In 1983, José flew to the teacher's house and saw the family portrait and she had a hunch: one of them must be her husband
In 1983, 20-year-old He Saifei went to the teacher's house for dinner, saw the teacher's 4 sons in the family portrait, and she had a premonition: she would definitely become the teacher's daughter-in-law. However, she did not know which of the four brothers she would marry.
Unexpectedly, He Saifei did marry the teacher's second son later. He Saifei sighed: Fate is really wonderful, I have loved this person in my life.
When he was 5 years old, Josefi's parents divorced, and his mother took her sister and sister and left her to her father. She will always remember that day, her mother took her to the photo studio, she was happy to be able to take pictures, but unexpectedly, her mother tucked her to her father and left without looking back.
Since then, Josefy and his father have been dependent on each other.
For the sake of his daughter, the father never remarried. Although her family was poor, her father insisted that she learn the three strings and had a skill.
In 1981, the Zhejiang Daishan Opera Troupe recruited actors, and He Saifei also wanted to apply for the examination, but the troupe only recruited those who could sing opera, not those who could play musical instruments. Her father tried his best to hire a Yue opera teacher for her, and After a year of hard training, He Saifei was finally admitted to the Daishan Yue Opera Troupe. This year, she was 19 years old.
The next year, He Saifei entered the Zhejiang Xiaobaihua Art Troupe and became a pillar in the troupe, with beautiful plays and more beautiful people. At that time, He Saifei had many suitors around her, but due to the influence of her original family, she always had no confidence in her feelings and did not dare to take the first step.
Once, He Saifei went to the troupe Teacher Huang's home for dinner, and saw the family portrait behind the mirror, it turned out that the teacher's family had 4 sons, all handsome and handsome.
Before this, He Saifei had never seen any of them, but she had an inexplicable strong premonition: I would definitely marry one of them and become the daughter-in-law of the teacher's family.
Unexpectedly, He Saifei's dream came true.
One day, He Saifei was washing clothes in the background, when he suddenly heard the girls next to him whispering: Look, this man is really handsome! As soon as José Looked up, he saw a tall, sunny and handsome boy approaching him.
"It's really like Guo Kaimin who played "Lushan Love.") Josefy couldn't help but marvel. Unexpectedly, this sentence was heard by the boy, and he smiled slightly at He Saifei, who instantly lowered his head shyly.
The partner next to him said to He Saifei, "Don't you know him?" Our son Yang Nan, Teacher Huang, heard that Teacher Huang was unwell and came back on special leave. ”
Since then, every time He Saifei went to the teacher's house, he would "meet" Yang Nan. Yang Nan didn't say much, but silently followed He Saifei's every move.
When the sisters competed to make dumplings, Yang Nan suddenly came over to help He Saifei take the hand. The two young people tacitly agreed, and a different kind of emotion suddenly emerged.
Soon after, Yang Nansai gave He Saifei a love letter, in which he wrote: "I love the sea, and I love the daughter of the sea even more." In this way, He Saifei completely opened his heart and came together with Yang Nan.
He Saifei said: "I was deceived by this sentence, I am a person born by the sea, seeing him write this, I was inexplicably moved." ”
However, the relationship was strongly opposed by Josefi's father. At that time, the father was suffering from cancer and was worried that his simple daughter would be as unhappy as his own.
When He Saifei brought Yang Nan home, his father was furious, threw all the greeting gifts that Yang Nan brought outside the door, scolded him with a split head and covered his face, and drove him out.
Yang Nan was not angry either, and would accompany He Saifei to the hospital to visit his father every few days. Every time José Flew upstairs, he waited downstairs to help José Fei buy food and take medicine.
Finally, Father He was impressed and agreed to the interaction between the two. Yang Nan promised: "Uncle, you can rest assured, He Saifei will always be your daughter, and our children will also be surnamed He in the future." Unfortunately, Father He did not survive until his daughter got married and had children and died.
In Chinese New Year's Eve 1988, 26-year-old He Saifei married Yang Nan, who was 6 years older than her, naked. There were no weddings, no new houses, even the quilts were old. After eating the reunion dinner, Yang Nan still had to go to the night shift, and He Saifei did not complain in the slightest, writing a big slogan at home: "Welcome Yang Nan", waiting for her husband to come home.
At that time, He Saifei's career was in the ascendancy period, and she was worried about affecting the development of her acting career, so she proposed not to have children for the time being, and Yang Nan agreed. It was not until the 10th year after marriage that the two welcomed their son Huwa. At this time, Yang Nan was 42 years old.
Today, the two have gone hand in hand for 33 years and are still as loving as ever. When He Saifei was filming outside, Yang Nan took care of his son at home and did a good job of supporting his wife.
Later, someone asked He Saifei, "At that time, you were also a famous character, married to Yang Nan, you didn't want anything, do you regret it?" ”
He Saifei replied frankly: "Where there is any regret, there is no need for these virtual things between me and Yang Nan, I think that the real husband and wife together do not rely on those external things, but on this kind of affection in the bones." ”
Recalling his childhood experience, He Saifei said frankly: "I think God is fair, my parents' marriage is unhappy, but let me have a relationship that has been together for 32 years, I once humbled myself without a complete home, and now my family is really happy." ”
Maybe this is true happiness, there is no vigorousness, only mutual froth.
He Saifei said: "In my life, I have talked about a love and loved this person, maybe others seem to be emotionally monotonous, but I think this is also a kind of luck that God has given me, so that I have not suffered from feelings in my life." ”
The injuries he suffered in his childhood and the shadow of his original family were finally healed and happy in the company of his husband.
In a way, the original family is a person's destiny.
The relationship between the individual and his family of origin will be the basis of all his subsequent social relations. And the psychological trauma that a person suffers in childhood will accompany him throughout his life.
Adler said: The lucky man is healed by childhood all his life; the unfortunate man heals his childhood all his life.
I hope that everyone can grow up in a happy childhood, no matter what you have encountered, you are now on the way to a brighter future.
The best love in life is probably like this: it begins at first sight and ends at the beginning.