"Please, as long as you promise to divorce me and let me go, I will definitely try my best to help you in the future."
Such a conversation, if it is seen by an uninformed person, will certainly be unclear.
Why would a man plead with his wife like this?
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The woman's name is Yang Nan, the pleading man's name is Zhang Hai, and their marriage is the most correct in the eyes of all people, the man is a university professor, and the woman is a female doctor.
Now, the husband Zhang Hai said to his wife Yang Nan:
You are so sick, you have spent all my savings, and you will have to spend more money in the future, it is a bottomless pit, I can no longer afford it, and I am so old now, what will I do in the future..."
In fact, this is also because of the illness of his wife Yang Nan, Yang Nan was diagnosed by the doctor as cirrhosis of the liver, and it is the middle and late stage of cirrhosis, that is to say, Yang Nan suffered from liver cancer that everyone talks about.
As time went on, her illness became more serious, she spent more and more money, and her once-happy family became in jeopardy because of the disease.
Zhang Hai is no longer as kind to his wife Yang Nan as he used to be, in fact, in the second year of Yang Nan's illness, Zhang Hai has already chosen to leave Yang Nan.
Every time Yang Nan calls zhang hai, Zhang Hai will find various reasons to hang up Yang Nan's phone, such as moving bricks with workers in the brick factory to make money, or making money in tutoring classes.
But who can tell if it's right or wrong?
Who can blame Zhang Hai? No one in this world is wrong, the only thing that is wrong is that there is no money, and the only thing that is wrong is the inability to face the disease.
The following are the hot comments of netizens:
There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and the flesh and bones of the parents are still like this, not to mention the relationship between husband and wife, five years of careful care and companionship is enough, it should be said that it is worthy of their conscience. If the female doctor is true love, she should take the initiative to give up.
This husband has done a very good job. I thought that the woman had no pattern, and the hope of changing the liver to survive was also very slim. Since this is the case, do not drag the two families into the water, calmly face the reality, but let the other party respect and endure.
For five years, caring for a terminally ill wife. Not to mention the huge financial burden, the desperate mental torture is even more unbearable. This husband has done a very good job. I believe that most of them will not last for five years. It's the same for everyone.
There is no harm without contrast. Our colleague knew before she got married that the woman was sick. Now it's basically wheelchair accessible. Cared for fifteen years. Remarks: Both sides are ordinary people.
Both sides choose to sacrifice others in sacrificing themselves and sacrificing others, it doesn't matter who is more moral. My high school classmate, who had terminal uremia, chose to remove his oxygen tube, and I would do the same for the sake of my family.
After five years of treatment, the money was spent, the spirit was tired, and the mood was broken, but the desire to survive was still strong. But reality has to say that you still have to face death, and changing your liver can't be done once and for all. Fu Biao could not be said to have no money, and he had not lived for two years after changing his liver.
Love is not possession, but giving, such love is too selfish, such love will suffocate a person! Loving him is hoping that he will be happy, he is unhappy, even painful, then love is meaningless! It's just that you're happy, is that called love?
Without the suffering of others, it cannot be casually evaluated. As a bystander, you must know that you must love your wife well and hurt your husband well now, because everyone has the end of life and will also experience life and death.
There is no right or wrong, both men and women have the requirement to pursue their own happiness, but one is to live and the other is to continue to have children. If the position of the two sides changes, what will happen to the attitude of the man and the woman, and what will happen in 5 years, this is life.
A sad story in the world made me more aware of the reality of the great tribulation. Life is your strong backing with parents, and it is difficult to say anything else.
I am a woman, I think the man took care of her for 5 years, enough is OK, if I have such a disease, I really give up treatment, 1 is that the family has no conditions and no money. 2 This is how it will drag my whole family down. 3 This disease cannot be cured, and I will be very miserable, so it is better to return to nature earlier. And I also have liver disease now, there is no cure, and it is better to leave some money for my children and my parents.
I understand boys because liver cancer has taken the lives of the child's uncle and uncle.
The family was ruined and did not remain. This is still in Beijing, with medical insurance has the best medical resources, neither boys nor girls should blame each other for selfishness, should not say that the other party does not love themselves, love is complete rather than the same end.
I am also a family member of a cancer patient, and my husband has been working with me for three years after taking medication after he fell ill, and he has always been very strong and never slept late because of illness.
On the contrary, I often asked him not to pay attention to so many things, not to take care of business, to have a little more time to rest and eat, but he did not listen, I bought the nutritional products to explain to the aunt to make him eat the pot of Chinese medicine to tell him to drink, but he was too strong often cold did not eat, two days before leaving to buy this thing that thing spent tens of thousands of unopened and then threw away.
I am a male stomach cancer patient, after the end of postoperative chemotherapy, voluntarily stopped all treatment, my idea is: human life has a long and short, do not add to the family blockage, two weeks after the operation of the lover normal work, I drive at home to buy vegetables, cook, clean, unswervingly reject the lover's proposed house sale targeted treatment, and repeatedly told my wife and parents, when one day my illness is transferred again or unconscious, do not treat, let me leave the world with dignity, do not make the decision to sell money and wealth!
You can't be too selfish, even if you are a patient, you should know that there are many taboos and customs on the first day of the New Year, the meaning is to make the future days auspicious, smooth sailing, you should not sleep until noon and lie in bed and play temper, of course, this is the last straw that overwhelms the camel! In the end, I still don't love!
1, the economic base determines the superstructure 2, any relationship needs to be continuously maintained by both parties, the woman's long-term illness is estimated to have long worn away the feelings, resulting in the woman's refusal to leave and the man's insistence on leaving are out of economic considerations and survival instincts. 3. Without the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good.
I really want to say two sentences, one is to love to the extreme is to give everything for the person you love, hope that the other party who loves is happy, the other is selfless love to let go of each other, all for their own interests do not tire others, love can not be strong and can not be tied, learn to let go and will let the other party stay, no children and no deep love foundation, I am afraid that stalking is meaningless.
Poverty and illness are the main causes of miserable life and the touchstone of human nature! You can't say that Zhang Hai is all wrong, nor can you say that Yang Nan is all right, even though she is weak!
In the hospital, I saw two fathers and daughters, the daughter was about sixty, and the old man was more than eighty. Walking on crutches was unsteady, and the daughter kept counting down her father. This is the most real situation: there will be no good temper, but it is still in charge of the elderly.
Whoever has a terminal illness is also difficult to endure! My beloved wife had malignant myeloma in 2017, and I accompanied her for 2 years, spent more than 400,000 yuan, and died in 19 years. Looking back on that experience, the difficulties of medical insurance, the high price of medical expenses in hospitals, relatives and friends are far away! It's a gray world!