-law is not old-fashioned and pedantic at all, I let her take care of her daughter, she listens to me, does not insist on her own opinions." She helped me bring my daughter to school age and moved back to the suburbs, saying she missed my father-in-law. Actually, I understood that my mother-in-law didn't want to bother me too much. ”
However, what makes Sister Hu feel a headache is that she has a good mother-in-law, but she has a husband who makes her very dissatisfied.
02. My husband goes out to play cards every day, does not return at night, loses a lot of money, I am angry and helpless;
Hu Dajie's husband, Mr. Cui, is one year older than Hu Dajie, with a monthly salary of 8,000, which is not low, but he has a bad habit, that is, he likes to play cards.
"Small bet pleasant, if he just goes to play a few games during the holidays, relax, I have no words, but every day after work, he has a field, do not go home to play cards, I do not answer the phone, send messages ignored, angry at me." 」
Moreover, the husband always forgot to bring the access control card, could not enter the unit door, he often rang the doorbell in the early hours of the morning, woke up Sister Hu, helped her open the door, for this reason, the daughter woke up several times, crying endlessly, and Sister Hu's sleep was also greatly affected.
After the husband paid his salary, he only paid 4,000 yuan as part of the mortgage and living expenses, and the rest of the money was left in his hands to play cards, often losing everything before the end of the month. Because he asked Sister Hu for money, her husband wrote an IOU, paid his salary and repaid it, and the money handed over to Sister Hu next month became less.
Sister Hu felt very angry, thinking that her husband's doing this seriously affected the quality of life of her and her daughter, but she had tried to analyze the pros and cons with her husband, and after less than a minute, her husband went out of his way to play the game and did not pay attention to Sister Hu at all.
Sister Hu couldn't bear it, quarreled with her husband, ignored her husband when she rang the doorbell in the middle of the night, and the contradiction between husband and wife intensified, but to no avail, and also affected the rest of the people downstairs, and was complained about.
"I thought of divorce, but I thought that my daughter was still young, so I couldn't bear it and complained to my mother. After my mother listened, she gave me an idea, in my mother's opinion, my mother-in-law is a reasonable person, it is impossible to ignore her son, so I held the last hope, went to my mother-in-law, and sued my husband. ”
03. Complain to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law pulled the father-in-law to smash the home of the person who pulled the husband to play cards, set 3 family rules, the husband is more honest;
After listening to the daughter-in-law's confession, the mother-in-law blamed Sister Hu for not speaking earlier, while letting Sister Hu find a way to figure out where her son would play mahjong at night.
Therefore, When her husband was taking a bath, Sister Hu unlocked her husband's mobile phone, looked through his contact information with those card friends, found the location, and told her mother-in-law.
"Old man, let's go, let's smash the yard."
The mother-in-law took her father-in-law to find her son, and when she saw her parents coming, Mr. Cui was very alarmed. Sister Hu's mother-in-law rewarded her son with several slaps, scolded Mr. Cui, and smashed anything when he got it, while scolding and smashing: "You hit once, I smash once, you have the ability to do something to your old wife." ”
Since this is not a regular mahjong hall, they belong to the crowd gambling, so no one dares to call the police. After that, Sister Hu's mother-in-law scolded Mr. Cui back home.
After smashing the place where her son played mahjong, when she returned home, her mother-in-law still scolded her son and asked her son to immediately hand over the money in his hand to Ms. Hu: "From now on, you have paid your salary, immediately transferred it to your daughter-in-law, not a penny is allowed to stay, let your daughter-in-law be responsible for giving you money, how much to spend, give me an account, I want to check." ”
The mother-in-law also set 3 family rules, first, from now on, Mr. Cui must go home within an hour after work, otherwise, just find a place to sleep outside, second, the family's economic power is handed over to Sister Hu, Mr. Cui wants money, he has to rely on performance to please his wife, third, doing housework is not a woman's obligation, Mr. Cui will share half of the housework in the future.
The son loves to play cards, Mr. Cui's mother used 3 moves to save her son's small family, and Sister Hu temporarily dispelled the idea of divorce: "My daughter is still young, give him another chance, if you dare to act recklessly again, I can really kick him." ”
04. If your son is not well disciplined, what can your daughter-in-law do?
Tu Lei also once said: "A good mother-in-law and a good father-in-law will never protect her son when her daughter-in-law and son quarrel, and a good husband will never protect her parents between her daughter-in-law and her parents." Marrying you is a kind of courage, giving you children requires a lot of courage, a man can't even tolerate his own woman, talk about what stands up to the world. ”
In real life, there is an unreasonable in-laws, called sons who do bad things, but scold their daughters-in-law for not being able to control men.
For example, in "Love in the Fallen City", Bai Liusu just began to marry Tang Yiyuan, a clumsy disciple, and not long after Tang Yiyuan got married, he exposed his nature and wandered to the major dance halls at night. In this regard, Tang Yiyuan's parents not only did not choose to scold their sons and strictly disciplined their sons, but instead scolded their daughter-in-law Bai Tassel, believing that Bai Tassel did not control men, and Tang Yiyuan had any problems, all of which were the mistakes of Bai Tassel.
The reason why a woman chooses to marry this man is because she believes that being with him can make her life better and better, and that she is looking for a husband who can give her happiness and security, not to be a mother to a man in his twenties and thirties and find trouble for himself.
Tolstoy once said: "All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths of education, comes down to example, to the integrity and perfection of the parents themselves." ”
If your son is not well disciplined, what can your daughter-in-law do? With your son's support, your daughter-in-law is like an outsider at home, how can you control a man?
Men are unreliable, in-laws are still short, beat a rake family, leave early, they are willing to degenerate, you are powerless to change.
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